Cannot attend another wedding 100 days before/ after your own wedding?

[maggies]

A gal friend is getting married 2 weeks after me. Then she suddenly asked me if I would be attending her wedding, as there is this "pan tang" that we cannot attend a wedding 100 days before/ after own wedding. Actually I never heard of this, is this true??

 

[wAt3v3r]

Yes there is. But its just up to the two of you whether u pan tang anot. Not supposed to attend red/white events, aka weddings or funerals. My htb's friend pan tang, so we are not attending each other's wedding.

 

[maggies]

I see.. hmm.. maybe i should also be pan tang then. better be more careful ya? hmm

 

[florallure]

May I know the rationale behind this? Like perhaps a clash of blessings? What if a friend of mine ask me to be her bridesmaid, does it also stand at the 100 days before/after rule? Sorry to hijack.

 

[hellobunny]

Ahh someone started this thread Was asking around about this too because I have 2 other friends who will probably have the same month banquet as me (June 2018) and both are my close friends. My mum mentioned as long as don't enter house, witness arrival of bridal car and such it's fine as some older generation may not like it. Attending the banquet only is deemed okay - because "external" event venue haha.

At the end of the day, as long as both sides are okay it should be fine la!

 

[Aj.tan]

I think the Chinese in ancient times believed that 2 positives make 1 negative (sounds like mathematics -(-)= + only that it's the other way round.

I have friends who believe that 4 months before and after the date of the wedding, they should not attend another wedding. I guess it's basic courtesy to ask them first? I'm not superstitious but out of respect for my pantang friends, I have asked if they would still like to attend my wedding! Anyway best is to just invite them and leave the decision to them

 

[maggies]

I guess most importantly its really the old folks' opinions. My friends advised me that ask your parents and in laws first. if they are ok then fine. if not then don't go or invite anyone just married or getting married. She told me she has a friend who didn't believe and went to attend a wedding that time. Now, many years later, her son has leukemia and the mother in law took this reason and blame her... even so many years later. Plus keukemia can be due to many reasons ma right? But just use this and blame her lor..
So..I guess to avoid such things, better not to go against the old folks in case it became a never-ending issue.
But I am not sure how.. if you dont tell them and go do it la.. haha

 

[Aj.tan]

I guess most importantly its really the old folks' opinions. My friends advised me that ask your parents and in laws first. if they are ok then fine. if not then don't go or invite anyone just married or getting married. She told me she has a friend who didn't believe and went to attend a wedding that time. Now, many years later, her son has leukemia and the mother in law took this reason and blame her... even so many years later. Plus keukemia can be due to many reasons ma right? But just use this and blame her lor..
So..I guess to avoid such things, better not to go against the old folks in case it became a never-ending issue.
But I am not sure how.. if you dont tell them and go do it la.. haha

Wa that sucks! Ok then better don't go... :S