Full of regrets............heartache and wanted to die Everyday

maybe,

not sure if u actually gave thought to wat i was writing above...

it's not the wrong or right here. and i agree with u... your faith helped u keep your end of the bargain. tat's just You. how abt the other 50%? Him? is it controlled and executed by faith alone? is it guaranteed by faith? it's your faith in something u Can't control. dun forget your marriage vows was controlled by your religious beliefs, other than just faith in them.

i put in 100% as a citizen, 100% as a student. the government or education system can still screw me right? they still makeup the 50% which i cannot control. in fact the education system worked crap for me... it made me worth less in society than i want to be. i want a 20k paycheck, but the diploma will only afford me a 5k paycheck after 5-6yrs. so do u think i continue to put faith in my diploma and keep trying to get a 20k paycheck using my diploma?

tat's the crux of the matter. tat's wat i'm saying. tat's the faith i'm talking abt... it's not faith in my abilities nor your faith in whether u can keep to your end of the bargain.

it's the faith in 3rd parties other than Yourself.

i threw away my faith in the diploma/education system - and i got the life tat i want. in fact i got better than tat. why dun u stop putting faith in something tat disappoints u time and again?

i look at u, i look at the pple around... our nation breeds pple who are overly dependent on 3rd parties to give them happiness. u have thousands still putting faith in their diplomas, degrees and watever to get ahead in life, when actually it's this blind faith tat drags them Behind in life instead.

u have women who put their faith in good-for-nothing men, bums, pple who hurt them time and again... and they hold on to tat freakin once of memory from 10yrs ago during the courtship period when the guy was still sweet. come'on, u mean it doesn't strike u that That Was THEN? that was The Past.

what is Faith?

it had Alot to do with Judgment, Honest-Assessment and Belief.

at this present moment, i see it tied-up with Hope. just plain Hope. and then u tell pple u are placing your Faith in this thing/person. when it's just Hope.

when Hope has no basis, it is known as Wishful-Thinking.
 


just to add - Faith has to do with The Present, not the Past. it has to be renewed, and requires renewal.
 
powder, i get your points on great memories U share with your classmates in the past...BUT its never a VOW made between 2 person - to live a lifetime together, May only death do us apart!!!

We didn't made VOW to spend our life with our classmates TILL OLD AGE!

I am going though a griveing period, which I keep telling myself to move on...

I have change my job this year, I learn new stuffs, made new results & goals, made new friends...but after settling down, the loss of my hubby keep coming back!!!!!!!!!

I am also tired of myself at many times, I still think of drying at times...As i told myself this griveing is sometime too much for me to bear

AND when can it stop.........
 
What is a Vow but just words...

I can do without a vow and still prove my love to you with my actions...

I can make a million vows to love and treasure you; but my actions prove otherwise...

What is a Vow but just words...
 
Miko,

do u realise u're clutching on to straws? so much so tat u pick out the word "Vow" to argue your point. Why do i say tat? becos a vow is only as good as the pple who made them, between 2 parties - tat means BOTH persons keeping to it. when one person breaks it, it is no longer a commonly held Vow. it's like a covenant, made by Two... One person alone does not form the equation. u're holding on to half a Vase and u;re standing there insisting on hold your half of the Vase becos u made a vow. the other person is long gone, and perhaps holding Vases with other girls... and even in this knowledge u're holding on to your half-vase.

what are u trying to prove, who are u trying to prove to? u may find it worthy, but living the rest of your life trying to prove this point is not only unnecessary, but it is also futile. at the end of your life, instead of saying that u have Live Life to the Fullest, Thru Trials and Tribulations, Highs and Lows... all u can say is, i have held up my end of the bargain.

perhaps Age will let some light into your life. til then, u're putting in too much to prove too little. your sense of values is Good, but misplaced.

i did not make a verbal vow with my classmates, main reason being - it was not legally required. but our bonds are unspoken and we have been thru relationships and marriages til now - our kids play together. It is stronger than your marriage and most marriages out there. i would deplete my bank account without question for them and their families.

your Vow is mandatory in our country to legalise your marriage, and is also required on religious grounds. it is a Requirement. it can be nullified and relinquished by law.

this is the reason why i say u're clutching on to straws... becos u take the very Requirement, insist it's a Vow, emphasize on "Vow" which most understand to be a promise that cannot be broken, and u just focus on how unbrokenable it is, and how Whole it should stay. Fact is - legally, it can be withdrawn. so it is not as unbroken-able as u think it is.

if u made a Vow to be best frens to the end with your gfren, and she betrays u, and she ends the frenship... trust me, u will not be holding on to That Vow. u will not be using the Vow as a reason to keep the frenship.

but u're using the word 'Vow' to hold on to a marriage that no longer is, simply becos u have nothing else to hold on to. u have run out of Reasons, so the last ditch effort is to use 'Vow'.

dying? then pls, make sure u give your eyes, kidney, liver, heart, limbs always before u do that. there are many pple standing at the side who dun mind being able to see beauty even in the face of hurt. who dun mind being able to touch and feel a person even if it means being ditched n hurt. who dun mind having a healthy heart even if they have to have their heart broken... Sometimes - living to feel pain and joy, highs n lows - is worth the hurt tat being in love can bring.

i have never discounted how heartbroken Any forummers could have felt. some forummers here have gone thru 1-2 abortions, with different bfrens, get their money cheated, their hearts broken... yet they still standup to face life, to live their lives...

u have a higher calling in life, u have another purpose for your life. what u're going thru now is meant to prepare u for that... to prepare u for someone better, someone who will walk with u to the end nomatter how much u stray or do wrong.

but this person will not meet u becos u decide to leave the world early. perhaps he may even live the rest of his life alone, becos u left the world before u can come into his life.

Think. Search yourself. Search your heart and Mind. stop searching a marriage that no longer exists.
 
powder...sincerely, Thank U

I keep searchING...like you said, but my heart & mind never can seem to move on, IT DID sometime then it bounce back again, move on then bounce back...IT IS like a SPELL, i keep having my hubby's in me...

It's a terrible feelings...

I heard and saw, couples realizing each other importance after seperation and even after divorce SOME did get back TOGETHER AND become even more loving and inseperable and cheries one aonther EVEN MORE...

I keep praying that MIRACLE will befall me!!!

BUT frankly I can said to myself only lately, never pray anymore CAUSE it's getting more&more unrealistic......

I also didnt said to anyone AS i know they will said WHY are you still false hoping...

I know what other is gg to say, that's why i never tell anyone...

BUT in my heart, I know I m still hoping............
 
hoping is fine, just let it not be the focal point, u get wat i mean? hope is always something u have as a Side, not as a Main.

it's like a ditched sickly mother whose son has migrated overseas with his family suddenly, and everyday she stares at the 4 walls hoping he'd return. she has been a wonderful mum, raising him from day 1 til he married at 27, migrated at 30. she looks back at the happy memories... his first step, how he piggybacked on her, how elated he was when she bought him his 1st bicycle, how they spent the entire day at east coast where he learnt how to ride! she thinks back on the day he graduated from uni and she attended his convocation... how proud she was as his mother. how her past 20yrs of sacrifice and work had been so fruitful...

is this mother not entitled to a better life? a loving son? a son who can take care of her til she passes on?

this is real, by the way... i hear these stories everyday when my mum retired and did volunteer work at the old folks home. until a point my mum was so affected tat i had to tell her to stop volunteering...

there's alot of Hoping for the newbies at the old folks' home cos things are fresh, reality might not have sunk in yet... whilst the older ones hold on to lost causes... But then, what more are they to hold on to? they have no youth nor energy to restart their lives... they are in their twilight years... they can't dress nicely, put on makeup and head to cineplex for a movie, nor hang around window shopping or have coffee at TCC.

How Lucky U Are... u have youth, u're in the prime... u can still meet men, make new frens... u can run, jog, swim, blade, wakeboard, hang around at borders and read books for hours. u can still attend barbecues, chalets, drink, pub, mingle and fall in love all over again...

Miko, why would u wanna hold on to Hope as a main dish, when u have Life as your Main?

u know, time is not gonna stop whilst u grieve, life is not gonna wait for u to live it. u need to snap out of this... dun live in the past when your future is staring at u in the face.

u lost a guy. i lost my father at 20. those old folks lost their children in their 60s-70s... who do u think has more right to stay home and sulk?

u dun have to kill your hopes, but let it stay in the small corner of your heart whilst u seek a fuller Life without tat hope for tat man.

dun let down your parents.
 
maybe, i dont agree with you. it's worst if she sees him. already miko is not able to give up her ex-husband emotionally. i feel she should not even hv contact with him until she is emotionally able to handle it. otherwise, her emotionals will be like a roller-coaster.

best is not to have ANY HOPE, ANY EXPECTATIONS. when you have no hope and no expectations, you will not be disappointed. and if something nice happens, take it as a bonus.

only TIME can heal all wounds.
 
"I heard and saw, couples realizing each other importance after seperation and even after divorce SOME did get back TOGETHER AND become even more loving and inseperable and cheries one aonther EVEN MORE... "
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Not always true. I feel that u are trying to psycho urself to believe the statement in hope that 'he' will come back. This hope is not helpful at all. I guess we can only hoped that ur deadline of CNY 2009 is ur final one!!! Take care!
 
Latino.. i kno.. but she's unable to let go... and if she really wants him back, i feel sms no use..should take action.

But is he's already seeing someone else and has moved on with his life, then i guess she should give up.
 
maybe maybe, the action you are suggesting is that miko ask her ex-husband out? meet up and hopefully seeing her sincerity, he will be moved and reconcile with her??

miko mentioned in her post yesterday at 1:43 pm:
"I am still coping... after 2 years seperation with my hubby, i still SMS and write letter to him to beg for a reconciliation ...and after that 1 years of " I am sorry "...always that sentence - i heard from him...NO OTHERS... I am still writing till Today...BUT he has not reply to me for the recent 1 year already! "

young lady, you are only asking miko to hit her head agst the wall !! she has done all she could to reconcile.

it does not matter whether her husband is seeing anyone or not. the fact is, he NO LONGER has any feelings for her. no amount of begging will bring the person back.

miko, pls focus on powder's posts and move on after your dateline. dont waste your youth on wishful thinking ok.

whenever i read your posts, i really feel like shaking you up. but then again, everyone's recovery is different...some slower, some faster. and i hope you get out of this mode soon. life is worth living.

have you read the papers about gerard ee and billy (radio presenter) recently? they want to live their lives to the fullness inspite of their illness by remaining positive always. yet you are healthy here but cant overcome life's obstacles and want to commit suicide. many ppl are worst off than us. some dont even have enough to eat nor a home over their head or means for medical care etc. consider yourself lucky.

you know, whenever i feel down, i would write down my thots and reflect on them. then i recall all the things i have been blessed with (not the things I dont hv) and i remember how fortunate i am compared to many others.

hope you will kick yourself out of this rut soon. life is worth living and we only live once !!
 
maybe,

pls be more responsible when u wanna throw 'maybe' scenarios. thinks specifically to the individual including the history, if available. (deleted my initial post)
 
Dear powder,
i'm not asking her to keep on pining. None of us knows the actual situation she is facing and i've said, if he's really moved on, then she should get on with her own life too.

I am not a 100% happi person. But regarding my marriage, i have made a decision and has moved on. You may be a "deep" person; but not everyone is as strong as u are or u expect them to be.. just cos i am not a 100% happi person doesnt mean i am a lesser being and cant share my thoughts... this is a forum. I agree with many of the things u have said.. but i am not one of those who simply clings on to hope and faith and then just shut myself out. I am aware of who i am - just that sometimes, when people are in dire straits, they cant think clearly. That does not stereotype me to be a person who wallows in self-pity and leaves everything to fate. Though i may have failed in my marriage, but there are many aspects in life which I am happi and satisfied with.
I believe that one can be happy with/ without being married. It's just a mindset of living.
 
i'm not being judgemental and not here to create any havoc. And certainly, as a woman, i am not asking her to bang herself against the wall by continuingly pining against her EX HB.

what i meant is that she has been suffering the the past 2 years and writing letters etc etc... obviously it's not working on him and also she cant let go. I dun kno why..it's not working on him..cos it's not mentioned. BUt what i meant is what she has been doing is NOT effective and very 1 sided. Either she talks directly to him and he tells her he doesnt want to reconcile (so that she may move on) or she moves on on her own accord.
I am not asking her to just pray and hope and sit back and whine everyday...it's not what i do and i certainly dun want anyone to do that. But we are all of different characters and the fact that Miko can be in the same situation for 2 years..(to me it's a very very long time to be in depression).. signifies that the guy has to end if F2F with her... cos it's useless that she continues to sms and write letters... it's like 1 sided love and sometimes 1 sided love can drag on for many years.
 
click on 'search', type in 'miko2006(miko2006)' and search based on 'author'.

anyway, say more if u wanna say something. not something open-ended with maybe. above for u to do some homework. some forumers have gone thru a historical process. it's better for us to dig on tat to know where they're coming from...
 
Q: What Have U Done in Your Life, For Your Life?

A: I waited and hoped, I lived for Maybes, I place my Faith in God that things will work out...


Hugs... Unconditional Empathy... Irresponsibly giving false hopes... Thoughtless-process... Saying popular words of advice...

i hope pple's lives can improve from tat. else, it's just a working of Pride... needless, useless, worthless pride.
 
I'm a little confused...

Does not the fact that miko's husband has been IGNORING her over the past 2 years says anything about his willingness to patch up with her?

I mean...how concrete a signal does it have to be?

Why the need for miko to "take action" and force a meeting?...which in my opinion....is going to end up BADLY for both parties...and will only deepen the mental torture that miko is currently sinking deeper and deeper into?

She should just jolly well wake up and move on!

To be honest, I'm starting to lose a bit of my patience at her dramatic antics...
 
powder,
if ur last post is targeted at me.
i wish to emphasize that i am not 1 to hug on to faith and hope alone and kick back and wait for things to happen. Not in my marriage and certainly not in my life.

U may be someone who has many valuable experiences to share; but i feel that words such as "useless" and "worthless" should not come from a benevolent person who wish to help people.
I do not know if my words/ or perhaps mis-use of words or even a simple nickname has aggravated u to such an extend. I am truly apologetic if I had.
Perhaps it's my fault as a new member that i did not make it my priority to study each and everyone's historical data b4 i post; but if i am wrong, please pt out to me... and i will accept. I see no need to overtly attack/ put-down a person/forumer just cos their string of thoughts or ideas does not match those of the popular few.
 
from any person's pt of view.. it's clear and without dispute that miko should move on with her life.. cos she has spent years "marching on e spot". i have ended my "suffering" and certainly do not wish that she "bangs" herself against the wall.
I havemt had the opportunity to "study" or "scrutinise" her data or anyone else's for that matter.. and i guess.. cos of that, i might be deemed unfit to post/ comment further.

lastly, i do not wish anyone ill, but i believe a forum "Matters of the heart" is a place where people come to share their problems w/o revealing too much of themselves. Perhaps we can perk up his/her life by dealing them a little "sweet" or "kindness" rather than putting people down.
 
Maybe, As a new forumer, I would like to tell you just abit more that there's a gang of regulars ( I mean a group of individuals that shared similar opinions in life that happen to park in C thread/S thread). When a leader post something then the other followers will come in.

long live!!!
 
Maybe...
You're a little ironic in your post...

For people who had spent years "marching on the spot"...it's these little "sweet" and "kindness" comments that CHAINS them there on that spot...
They REFUSES to move on cos you nice people keep encouraging her to try this try that to salvage an impossible situation...To them, your "sweet" and "kind" comments are like little straws thrown out to them when they're drowning and yet they choose to grab at them...instead of trying hard to swim over to that life buoy located 10 meters away and save their life...

Take a good look at her posts again...
Does that sounds like a rational person to you? Or does it strike you as an emotional woman who is still stubbornly refusing to move on...and yet there the nice people are...trying to encourage her to be stuck in that emotional turmoil...

I'm not trying to blast you for being nice; I think it's a sweet gesture...It's just that it's NOT APPROPIATE in this situation...It's moving on that she needs to do now; NOT trying to salvage back an impossible relationship...
 
Ooooohhh...

Look who's back?
The CHICKEN-in-a-biscuit...

Well...if it's chatters thread and singles thread say so lah...
Pretend so much for what...oh yah, forgot...I'm talking to someone who's talking behind a newly created nick and pretending to be someone else...

Pretending is something you're good at...

Are you coming back for more damages to your credibility? or what's left of it?

Why don't you go create another thread and talk to yourself again? I heard that it's been deleted for being TOO STUPID...
I'm pretty sure you can outdo yourself this time round. I'm betting that it'll get deleted by the moderator in 2 days...
 
Seriously...

People nowadays are just so sensitive that they termed words like needless, worthless as being hurting to them?

Come on, you have to be kidding me rite?

How much more politically correct do people need to be in this world? It's getting more and more ridiculous that people nowadays are weakening to such a fragile state of mind that words like "worthless" and "useless" are deemed as too harsh...

Will we reach a time where we can't call a spade a spade anymore?


PS : Maybe, I'm not trying to be an arse to you...I'm just voicing my concerns about people in general nowadays...You people seriously need to grow up a little...If words like these can hurt you in the cyber world and make you feel threatened...How are you going to face the REAL WORLD out there?

SSC aka Papa aka cute biscuit aka coward, don't bother replying to this post. I don't give a shit to what you have to say...
 
I am also separated with my hubby and he has stop contacting me for the past few months. All his things still in the house and he just said wanted to have break. But I did not just sit at home and hope that he will come back one day. I believe I have to move on with life as times will heal my pains and wound. If we just dwell on the past and pain, we will never allow ourselves to move forwards and out of the hole where we have been hiding inside. So get yourselves out of the hole to see the world is still beautiful and there are many other things waiting for you.
 
maybe,

u should read my posts like u're reading a self-help book. alot of it is rhetorical and targetted at a person's mind, a person's thoughts. it's more for reflection and pondering... at the end, whatever answers derived - no credit will be due to me, but credit to the reader for exploring the hidden crevices which i normally like to point out.

when i type and post in such threads, i'm normally sharing my thoughts. seldom telling a person what to do... i dun dictate actions, i dictate the mindset, and share some approach.

dun take my posts too personally... i'm surprised u're offended by tat post. it was rather generic, and aimed at something i've always tried to eradicate - blind empathy. that knee-jerk reaction to hug another womanfolk simply becos she's having problems. it was helpful 2yrs ago, it was helpful 1yr ago, but do u realise tat Nothing has actually progressed for 2yrs?

this is Realtime. the 2yrs have come and gone. it represents LIFE. real LIFE. 730days, 104weeks, 17,520hours GONE BY... in a state of nothingness and misery. Do u FEEL IT? DO U?

Can u at least try to dig deep into your heart and emotions... and FEEL IT?

Life passes, Time passes. they will continue to pass and u will continue to age.

maybe - DO YOU FEEL IT?
 
maybe,

just one thing to take note - when cute biscuits are on your side. it usually indicates that u're in line with the blind-empathizers.

notice they have nothing to add, nothing worthy to the cause of living your life, nothing worthy to the cause of solving your problems. in fact u dun even feel like they care for u...

they're normally just in here for their own agenda. nothing else... I believe most will have enough maturity of mind to see thru the facade.

facade = lie = dishonesty = calling oneself a new forummer when one isn't. pretending to be new, whilst seemingly knowing me for a long time... shows very much the character. some things no need to point out until very obvious...
 
laundry, tks for pointing tat out. cos honestly, benevolent is definitely not the word to describe me, i agree.
 
cute biscuits,

i hope one day u'll realise tat u're not only disrespecting yourself, but losing your identity. if pple not knowing your identity allows u to act in such a manner, then u know deep inside tat u're incapable of goodness if left alone. u will steal when pple are not looking, stab when others are not aware.

tat's sad enough for u, cos u won't be able to face the mirror at one point of your life... take care.
 
powderful, i'm not affected by those words.. i know being too emphatic can actually cause more harm than good. i also don't know cute biscuits. i just feel that since this is a forum for open discussion, no one should get excessively attacked or belittled for voicing out.

powder , i understand your pt of view. i'm not someone to dwell too long over an issue. i've since moved on with my life. but i do really emphatize w miko. perhaps i do not know her as well as you have over e years to suggest e course of actions. time and tide waits for no one ,be it man or woman, my pt here is simply. .miko is no naive young gal, she would have moved on long ago if she was able to. but whatever she has been doing is obviously not effective, so perhaps she should try an alternate set of suggestions. by saying so, i don't mean what i said is right. . cos again. i did not read up on her previous posts like you have. i joined a this forum or any other forum with e same purpose as anyone. . to share and to learn different opinions. . hopefully in a friendly and conducive environment.
 
Maybe, an alternative for Miko would be to accept her situation with grace and move on. Come to think of it, it is not just an alternative but the only path left for her. Many a solution lies in a change of the mindset.
 
Maybe...

I'm not sure what you meant by being "excessively attacked" or "belittled"...

I've gone through the earlier posts and, to me, it seems ok to me...I don't really sense any hostility...There could have been some emotionally charged words; but being excessively attacked and belittled??? Are you kidding me?

Back to what I have said earlier...Why are you so fragile emotionally that you took these words and interpret them to be something much much worse than it actually mean? powder didn't call you worthless or useless...but you seems to misinterpret it and see it as a personal attack on you...I wonder why?

Seriously...you people keep harping on wanting to share and learn different opinions...I beg to differ...
You are here to post; but you're not receptive to the "sharing" and "learning" part...
You AVOID different opinions and you gets all disturbed and shrink from mounting a proper defence of your stance when people starts to turn up the heat and THEN you starts those accusations on us attacking you and belittling you when you couldnt stand the heat? where's the sharing and learning? Did you even attempt to do that?

If you strongly believe in your opinions; then stay and debate with us on your views...Don't go cry wolf and accuse us wrongly of verbally abusing you when we're not....

Not understanding the background is hardly an excuse...How different are you from that SSC, Papa, cute biscuit when you just wander in; post a comment on a situation which you are unaware of; and then gets all offended at being "corrected" by people who understand better....

Seriously, WTS...are we being biased against here for being correct and understanding the situation better? Or are we being biased against because you couldn't agree with us and you couldn't defend your views?

If you still feel offended over my remarks as being excessively abusive or belittling...

I apologise.

Let's move on.
 
To Powderful,
Stop assuming i am SSC or cute biscuit!!! Don't act as if you are knowledgeable when you are not! In the first place, did i offend u? You are not the thread starter here, everyone has the right to post, it is not your bloody kingdom, so if anyone want to say anything, its none of your bloody business. Neither do i give a shit in what you have to say, because you just seem to be the most disgusting person i ever seen!!! Pest off!
 
maybe,

perhaps u referring to my initial post before i edited it. since u already feel it's harsh, i shall post it back up...

Posted by powder (powder) on Thursday, November 13, 2008 - 3:26 pm:

maybe,

i think i know where u got your nick. seriously, dun u think your 'maybe' is also a strong hope? if u didn't realise it.

this is one of the reasons why i sometimes feel so disheartened to post... there's always the few of u who just wanna pull pple back down to the pits with your Maybes and What Ifs. u really should go much further into the history and learn abt the person u're advising...

u're like those pple who constantly say i'm harsh. but when i post something tat reaches deep into a person's heart and mind, there'll always be pple like yourself who just throw irresponsibly-thought words. Yes - Irresponsible.

have u even bothered to consider wat i've shared with u? u can't even face your own problems with Honesty, just leaving things to fate and faith and hope. and here u are trying to ask others to do the same.

u bet i'm being harsh. after such a long time, u can still say that maybe her actions can move him??? WTF??? this is the kind of life u choose. dun make others choose to stay in the same hole.

it's really disheartening to see how some of u so stubbornly keep to your thoughts, and ask for opinions only to keep sticking stubbornly to your thoughts... the acid-test is - are u Happy? if u can't even be Happy, how would u qualify to tell others how to be happy? i dun mean to be harsh, but i sometimes have the kill the BS stuff some of u come up with, becos it just drags more pple down...

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the word is Chastise. i am Chastising u...
 
Please look through all my posts, did i criticize you in any of my thread before? I don't think so. I seriously don't understand why you kept mentioning in several of your posts that i am SSC or cute biscuit? Just because several newbies started registering their nick on the same day? So no one should register their nick on the same date as cute biscuit and SSC, so as to prevent people from thinking we are the same person? Please respect every person's right to post. How would you feel if people go around telling others that u are a replica? Please grow up!!!!
 
Empathy isn't something u give out freely like free-M&Ms and hope everyone receives it and is happy. after u give out, u walk on and u give to more pple...

it does not make u a wonderful person.

u didn't check if the pple u're giving to have diabetes, have tooth decay or isn't able to take your M&Ms without harm.

everyone around u thinks u're such a nice person. u walk on, totally oblivious to the harm u may have caused... u feel good. u dun know...

someone points out what u dun know. u feel angry.
 
pls go thru my previous posts, i already acknowledged that the previous advise(s) that i have dealt out may be wrong... i never claimed that i was 100% right in the first place. I dun kn why u guys are going round and round to justify ur self-righteousness.

I am not a "wonderful" person nor a 100% happi person all the time. I am sure no one here is; nor do i feel angry for what u guys have said.. cos to me.. this is simply a online forum where everyone has the right to post.. it's not a personal website that someone sets up to be "hailed".

I am not affected by ur words and will not bring myself to the bridge just cos of that!
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cos nuthing here affects my real life and i do not earn a living out of this forum .. but i do feel that since it's an open forum, words like WTF and WTS etc etc might not be that suitable. Sure... u can post what u like.. so can anyone else.. BUT... very often it's not what we say that matters,but how we say it, or rather, how we put the message across.
 
Hi doll, your advise on -

" Change of the mindset " – Is it Everyday, I should conditioning myself that - IT IS already OVER – no need to ask - WHY didn’t we do this or that at that point?….beautiful memories are just there to keep only…..And MOVE ON

1 consolation I have for myself is, I didn’t really waste my 2 years of just waiting….

I change to a MUCH challenging job this year, and made some good results and have NEW goals on it…met some nice & fun colleges and a encouraging new boss.
BUT as i move to this new area, I said earlier, my hubby’s always seem to be in me!!!

Every now and then, I really wish to share all my changes and happiness and achievement with him….So in the end, I can’t stop myself to still write and SMS him.

AND I still keep in touch with my in laws….I think it will be on going with them
As they are staying on their own, old and lonely ….my hubby is their only son BUT he is staying on his own now

I will tried hard AS I said earlier to push myself for a new beginning Everyday

I promise to treat and love myself well.
 
maybe,

so u run out of reasoning and decided to hit on the harsh language? WTF and WTS are DAILY languages (i didn't even write out the full sentence out of respect). just like fcuk, fcuking, dammit, no-sh!t etc which are used to emphasize certain flavours. it's not rude... why can't i be fcuking happy? and if i am, i can tell my wife "i'm fcuking happy!"

u still wanna go, "eeeee... he say bad word"??? and then keep saying "he say bad word, he say bad word"...

u feel it's not suitable by whose standards? i also feel all the niceties and politically correct words, blind encouragements, blind empathy in a forum with REAL problems isn't suitable. in fact i think it fcuks pple's lives up even more.

u still wanna play with words or are u keen on Content? All that some of u pple do is just play on presentation, and think that a nicely wrapped BAD ADVICE is the way to go. and u keep emphasizing on the wonderful beautiful wrapping paper. It's no wonder u're having problems... cos u're Shallow. should i be nice and tell u "u're not as deep"? NO - i tell u "u're Shallow".

and pls dun follow up with that by using the Universal defensive crap thing abt "everyone entitled to their opinions" or "different views". That is true most times, but not this time. it's a shallow person's way of justifying Bad Advice.

this sums it up. from your own words - "BUT... very often it's not what we say that matters,but how we say it, or rather, how we put the message across."

very Irresponsible. u're insisting on wrapping paper over content. even scarier is tat u nonchalantly say that. i doubt u have even bothered to read on the historicals til now. That itself shows how bothered u are, and u insist on being heard... seriously - WTF?

ps: kinda contradicting tat u ask me to go thru your posts like u've said something reeaally vital which i've missed out. when u blatantly admit to not bothering to go thru other pple's posts... Credibility in Question. thank u very much.
 
Maybe...

I'm sorry...I need to take back my apology extended earlier to you...

It's obvious we are living in different worlds...I don't think it's possible for us to agree on anything based on the mentality that you have displayed so far...You simply chose to skip and hop around important issues and chose to nit-pick on the irrelevant issues instead...

I agreed with powder that it's scary that people like you exists...

You're right when you said I'm filled with angst...guess why? It's because of people like you...
 
Papa (or whoever you might be...SSC, cute biscuit or whatever)...

It should be PISS OFF!!!
Stop using pest off when you meant PISS OFF!!! Is your English bad or are you just a hypocrite! Mean what you say!!! And don't try to pretend to be nice when you're not!

And oh...

My response to you?

FCUK OFF!
I mean those words in the rudest, meanest possible kind of way...and not as a figure of speech...
People like you disgust me...

You're not worth spending time on...
Good bye and good riddance...
 
Latino, HBH...

Oh...I deal with you idiots when we meet up again! I got an elephant memory...

Watch out!
Apparently I'm evil...You 2 should be trembling at the mere thoughts of the nasty nasty bad excessively violent and verbal bashing words that I'm going to say to you!

How you 2 must hurt badly when I say...useless, worthless, shit, fcuk, WTS, WTF...
Scare or not?
 


i think you are the only one who have serious problem with your english! This is a forum, not a F*cking school, i don need you to give me a f*cking tuition here for my english. Pest off? Oh, it is only for a person like you becos u are just like a pest to me.. By the way, i am not pretending, neither am i nice to you, because i don owe u a f*cking living! So if u are pissed, den go w*nk yourself. Oh, i think i am wasting my time talking to junk like you.
 
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