Divorce- Property Sale

[pokoyo]

I am in the mist of divorce and my ex refuse to cooperate in the divorce. I agree to let him after with the adultry terms and accept his term that we are both unreasonable, thinking that I shoud just let things past and move forward. Which means I am also claimable by him. As I think since he already choose the other party over me and my child, just like things go. In the mediation everything is fix, sales of property, uncontested divorce agreed terms.
On the day of the interim date, I realise that he did not turn up or file the unreasonable divorce term on me and even have the cheek to ask me agree on not claiming on him then let me go ahead for uncontested.
To add on, my ex even refuese to cooperate on the propery sales. I am very helpless and fustrated that he is staying with his mistress and the illegimate child at my property while I still have to service the loan through my cpf.
What should I do if he drag and refuse to cooperate for the sales of property? I am still waiting for the interm judgement date and still not sure what trick is up his slevees.
Could any one in the forum advice me? Advise me how to protect my interest against his stratgey to drag on the divorce case and keep the property to his benefit while my child and I continue to suffer?

 

[sylar]

your property or co-pay?

if it's your property, you can always evict him regardless of the divorce.

if co-pay, why did you leave? You should have stand your ground and not allow him to move rubbish into your matrimonial home until the divorce is finalised.

 

[pokoyo]

Too scare to face so many things at one time. I nearly had heart attack from the love letters!!!
Its co-pay. My lawyer can evit them out or I have to do it myself? I fear I have no energy or courage to face this battle to evit them myself.

 

[sylar]

i have a few ideas, check with your lawyer as i'm not.

1. is your evidence still within 6mths? re-instate the adultery claim.
2. if property is co-pay, stop your contribution since you're not staying there. at least let him worry abt the instalment in the meanwhile. check with lawyer on any repercussion. you should still be entitled to your share.

your lawyer should be able to advise you accordingly with regards to your questions. i remember in the consent order, there is usually a stated duration with which to complete the sale.

it makes no sense to drag. that's just going to drive the costs up, he may not be aware. but just remember that never give in (never be pressured by him) on what has been agreed, especially the maintenance, goes to show what kind of father he is.

 

[pokoyo]

Evidence already file and case is open, so it doesn't matter 6mth period. Anyway I can just raise for a DNA report from the illegimate child! But I really have no heart to do till this stage. They are evil I just don't have the heart to stoop to their level. Most importantly, contested divorce cost escalate.
I will try the evit method thou, will check with my lawyer.

 

[pasir_ris_beach]

Sylar's 2nd suggestion sound too good.
Carrie, do stop your contribution towards the property for the time being till u obtain your dna. Let the man ask the mistress to pay for the upkeep or contribution in cash only.

U dun worry abt the other things and focus on settling your divorce asap.

 

[cocobar]

i dont encourage stopping contribution as if the bank;s loan is defaulted and he chooses not to pay as well, carrie's credit bureau report will reflect bad pyt record and she will have a hard time obtaining a new loan or even applying for credit card next time...

 

[pokoyo]

I have stop the cash portion, only contributing the CPF amount. He is servicing the cash portion and had written his intention to claim back.

I am cash strap having to service my child daily expenses solely for many months. I have no choice.

CPF is the only contribution I can make because it is withdrawal record and I am protected by the law that cash will 1st be returned into my account.

 

[pokoyo]

The legal advice I got regarding evit them out of the house, is to wait till the case proceed to the anxillary part, currently nothing can be done except wait.
Really don't understand, why would him wants to drag the case when he doesn't wants me and family anymore? The waiting is bad.