Mayi mei-mei, you are not fan jian...you are just a young lady who has a different perspective in love and relationship. Well, know your bottomline, and don't let anyone cross it and take you for granted. I guess I was once like you, felt very in love with the man whom I could stick to through thick and thin. But as more issues surfaced I began to question how come so much thick and thin situations that he got himself into. How come I didn't give him that kind of problems. Well, I allowed him to cross my bottomline and ended up I was burnout.
I realise that if and when a man truly loves you, he will not let you go through so many thick and thin situations with him, as much as he can help it. He will not let the love and relationship be put through tests unnecessarily. Our lives are already challenging enough in itself - job, health, finances, family, children, crime, etc, do we need partners who give us constant heartache? No lor.