Advise needed

[babyphui]

Hi readers

I have been married close to 2 years now. i some how cant click with my hb. for every single little things we have arguments. very difficult to carry on the relationship like this. we have lot of differances and diff way of doing things. we have talked abt divorce and both agree to it. Can anyone advise on how to go about filing for one? i called one of the lawyer she say hv to wait for 3 years.can anyone advise on possiblity to file for divorce before 3 years? any one knw of a lawyer who can guide me through? Please help.

thanks

 

[miluchu]

phui

before you go ahead with divorce
have u ask urself why u got married ??

both of u r 2 different person ..
2 different ways of doing things etc etc
cannot work things out meh ?
why pick on small small things ?
why not have a good talk and expectation
compromise etc etc ..

if not see a counsellor ..

btw how to go about it there a few threads on this.. there are tons of info

 

[inspectorate]

The easy way out is to file for divorce and many prefer the easy way out. Why married in the first place? There must be many reasons. Cool down and don't make hasty decision. People do change. Don't burn down the whole forest cos of one bad tree

 

[xinxin]

Hi phui,

You are still considered in "honeymoon" period yet such things happen... like mi loh.. mine marriage almost coming to 2 years too.. initially, hubby n mi keep bickering almost everything, from small issues like how to wash dishes to "big" issues such as what shld b the frequency to wash clohtes, whose turn to mop the floors etc... You must be laughing off ur head now rite? Yesh... we did have cold war over the above mentioned stuff, childish arent we?

Just a piece of advice is: is really fate that brought 2 diff people tog to nuture a relationship and family. It really takes time to settle down with 2 diff pple with diff habits n lifestyle, even twins or triplets or quads do hv such differences too! Do take some time off to cool down n tink over the day time you met your hubby, courtship, proposal, marriage until now... how memorable isnt it?

Perhaps, a good interaction ( not using violence, or harsh words, tones...) may work out (usually guys will give in to your "sa jiao".. isnt it)...
If things still dun improve and there is still feelings bet both of u, do consult a marriage counseller from family services, i am sure you will solve your 2 lovely dovey stuff...

Otherwise, if feelings and ur lost love is already past tense, perhaps separation n divorce is the only resort ( hopefully no kids are involved here?? cos children r vunerable n rather affected.. )

Wishing you all the best n good luck.. hope everything turns out the way you wanna ...
Watever it is, dun lose hope and there is always a way for everything...

 

[sunboi80]

Marriage is a sarced thing. it's not just a matter of 2 person only. the 2 families are also affected. We are always selfish to think that it's something that will affect only 2 persons.

If not compatible, u'll shld have found out during courtship(there will always be ways) not wait until married then find out.

However if each one takes 1 step backwards and try to accomodate each other's shortcomings, i believe all these bickerings can be overcomed.

Yes the easy way out is just to file for divorce. But do try ur best to work things out. Marriage isn't like choosing clothes. U see frm the shop u like, u buy then..wear for a while dun like throw away.

Do not have this mentality.

However if things really dun work out then i believe it's justifiable to do the inevitable responsibly and amicably.

 

[clark]

Wah, marriage and divorce is like changing underwear these days hor ?

Dun wear the underwear if u are not sure u look good in it. If u decide to wear it, pls pls pls....dun take it off cos nobody likes to be naked. You can choose to wash, tighten or loosen it, whichever way u like. But once bought, cannot be refunded.

 

[ordinaryworld]

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