Divorce in process and totally exhausted

[anewstart]

I am going through my divorce and am totally exhausted. I know im not the only one going through what I am going through now but how ironic life is..

Once a stranger and ends up as bitter enemy now.. I do wonder why we cant solve the matters in an amicable manner. All the shoutings, threats that he gave me during the trials makes me shudder.

Is marriage a money making transactions? To take into account of how much you have spent on me during our courtship, our marriage, the home we once built together and to request me to pay back all these and all the gifts that you have given me..didnt you once thought I have spent on you, our home and time... who would want it to end in this manner..

i do not understand why do you still keep receipts of all the gifts, meals that you have pay for over the years..i guess i underestimate you for you have won over this..who on earth would keep receipts of all these and think one day it would come in useful..

I am totally exhausted..how do i move on from here..all i asked is to solve this in an amicable manner..why force me into a corner..all i have is my life...i have nothing to compensate you..neither would i pay you back any single cent for all you have once spent on me..neither have i ask you to pay me back...

what else do you want..you can take my life..reallly thats all that i have left..i really do not know how to move on from here anymore..im exhausted

 

[hweebs]

You are exhausted. Give yourself a break. A physical as well as an emotional break. Imagine yourself suddenly transported to a surrounding padded with soft fluffy cotton wool everywhere, and that you are protected and supported and safe, allowing you to just take a long awaited rest.

Rest, and think about other things later.

 

[anewstart]

he keep coming to me with new terms, new conditions..then twist n turn..n deny my contributions..and i hve been trying to give n settle..why cant he...

 

[zephon]

claudia, i think i understand a bit, though each have their own stories.

i am going through this too.. if u want to find someone to talk to or we can share..hahah wat is there to share... do turn on your pm... and i can send u my email.

take care

 

[hweebs]

the main problems are with money and alimony? Your lawyer can handle? Or can let go of the money if it is so torturous for u?

 

[hotangtang]

Cheer up! tomorrow will be a better day!

 

[anewstart]

@zephon - i have turn on my pm

@hweebs - thanks. I always trust that my lawyer can handle. She is the one who has been pulling me up..it is emotionally draining for me to go thru it again n again..but she has been there for me all these while..

@tangtang - thanks..i hope one day i wld see light at the end of the tunnel..

 

[hweebs]

good lah...leave to your lawyer, and i want you to have the expectation that it is a common experience for people who went through divorce. It's not personal, not about you, but that the process brings about the ugliest side of people.

 

[anewstart]

i agreed but i cant bring myself to share with anyone..and i no longer noe how to..after awhile everyone around you just move on with their life..not that there is anything wrong..coz tts life..

 

[zephon]

sent you a pm...

 

[dimpxtt]

claudia,

i give u my girls' power and strength.....

i am sure you can get out of this very soon..

 

[anewstart]

tks dim...really appreciate..i badly needed it..

 

[scope_guy]

Claudia,

Just... What do you think the judge will judge on his... so many receipts? LOL~

You must fight on the right grounds. Legal fight is like that... once you base correctly, you'd win.

 

[dimpxtt]

claudia,

you tell the judge that he already has plans since the start (to collect those receipts frm the pator days till now)...he has evil plots already..petty man..

u ask him need to pay him the no. of sperms/gram he had come out too r not throughout these years...did he record down huh..
since he so calculative...

 

[anewstart]

it just hurts me to know all these years he has been keeping receipts of all the things that he has spent on me..n to deny my contribution..really hurts me...after all that i hv done...

the legal process really drain me emotionally for he is been really nasty towards me..even cash to him given as a gift from his family is now consider a loan which i took up from his family..what a joke..

 

[scope_guy]

Dimpxtt,

LOL~ You so damn fvcking funny! LOL~

You really want Claudia to tell the judge that? LOL~

I like you. So funny!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[dimpxtt]

claudia,
i know hw hurtful u are feeling now...my heart is wif you..

this type of man.really typical no 'feng dui' petty little ass ...ba&tard(sorry to say your hubby)..but i also cant swallow it...

he everything also want to calculate.
ask him to list down in black n white....finalise b4 come to u..
no time to entertain his stoopid request on and off...

meanwhile move on wif ur life..
though it is the down period of ur life..mix ard wif pple who LOVE u
ur frends/ur parents/ur jiemeis..
pick up hobbies that you love..do sthg that you like..live what your heart tells you to...
yes..e past memories n hurt will be there..
life still needs to go on

tell yourself that you are healthy/able to see tomorrow...and do things that you want..
feel the blessed

i am sure in no time, you will be a pretty cheerful woman again

 

[dimpxtt]

Scope Guy (scope_guy)

of coz i am cute and funny..
coz i am the happy dimp gal mah PPPPPpppPP

 

[scope_guy]

Dimpxtt,

OK. I can imagine that, I mean the happy girl part and skip the 'Ugly but adorable' altogether. LOL~

It's a joke, no offence. But you were real funny. LOL~

Before the judge, unless he or she is downright rookie or fvcking bias against sex... The judge won't really waste time on all those receipts or even assume those were loans.

Because a sound judge will also ask for proof of such loans... such as a contract; and Claudia can just say: "I had fcvk use of such loans what..."

Claudia,

Some guys are like that... And some girls are like this, they fell in love with such some guys who are like that...

Blame who, Claudia?

Before the judge, they shalt be no emotion. I suppose the judge will grant you a divorce, and the assets be split into two. Even cock-eyes know this man isn't your husband anymore... ...

Relak lah~

I suffered much worse than you I also LL. Sometimes, life needs such pepper and onions to spice things up.

You want tissue paper?
Pray for it and you'd see one... LOL~

 

[dimpxtt]

Scope Guy (scope_guy) --rem me as the happy adorable gal

move on claudia..petty man are not worth to kill your brain cell for....

 

[scope_guy]

Dimpxtt,

Yeah... a happy adorable avatar... ... LOL~

I was telling Claudia... that is her fate. No one is perfect, Dimpxtt. He is not perfect, she is not perfect, and here... we have such sad ending.

Claudia should take it easy... this is the spice of her life. LOL~ You too... One day if you encounter relationship problem...

Enjoy your problem. LOL~