Bride price 聘金
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heisenberg86
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$16k, not giving any tables
BerryDreamy
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$1888
BerryDreamy
Member
Mine is coming tis mth...not 10 yrs ago haha
Cos my parent know that we are forking out everything (not a cent from them) and is quite taxing for us and plus we need the $ for our future home so they din ask too much. Just a "token" to officiate.
Afterall is their daughter getting married, not selling their daughter.
Cos my parent know that we are forking out everything (not a cent from them) and is quite taxing for us and plus we need the $ for our future home so they din ask too much. Just a "token" to officiate.
Afterall is their daughter getting married, not selling their daughter.
cookiesdecream
New Member
My mother seems to be taking tables so can't advise much but the amount varies alot.
From few hundreds to even over $20,000. It also depends on the groom's financial/ family status I guess.
It is kind of like a token so no need to ask for too much as well.
From few hundreds to even over $20,000. It also depends on the groom's financial/ family status I guess.
It is kind of like a token so no need to ask for too much as well.
... Haha 
jkwedding308
Active Member
It really depends on both families. For us (our wedding was just end of August this year), we are blessed to have parents who are more modern-thinking and like to keep things simple. Absolutely $0 for bride price and didn't even have guo da li (his parents wanted to at first but my parents assured them that it's ok). Sometimes we may think asking for bride price etc may be very customary or traditional but I was surprised when I heard this from my parents - my 92 year old grandma asked them how much bride price they requested and when my parents told her none, she approved and said they'll be foolish if they ask for even a single cent as that would seem like they're money-minded and selling their daughter (i.e. me) away... Didn't expect that kind of a response to come from my very traditional grandma haha... But every family is different so best to first evaluate how each family perceives the bride price first - some parties may on the contrary value it more highly than others... As for most things, to each his (or her!) own, hehe...
Ashley Tan
New Member
My mum ask for $2000. But she only took $800 & return the balance to my HTb. My mum feel embrass to take the full amount. She said she is marrying her daughter not selling her daughter. Lolx.
steffdarling
Member
Tables - depends on how much ang pao money was collected. So if you have generous guests, your parents will get to keep more money. If you have not-so-generous guests, then they will not get to keep so much. It's like a gamble.
Whereas agreeing on a flat sum means that your parents will have confirmed amount that they will pocket (minus whatever they want to return).
nahsiew
Member
oh! so that means if say we agree on 8 tables, means all angbaos given by the guests on these 8 tables will be kept by my parents?
if thats the case, then what about the angbao given during GDL? will still have to give a little token..right?