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Hi Blossom,

Congrats! Guess you must have enjoyed yourself! Since you have alrady gone thru the customary, mind if I ask u for some advice on some of those usual practices?

U noe those 'jie meis' who help out at our wedding rite? Are we supposed to give them ang pows at the end of it? Then do they still give us ang pows at the dinner? Need to know all this cos I'm trying to cut down on our losses as my hubby is paying for everyting. His parents not helping at all.
 


Hi woofee,

I'm v much like you. We only saw 1 wedding studio and 1 hotel (altho i did get faxed quotes fr a few..we only went down to see 1) We're v chin chye too.

Yes u still have to give ure Jie meis ang pows..its more a token sum to show your appreciation for their help. And yes they still give u ang pows for the dinner. My mom helped me co-ordinate for my side and she gave out the ang pows in the morning.
 
hi woofee,
thanks!
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yes, like what alhana said, the jiemei will still give u ang pow for the dinner. for my case, my hubby gave them the ang pow when they open the door for him and my mom also gave the jiemei ang pow.
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Thanks gals, for the advice! But what is the 'mkt rate' for the ang pows huh? And how many jiemeis did u have, Blossom?

Actually I'm not exactly looking forward to the wedding u noe. Cos I can foresee alot of problems surfacing one by one. U noe juz recently I had a big quarrel with him over the food tasting issue. We had already decided on getting his dad and my dad to go for food tasting together but just last week, his dad suddenly told him that traditionally, the bride's family not supposed to go for food tasting. He said it's becos the groom's family is the host and the family's name would be at stake! What crap rite!

His dad & mom damn one kind. And u noe what I told my hubby? I said traditionally, the groom's side is supposed to pay for everything related to the wedding. And why am I also sharing the expenses now? I really really can't stand his parents who are forever creating trouble. In fact during my ROM day itself, the situation was so tense cos his parents and my parents were not talking. So now the thought of the wedding really scares me
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Hi all

I was just see see look look ard when I saw this thread looking for SACians. Count me in & i'm also from CCPS.

Yeah i do really missed those yummy food sold in the canteen....

Can any1 tell me how can i take a look at bluechin's nice pics???
 
hi woofee,
i have 4 jiemeis, including my own sis. i dunno the mkt rate for ang pow but i did ask around and the figure ranges from $8 to $20 (as long as even figure) depending on how generous u are.
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huh, how can ur in-laws be like that? nowadays, where got such traditions? in fact, there is no clear distinction on who is the host. no doubt the wedding cards are printed to indicate that in-laws are the host but it is usually the couple who pick up the tab.
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sigh! maybe they choose the part of the tradition that is beneficial to them. for my case, my parents know that my in-laws are not paying for the banquet. so they gave us the pin4 jin1 that my in-laws gave them.
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my parents were rather puzzled why my in-laws were not paying at all but i cant possibly tell my in-laws to pay rite? sigh!
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Hi Blossom,

Many times I juz tell myself not to bother abt them. Luckily I oso won't be staying with them after my wedding. But still have to tahan them for a couple of mths cos my place won't b ready so soon. Just praying for the best lor....
 
Hi woofee,

Yup, think the ang pow rate shld be ard $8-$20.

Gosh, how can ure in-laws say tt ure parents can't join in the food tasting? Since ure becoming 1 family now, shouldn't everyone try to at least meet up and get to know one another? I think its v awkward when both sides can't get along. What happened at the ROM?
 
hi woofee,
actually, my in-laws did help us in other ways so even though they din pay for the wedding dinner, i dun view it as a major issue.
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but i always feel my hubby and i are the ones caught in the middle if our parents claim what should be done by the opposite party.
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well, nowadays the customs of different dialects are so mixed up. dun even know what is the correct customs to follow. we just try to make both side happy loh.
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my in-laws are quite nice ppl but i still feel it's better not to stay together. luckily, their hse is too small to accomodate me so we have the rite reason to get our own home although my hubby is their only son.
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hi el,
do u have in mind where to go for outdoor shoot? actually, i think outdoor photos are more natural. indoor shoots are likely to be more stiff.
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hi Blossom,

I have no idea where to go leh. Got any suggestions?

How about letting us see your photos?
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so that we can have an idea of where to go and also to see how you look like.
 
hi el,
i wanted to have sea, greenery and tall bldgs so i went to marina bay. but i din get to go into the sea water, maybe u can try beaches. saw some pics of couples playing with water.... looks very fun and natural.
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u want to see my pics? but mine is typical posing type. may not be what u want lah....
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hi Blossom,

I want to see. Never mind whether posing type of non posing type. I want to see every types! Me very kpo lah... everybody's photos i also want to see.
 
hi bluechin,
i liked this teacher, Mrs Wu. But she retired even b4 i left ccps so i'm not too sure if you know her. was my form teacher in pri 1.

another is one chinese teacher. can't remember her name... always said we sucked her blood. cos we were very noisy... so we called ourselves the mosquitoes... hee hee...
 
Hi EL,

saw your earlier posting to know that you are from SJAB AHS?
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Me from SJAB, but TMS...dunno if you still remember
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Our schools used to be rivals *haha*
 
Hi Hong,

Which year were you in? Maybe I've seen you before? Rivals? Don't remember leh.
 
hi gals,
wow...so many postings!
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woofee, i oso heard it's ard that range for the jiemei's ang pows. it's up to u .... so if ur jiemeis help u a lot, may want to give more. huh?? y ur in-laws still draw the line so clearly & somemore, only in things that they want to!!? r they paying for the banquet? is dat y they say such thing? in my case, me & hubby paying for banquet so if my in-laws were to say my family cannot go for food-tasting, i will definitely blast my hubby's ears off!!

EL, me oso quite "fan" over where to go for PS. still haven't decide! Alhana, where did u go for PS huh?
 
bluechin,
never mind.. hee hee...
mrs ee yes yes. she's my form teacher in pri 5... very nice lady... one of the nicest teacher i had...

miss kwok... not too much impression.. hee hee..

read from another thread on your stresses. don't worry ya.. your husband looks like a very caring husband and I'm sure you know he is... as for PIL, u r not alone. mine "troubles" is with my future FIL. so cheer up and be merry for you are beautiful in His eyes! [and of course, your wedding's near]

p/s: sorry for so lor soh...
 
Hi pixie,

I didn't do outdoor shoots..so can't advise leh :P Depends on what kind of background you'd like..natural? City setting? monuments? s'pore landmarks? seaside? tourist attractions?
 
cherubies,
Yah.... she's a really a nice lady. I actually went back to teach in CCPS years back. She was the most helpful teacher around. While some teachers which i thought were nice as well turned out to be hypocrites <FONT COLOR="119911">(so disappointing!!!)</FONT> Mrs Ee retired when i was teaching there, i also attended her son's wedding.
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u r not loh soh..... dun worry!
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Appreciate your concern. i guess everyone has their own set of problems and it's a matter of whether we wanna be bug down by them or be more optimistic about it.

Yah, at least i'm grateful for having a wonderful hubby.
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Hope your relationship with your fil will also be a good one.
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I'm counting down to my wedding..... 8 more days..... scary and excited!
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Hi pixie,

How about going to sentosa? You can have sun, sea, land, buildings, grass etc.... nearly everything.
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very busy in the office... so surf the web at nite at this time lor...

Seiko, u r having holidays now? shiok xia! me still got to work late in the office.
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hi seiko &amp; jojok!

aiyah, saw nobody here so din come in lor...

busy last nite helping a remisier fren fix her broadband connection..... wow, balmoral park condo quite nice leh..... normally help her out then she treat dinner @ tanglin club
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but me not rich miss, just poor man's daughter.... hee hee....

seiko, r u a teacher?? heard from my bridal shop that teachers normally take their PS during school hols.
 
hi Blossom,
raining cats &amp; dogs now ... so "ta bao" lunch back to office. boring to eat in!

hve been qte busy at work....qte stressed to c so many things waiting for me to clear!!

EL / Alhana, i prefer natural surroundings or seaside. yah, i did consider sentosa....haven't ask hubby - he asked me once why every couple seem to want to have sea in their outdoor photos and why everyone goes to sentosa. hei hei, he din noe his wife oso thinking of going there! hmmm...he like not keen to go there...
 
Wenn,

Yup u got that rite! considering having my PS in June. Will prob meet up wif my designer 2 discuss the Gowns in March.

ive got plenty of time more *hee*

Been to Tanglin club once 4 dinner. That place very exclusive ya? H/E quality of food so- so only.
 
Seiko,
Finally u r in!!!
Now waiting for vendors to come for meeting,, so browsing around in SB forum.

Understand from designer that my PS would be in july. but will be choosing gowns after CNY. but i choped 1 OTR bustier gown 1st in case can't find any during the selection. FH said he liked the bustier gown cos i looked sexy in it coz my shoulders exposed mah....
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just handed french affair CD to FH to listen. told him to go thru the lyrics of certain songs I like. according to him, some of the songs inside are breakup songs.... hee hee.... now need some1 to go thru luis miguel's romances album cos i quite like a few of the songs in it....
 
Jojok,
Yup, me in IT. Doing systems integration/db admin/carry-mountain-carry-sea for a stockbroking house.

Wat about u?
 
hello bluechin

sorry for the late reply...i've not gone online for so many days...well no internet access @ wk &amp; too bz to go online @ home.

i've saw ur pics...so pretty...very compatible couple...remind me of 'golden boy &amp; jade girl'..

i was trying to see if i could recognise who u r &amp; if u were one of my ex-classmate but sad to say, i could not figure it out...*sob sob*

well, this is the story of my nick : i simply put rain + chilla (fm the cute pet chinchilla) which i both love together! hee hee so clever hor

wow a big CONGRATULATIONS to our beautiful bluechin...just 7 more days...wishing you &amp; hubby everlasting love &amp; happiness...enjoy the last few days of ur 'singlehood'

think i even more lor soh than cherubies...better stop &amp; go take dinner now...take care &amp; i'll try to come in more often...
 
Hi pixie,

Then what wld ure hubby prefer? Perhaps he sees too many similar settings and wants something different? I think its fun to do something tt's out of the ordinary..or else ure photos will end up looking like those of other couples. Sigh..if i had $ i wld probably do it in Prague or some old european city. I saw a wedding party at the Palace of Holyrood House in Scotland when I was last there...so lovely &amp; dreamy.

Hey, if $/time etc were no object, how wld u gals plan ure dream wedding?


Think I'd like mine in an ancient castle!
 
I'm backkkkkkk!

today i KLKK non-stop. so tiring man. This wk is really hectic but next wk i go yang kaki already!
but still got to return to sch 2 clear up some admin stuff.

Wenn, u carry mountain carry sea for company. My table is always 'book mountain book sea'( mandarin). I heard this
fr a colleague who visited a frd in hospital. In the next bed, they suddenly heard a patient shout, " don't worry ! I will wake up now to mark yr books! I will teach you until u understand! "
At this time, a doc walked in. He claims that he
sees lots of mental patients who r teachers &amp; that man was 1 of them. GOSH, hope i dun end up like that! *touchwood*

Wow, you've already reserved a gown? i haven't paid my bridal studio a visit yet. Lets say i reserve a otr gown, but my wedding is mths away.
If another bride wants that gown but her wedding is nearer than mine, what will happen to the gown? Will she get to wear it 1st? Eeeeks! I hope not!

Yo Jojok,

how's Dawn? last heard fr our mutual frd that she's seeing this L guy ( I think ) for a couple of yrs now. Any marriage plans? I think audrey mentioned that she wld invite Oliver for our reunion. It had been 7 mths since i last saw her.
was Mandarin yr 1st choice?
 
Hi rainchilla,
No worries, i understand.
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Thanks for your compliments.... will tell hubby later..... he will be trilled.
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oic.... yah.... nice nick....it rhymes!

Yah... really scary.... 6 more days..... my days r also gettng really packed!
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When's your big day?
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hi alhana,
that sounds so romantic..... for me, i have never painted any dream wedding in my mind. i am contented the wedding i had. hmm... maybe i never explore my options.
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hi pixie,
it started to rain at my side in the afternoon and in the evening again. the weather is quite cool this morning too. seems like we are going to have frequent showers these few weeks til christmas.
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hi girls,

hee hee.... today boss on leave so can come in here more often.

my dream wedding will be on a yatch. after the wedding reception, hubby and me can go sailing around the world. just two of us in our own world.

pixie,

we will pray for you that it won't rain on your photoshoot day. last evening, saw a couple having photoshoot. feel quite sorry for them cos it was raining the whole afternoon.

alhana,

was wondering if you go to such a faraway country for photoshoot, won't it be troublesome to bring the gowns, make up artist and photographer over?

Blossom,

yah, the weather quite cool. i overslept and reached office half an hour late. :P
 
hi EL,

I think there was someone on this forumboard who was making enquiries abt doing her photoshoot in Paris! Wow..that wld look so beautiful. Think she was considering getting the make-up artist there, altho the gown n phototog wld be brought over fr S'pore. Definitely not for the budget conscious, unless u have the connections (like a professional phototographer friend etc).
 
hi el,
wah... u overslept ya...
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then u should be quite late for work, considering the distance to ur office.

actually i had difficulty waking my hubby too.
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in the end i have to leave first without him.
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hi alhana,
so envious of that bride.
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if i can afford it, i also want to take wedding pics overseas. the outdoor locations in spore are overused.
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Hi gals,

I am back. Very very busy recently. Mostly because of work. Starting to feel the pressure of preparing for the wedding since the day is about 6 weeks from now. And I havent even send my cards to the printer, draw up guest list, select songs etc etc... stresssss....

Want some views from all of you. How much "Bride Price" should the guy's family give to the gal's family? My MIL is asking me to ask my mum but my mum said "any amount" and of course "any amount" is not good enough for my MIL. You think 2k is sufficient? maybe a good number like 2888? anyway, a huge % of it will be returned to the guy's side rite, so most of it is for show. Damn sian, so many of these customary stuff.

I am also thinking if I should change my hair/makeup artist. Think she didnt do a good job for the photoshoot. Examples are - hair is bunned up in a super old fashion cute/sweet way, I would anytime prefer a simple classic bun, eyebrows are trimmed too thin such that I looked fierce etc etc. So, now thinking of getting my stylist from Mahogany to do my hair. You think this will be better?
 
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