Any aussie Future husband


Hey Audrey, I'm married to an aussie. He's an ABC though...so what kind of experiences do u mean? It's hard to say what all aussie husbands are like. Haha...
 
hi Audrey, I'll be marrying an Aussie...he's really romantic and a real gentleman although the distance at the moment is unbearable
 
Hi all, great to have you guys here. I am marrying a Aussie chinese, wish to know more about applying for aussie PR ans some of the aussie wedding customs and benefits being a aussie PR.

Hi fern, are you holding an aussie PR? any prob adjusting to his values and customs?

Hi damsel, he is not in town, so you are planning your wedding all by youeself? Are you having 2 weddings?
 
Hi Audrey, i don't think u can become an Aussie PR immediately. I am holding a spouse visa and will only get my PR in 2006. The spouse visa allows you to work in OZ.

My hubby has a mix of western and asian values, and that is what i love about him. Sensitive and non-MCP...haha.

We had just 1 wedding in Singapore and his family flew to Singapore to attend the wedding.

I am now living and working in OZ, Brisbane. It was a hard decision to follow him back, but i trust him and he has taken good care of me and is a loving and supportive husband. There is a small element of culture shock working with the Aussies. Most of them are friendly and outgoing to everyone. They can also be loud and rowdy (in a fun kind of way). I also had difficulty understanding some of them cos of the accent.

But i'm getting used to the country and the people slowly, and i am growing to love this place too.

Do you have plans to migrate here? is your Fh in Singapore at the moment?
 
Hi Audrey, yeah I'm planning my wedding by myself so it's really tiring and hectic and sometimes emotionally draining cause I've to make all the decisions for the big day.

I'm only having one wedding here in s'pore cause his family and frens are willing to fly over.

As fern mention I'll also be on spouse visa while applying for my PR status.

By the way which part of Aust is your FH from?
 
Hi Damsel,
i just read from another thread that u and your hubby met online. Pls do share with us your story too, how long you'd been together and all that? Which part of OZ is your FH in and which state will you guys be in? Me and hubby are staying in Brisbane. We actually met up with one of the gals from this forum too, she's here to stay with her BF who's just finished his studies.

Have you got your spouse visa already?

I understand how you must feel preparing for the big day yrself. When is the big day?
 
hee hee fern you went to do investigation huh, yeah it's true I met my FH online thru a christian website. after knowing each other for a month i went over to meet him personally, a few days later on New year's eve he propose to me at the Sydney Harbour bridge and the rest as they say is history:-)we've maintain our long distance relationship for a year already

my FH is residing in Sydney (Liverpool), i'll be applying for my spouse visa when i get there after the wedding

my big day will be on 26 Feb....can't wait for the day to come, counting down to it
 
Hi fern,
oh so i believe i will be getting the spouse visa too yeah. I will be visiting the oz embassy to find out more on this matter as my FH and i decided to stay in singapore for another 5 years or so. i bet you are a brave gal to follow him back and i am happy to hear that you are adjusting well, stay happy, cos far away from home, hubby support is really important. I am not sure about my plans whether to move to oz soon as i am committed to my business here. But i believe i will need to plan when the baby comes along. How does the spouse visa work? Do i have to stay in oz for a couple of years before getting my PR? My FH is working in sin for 4 years now, he is now Sin PR.

Hi Damsel,
It must be hard preparing the wedding all by yourself, how's everything going? Sometimes i think i like to decide most of the things myself, less opinion, less trouble.. hehe. Happy prep! My FH is from Sydney, i might have 2 weddings, a small one in sydney cos we need to wed in oz first to apply for the spouse visa, right? Might fly there in April, for photo shoot too.

hmm... online dating, intersting... aren't you excited about moving to sydney?
 
Initially, we also planned to stay in Singapore for the next 4-5yrs after marriage. But then my hubby was getting really stressed out at work, and he wanted to come back to OZ. We also considered things like, if we have "roots" in Singapore over the next 5yrs, such as HDB flat and children, it will even be harder to "uproot" ourselves and come back to OZ. Better to come and start a life here. My spouse visa also got granted in 6weeks instead of 6months and we were pleassantly surprised. So we made the move in Sept.

Audrey, you dun need to get married in OZ to get a spouse visa. The marriage cert from ROM also can. But a photoshoot in OZ is a really good idea. I wanted to do that too but hubby said too much of a hassle, must bring wedding gown and all that there. Plus that time we didn't think we'd be coming back to OZ so soon.

The embassy told me that the spouse visa will be granted about 4-6months from my time of application. You have to prove to them your relationship, e.g. your marriage cert, your joint assets, write an essay about the relationship, how u met and so on.

Damsel, i didn;t know you could apply for spouse visa when u are in Australia. I thot you had to apply for it offshore, and must be outside OZ when the Visa is granted? I'm not sure, but you better be sure you can do it that way!
 
Hi Audrey,
Wow so you will be planning for 2 weddings, I really salute you, it's difficult enough planning for one and you have 2 to plan. Yeah it's tuff having to plan for something when you are doing it by yourself but I'm hanging on as I'm looking forward to the day when I walk down the aisle, so all the hard work will be worth it in the end.

I'll be doing our ROM here and then when I go over to Aust, I'll begin the process of applying the visa. But if Aust gov dun recognise our marriage cert then we will solemnise there as well. I'm not too sure how it works yet cause frankly I've been busy with the prep to think abt that.

Yeah I'm excited abt moving over but at the same time sad as well cause have to leave my family and friends and all the things that I'm familiar with.
 
Dun worry gals, the Singapore ROM cert is definitely enuff to prove a legitimate marriage.

And I know exactly how u feel about coming here damsel! But I have survived here for 3months and growing to love the country and its people. Do be sure to keep in touch and let us know of your progress!
 
Hi Fern,
Thanks for the info, as I mention I've not had the chance to check the procedure for applying the visa, but my FH mention that I could do it when I move over. Iif that's the case I'd better make a trip down to Aust embassy to get the facts rite.
 
Hi fern,

That will be nice if i can apply for the spouse visa in singapore, need to check with the embassy and ROM regarding this. From your experience, are there difficulties, and complications in the process? You were saying joint assets, you mean here in singapore or OZ?

I love the idea of doing the oversea shoot thingy, i believe that if i plan the logistic well, will minimize the hassel, still in the process of planning, meeting the photographer today, if the rates are good, will prob take it.

I am thinking of earning as much as we can here is sin, and retire back in OZ, i hope my kids will be educated here in sin, for at least till pri 6, after all we are chinese and i believe that it is good for them to learn the chinese values.. tht is my feelings..
 
Hi demsel,
when will be your ROM? As fern said we are able to apply for spouse visa here, then it will be good that you can concentrate in preparing your ROM here rather than fly here and there, yeah!
The wedding in OZ gotta be a small one as my FHs family will be coming over plus some of his good friends, jus that it will be nice to pay his family a visit first and do our wedding shoot in sydney. Hey,tell me more about your wedding plans and don't worry about moving to Oz, i am sure you gonna adjust well, i bet fern will share with us more on her life there, sin't it fern ;p

Let me know once you head down to the embassy, cos they are not picking up my call, been calling them for a week already..
 
Hi Audrey,
My ROM/AD ceremony is on the same day, so that's why I can't apply for my spouse visa yet and my FH wants me to move over to Sydney right after the wedding so that's why he mention that we can do the application there cause frankly right now I really dun have the time to make a trip down to the embassy.
 
Hey Audrey, they have certain days and times that you can call the embassy only. It's not easy to get through! Go to these following websites: http://www.immi.gov.au/
www.australia.org.sg
to find out more about spouse visa application procedures. These are very useful sites and I got a lot of information from there when I was applying for mine.

Audrey, i didn't find it that difficult to get everything together to apply for the spouse visa. Just get the documents needed, fill out the spouse visa application form (which can be downloaded from the immi website) and go in person to the high comm to submit the application. The fees are about $1600.

Some of the things I can remember i needed are the ROM marriage record (different from the marriage cert!), a police record saying you have no previous criminal convctions, health reports from authorised clinics (chosen by the embassy), essay of how you and hubby met and history of relaionship, proof of shared responsibilities such as bills, bank accounts, etc. We also had to get his family from Australia to write a short essay of their knowledge of our relationship, and that our relationship is true and on-going blah blah...

Hmm, hope the above helps!

On my views about children, i feel sad that my children may not have a deep chinese root, but I also feel that the children here have a childhood that is more fun and not faced with a lot of pressures academically.
 
Hi damsel,
i can't bring myself up to move to sydney right after the wedding, just that i want to stay in sin to build up my business and hopefully, i can sell it off one day. So wats ya plan after moving to sydney? How's the prep so far?

Hi fern, thanks for sharing the websites, want PM me, [email protected]. we can share more. Wow the fees is high, yeah. My FH said tat iwe can fly to Sydney and ROM there, that will shorten the timing if i will to apply in Sin, you think so?
 
Hi gals, I'm also marrying an Australian. We've been together 9 years, had a long-distance r/p for 6 years and getting married next year. I'm migrating to Melbourne in Feb and we're glad to put our years apart behind us - Finally.
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And like Fern, altho my HTB is not Chinese, he was brought up conservatively, not MCP, respectful and open to hearing me out. He's basically my dream guy!
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Hi Audrey,
Well the decision to move up to Sydney was a tuff one cause I have to give up my family, frens & career...but my FH din like it here in S'pore when he came to visit, he found the place to ex and stressful. That's why I made the choice to move but anyway after being to Aust so many times I feel it was a good place to live. I plan to be a "tai tai" for a while :-) and take things easy, I'll only get a job after my visa application has been approved.

Hi Skybebe,
I'm impress that you are able to maintain a long distance relationship for 6 years, me and my FH is finding it hard to live apart and we can't wait to be together.
 
Heehee.....damsel, I was just thinking abt it last night and am thankful that both my HTB and I worked hard at our relationship the 6 years we were apart.

If someone had told me at the start that we'll be apart 6 years, I think I wouldn't have wanted to continue the r/p. But love is a mysterious thing, I'm thankful both of us love each other that much!
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Hi skybebe, I'm really amazed to hear that most part of your relatioship was long distance! When and where are you getting married and what took you guys so long?!!
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Hi audrey, i really dun know if it will shorten the application time if you ROM in Sydney rather than Australia, but i feel that it will be a different and special experience. But what about your witnesses? Do you have friends or family in Sydney that will act as your witnesses?

Hi Damesel,
my hubby was miserable for most of the 2years that he worked in Singapore! He finds Singapore too small and stifling and lifestyle too boring and stressful. But personally, after being here for 3.5months now, i feel there are pros and cons. Like i love the country, but somehow feel like i dun really fit in with the ang mohs. I find their culture and lifestyles different to what I'm used to. And as for food, i still think Singapore is unbeatable!
 
Hi Skybebe,
That's really sweet that both you and your FH had the love and determination to keep the relationship going...cause if i had to wait 6 years I'd probably go insane

Hi Fern,
Yeah I guess the only thing I'll miss abt S'pore is the food as for fitting in with the Aussie culture I dun foresee a problem.
 
Hi Fern and Damsel,

Trust me.....I'm going insane already......
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I don't even know how we manage to do it. HTB is more patient than I am.....

I studied in Australia for 3 years. HTB had 2 more years to his studies. So we knew we were going to be apart for 2 years initially. Then he came over after he finished his studies and found that he didn't like the Singapore working lifestyle after observing how I work - for e.g., my boss calls me when I'm on leave or during weekends to ask about work. HTB said he can work hard during weekdays but during his rest days, he can't stand it if bosses harass him. He said he needs his rest days to recharge and he felt bosses here don't respect that. So he felt that he couldn't work here. He decided to go back home to look for a job. So our plan then shifted from him coming over to me going over.

Then I started finding out more about applying for Aussie PR. I didn't satisfy the total pts required for Skilled Migration in 2002 (no bonus pts cos no family members in Australia). I only just made it last year. If I applied this year, I wouldn't have made it either cos they increased the total pts by another 5 pts. So I finally got my Aussie PR in July this year. And that was when we were able to set a date for the wedding (we were engaged in Jan this year).

We've been talking abt getting married for the past 2-3 years but HTB wanted to establish his career first, more secure that way.
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Hi Skybebe,
In my case I'm the patient one, my FH is the one who's taking the distance quite badly...my FH hated the working lifestyle as well, he felt that it was too pressurising to work here and he din want me to continue with that kind of lifestyle
 
Hi fern, I don't have any friends or relatives in Os, sob... i think my dad will fly over to witness our marriage.

How are you celebrating your christmas?
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I guess i am flying over to sydney mid feb or march, not sure how's the weather be by then.
i am thinking of staying there for 2 months or so to check it out if i am comfortable, afterall, i miss my family here.

Hi demsel,
it's great feeling to be 'tai tai' for a start, hehe. wish my FH will say that to me if eventually i move to Os... haha, fat hope!! Anyway, how's the plan so far?
 
Hi Gals,
Happy New Year 2005, hope it was a good one for all of you. Anyway just an update, went to Aust Embassy yest and was told that the application for spouse visa takes 4 to 6 months to be approved and it cost SGD$1680.85 (daylight robbery), anyway I can either apply it here in S'pore or in Aust but it will not make a difference cause the processing duration is the same for both sides. So me and my FH have decided that I shall move there right away after the wedding so that we can apply for the Visa ASAP while I'm on social visit pass there.
 
Hi There,
Any of you have contact of freight company that does relocation? I called KC Dat, they are charging $2700 for 100 cubic feet. As for SingPost they are charging $248.45 per box up to max of 30KG. I find it a bit ex, anyone knows of anyone else that is cheaper.
 
A great question, Damsel, cos I have to prepare to ship my things over too.

I called I think FedEx previously and they were charging abt $140-$180 for their 25kg boxes.

Anyone has any other contacts? Thanks.
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Hi gals,
i checked with Fedex too when I moved to Australia. Please double confirm with Fedex! They told me there was a tax of $150 on the 25kg boxes that contained personal belongings. I used Singpost after that.
 
Hi Fern,
How much did you pay in total for Singpost? Cause when I called them they mention they charge $248.45 per box up to max 30kg.
 
I can't really remember...but that price sounds about right. I actually used a 10kg economical box, but put in more than 10 worth and they just added extra charges.
 
oh ok, gosh I'm actually having a headache planning what to send over cause I just have to many "unneccesary" things as my FH put it.
 
Hi girls
I'm new to this thread...just kaypoh-ing a bit and read about you guys trying to send stuff over from Singapore to Sydney.
I moved from Spore to Sydney with my FH in 2002, and we used KC Dat. A word of caution though, they work with a local company here so as soon as the stuff reaches Sydney, it's beyond KC's control. I didn't have a good experience on this side - late in delivery, etc. Just a word of caution.
If the rest of services like Fedex is cheaper, I'd suggest going with them...
 
Hi gals

I think I may save costs by having my stuff sent over by sea cos I don't need my stuff urgently. I checked Singpost and by air, its $160+ but by sea, its $60+. With that, I can send more stuff over...heehee!
 
Hi Moggie,
Welcome, by the way which part of Sydney are you living in?

Hi Skybebe,
Thanks for the info, I finally decided to use Singpost I just bought boxes from them last weekend now in the midst of packing
 
Hi Skybebe,
It's $5.45 per box, I bought it from Singpost as they are paticular on the dimension, if I use my own they might not accept
 
Thanks, damsel. Not too costly....
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I have a question to pose to you gals. My HTB and I just talked abt my name change and I was wondering if I have to do a deed poll to change my name both in Singapore and Australia? So does that mean I have to change my names on my IC and Singapore passport immediately after my wedding?
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Pls help.

p.s. If I'm in Melbourne, where should I go to change my name? What's the dept name? Thanks.
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Hi Damsel
I live in Rose Bay in Sydney, in the Eastern suburbs near Bondi Beach. What about you? When do you move here?

Hi Skybebe
In Sydney, it's done in the BDM (birth, death & marriage) dept NSW. Melbourne has its own BDM. I'm quite sure you do it there too...here's the url - http://www.dvc.vic.gov.au/bdm.htm

Cheers
 
Hi Skybebe,
My FH wants me to change my name as well but I dun think I'll be doing it cause find that it's too much hassle.

Hi Moggie,
I'll be moving to liverpool. I like the houses in the Bondi area but unfortunately it's too costly for us to afford right now. I'll be there in the beginning of Mar, maybe we can arrange to hook up.
 
Hi Damsel...
Wow...Liverpool is quite far away...though I know what you mean, Bondi can be quite costly.
Sure, we'll catch up. I'll be back from my holidays in early March. Will be happy to meet up. Drop me an email whenever you want...
 
Thanks, moggie!
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damsel, so you not changing your surname to your husband's surname? I was grappling with a double barrelled surname but didn't quite like having 2 surnames so am likely to go with just my married surname. I realised I could also buy a name change kit for various depts like telephone company, etc, and then send off the forms with my request for a name change. Maybe I can buy those kits without have to go to the BDM dept.
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Hi Skybebe,
With so many paperwork at the moment with the visa application I dun think I'm going to add another stress to it, I'll probably get the name change done when I'm more settled cause my FH wants me to adopt his surname eventually.
 
Dear ladies

i am new to this thread.
i will be marrying to Perth next year.
it feels so good to know that there are some of you out there who are moving over to Australia too.
pls keep in touch.
 


Hey moggie, bondi beach is a cool place to stay.
It's an expensive area where me and my HTB would love to settle down...

Hey demsel, how's ypur prep for your wedding?
 

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