Jaq, I also have joint account with hubby, we set up once and fail cause we were still unstable that time, and he is always late to transfer fund into it which he had promised. It makes me think that he is not sincere in our future. With other factors, we actually breakup and close the joint account. We split the money accordingly to what we had contributed through that few months, even pay a termination fee of $20 for closing it early (less than 6months I think).
Somehow we end up getting back together, this time he is more serious with marriage, with the previous experience, he is always on the dot to transfer $ to joint account. Initially I contributed more than him as I’m earning more, now he has a promotion and is contributing more than me.
Some financial background, I graduated with school fee loan 2yrs ago, I estimated that it will require me a 3yrs to pay up. Looking at it, we won’t even think we can settle down in 5yrs w/ our financial situation. Somehow the government implemented a school fee loan interest suspension for one year (I can don’t pay loan for 1 yr w/o any interest) due to the bad economy. It gives us hope. Haha. We used that intended amount for sch fee loan to save up + both additional saving that we can come out with (pocket shrink), so we can get married, since we wana settle down early cuz wish to hv baby. We are reaching our 30’s soon.
I think have to let your hubby used to contributing to the household or marriage. At least set a min sum that he has to bring home with, in my case is the monthly contribution to the joint account. That is the basic for responsibility and women need such security. This is the same like giving our parents money. Die die no matter what happen outside, I will try to/make sure I bring home that amount so everyone in my family will get food to eat. Unless really no choice have to tell out den everyone solve problem together. I dislike your hubby doing, take $ w/o telling u.
Although it has been almost 2yrs since my hubby propose, up till now planning for wedding n house, a slow journey indeed. Somehow, this slow journey also benefits us, we both have a better mindset with our future and he has also learned to become more responsible. I always say, “We have don’t change our husband, but we influence them.†Haha.
Sorry abit long… haha