Scope,
From earlier DOS episode that dragged for quite some time, I am quite certain there is no way to negotiate with him, we don't shout at each other, he just refused to discuss, like how we couldn't hold a conversation from the start. He simply asked me to go through lawyer. Like that day I told him over the phone (just calmly, no screaming, no shouting, no raising of voice, anyway we are like divorced couples, just call to inform each others things) about the shares of m/home, he just brushed it off and sms me he set up a meeting in his lawyer’s office.
1) Do you think he can be negotiated, base on the following terms that I disagree most. If not, then how can I ensure I can find a l lawyer who will try to max my return without burning a hole in my pocket? At which point should I start to engage a lawyer?
a) Related proceedings – There have been no other proceedings in Singapore or elsewhere with reference to the marriage, or to any children of the marriage, or between the parties with reference to maintenance or to any property of either or both of them.
b) Requests for reasonable access to the children with ‘prior arrangements to be made with the Defendant’.
(Few years back we agreed on joint custody, but this time, I want sole custody since the care and control is me. I have enough experience of his stir shit and last minute thingy, as he has been keeping his personal life very secretive from the start.
c) He will pay maintenance and all expenses for the children.
(Yes, it is that brief, didn’t even mention amount, food & accommodation, medical, welfare, etc)
d) The parties will retain all other properties in their respective names.
(Frankly, I don’t think he has much because he is a spendthrift, but at least I want the max for matrimonial home).
e) That apart from the aforesaid, the parties shall have no other claims of any nature against each other in respect of any other issues, be it assets, maintenance, claims and/or any ancillary issues whatsoever.
Thanks.