(2010/03) Mar 2010 BTB
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hahha..i knew u misread my typo..
well, din sign up at suntec. went over to the boutique to sign up..overall a good experience. Just that i wonder if we signed in a bit too quickly, without much research & also I also like another bs as well so a bit torn in btw.
I guess we decided to sign cos we feel comfortable with e ppl, and it's the only other bs that FH likes the gowns on me and the package is kinder to the wallet.
well, din sign up at suntec. went over to the boutique to sign up..overall a good experience. Just that i wonder if we signed in a bit too quickly, without much research & also I also like another bs as well so a bit torn in btw.
I guess we decided to sign cos we feel comfortable with e ppl, and it's the only other bs that FH likes the gowns on me and the package is kinder to the wallet.
hmm actually we also signed up with our BS on the spur of the moment, hope we won't regret it next time though. Didn't plan to sign up at all initially, wanted to go recce first do homework, little did we know that the moment we stepped in, we cld only come out 4hrs later hahahahaa....
ur BS will be fine dun worry
ur BS will be fine dun worry
darrelandgeri
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Hi !
I'm the groom. Sharing this acct with my wife. My wedding is in march too.
We've already settled our venue, and a stressful exercise that was.
The trick was to get both our parents to sit down and write out their guest lists of the absolute minimum of people they could live with, and we start searching using the number.
Then we got bounced around by our parents because of the auspicious dates, then again with the budget. Quite a stressful experience.
I guess one key factor in budgeting is how much are you expecting to lose from the wedding. We can't assume that we're break even, and we're trying to get the wedding done without our parents $ assistance.
I'm the groom. Sharing this acct with my wife. My wedding is in march too.
We've already settled our venue, and a stressful exercise that was.
The trick was to get both our parents to sit down and write out their guest lists of the absolute minimum of people they could live with, and we start searching using the number.
Then we got bounced around by our parents because of the auspicious dates, then again with the budget. Quite a stressful experience.
I guess one key factor in budgeting is how much are you expecting to lose from the wedding. We can't assume that we're break even, and we're trying to get the wedding done without our parents $ assistance.
darrelandgeri
New Member
Hi thomas,
we picked conrad
after looking at a few. We initially wanted to have ours in Dec 09, but we started looking too late, and all the ones we wanted were taken. After moving it to march, we just picked the first one in the list to save ourselves the frustration of starting the search again. The good thing was we could 'click' really well with the sales manager from Conrad.
I don't see how can break even...
.. I calculated using the most pessimistic formula, which is what if everyone who turns up only give $80. Add into the equation, that we need to give my wife's mum tables (i.e. we pay for table, she keep the ang pow). I guess our honeymoon is postponed.
Now we're hunting for gowns
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we picked conrad
I don't see how can break even...
Now we're hunting for gowns
darrel,
seems like u are in the same situation as us...my wife's mum wants to keep those angpows that her relatives pass to her on our AD too, not going to pass back to us cos she said she has to 'take back' some for bringing up her daughter all these yrs...
we just hope that most of them can put their angpows into our angpow box so that she can't take that much...otherwise sure big loss
our honeymoon will most likely have to be postponed too cos after our AD, we will 'bleed' for dunno how long too...
seems like u are in the same situation as us...my wife's mum wants to keep those angpows that her relatives pass to her on our AD too, not going to pass back to us cos she said she has to 'take back' some for bringing up her daughter all these yrs...
we just hope that most of them can put their angpows into our angpow box so that she can't take that much...otherwise sure big loss
our honeymoon will most likely have to be postponed too cos after our AD, we will 'bleed' for dunno how long too...
darrelandgeri
New Member
Hi deerixp
ur a march bride too ?
Thomas,
that kinda sucks doesn't it ...
especially the reason that my future MIL gave us. Have you negotiated how many tables and such to give to your future MIL ?
Some advice that my friends gave was, for example, my wife's relatives has 10 tables, so what we can do is give her mum 5 tables, incl one bridal table, and the remaining 5, we sell it to her at cost price. Then at the dinner, there can be an ang pow box for her side to put in all the ang pows also. So we just give the whole box back to them.
Anyway I don't think we can give any more than 5, considering how much each table costs and that everything is coming out from our own pockets. Didn't want my parents to help out $ with this as much as possible.
Oh, the other thing that my friends told me was, don't do the table negotiation when the parents first meet up. Its quite messy, and may end off on an unhappy note. For us, we're probably going to negotiate with her mum first, then when the 2 families meet before the wedding, I can just tell me dad to agree to anything/everything. Looks nice for both sides too.
ur a march bride too ?
Thomas,
that kinda sucks doesn't it ...
Some advice that my friends gave was, for example, my wife's relatives has 10 tables, so what we can do is give her mum 5 tables, incl one bridal table, and the remaining 5, we sell it to her at cost price. Then at the dinner, there can be an ang pow box for her side to put in all the ang pows also. So we just give the whole box back to them.
Anyway I don't think we can give any more than 5, considering how much each table costs and that everything is coming out from our own pockets. Didn't want my parents to help out $ with this as much as possible.
Oh, the other thing that my friends told me was, don't do the table negotiation when the parents first meet up. Its quite messy, and may end off on an unhappy note. For us, we're probably going to negotiate with her mum first, then when the 2 families meet before the wedding, I can just tell me dad to agree to anything/everything. Looks nice for both sides too.
Darrel: yes she is a March BTB too haha
ya I agree but no choice I guess
haven't neg yet, will do so later. We even went to the extent of considering whether to put on our invitation cards "Please put all angpows into our angpow box" so as to make sure we get most of them back hahahhaa....do u think it's ok to put this? or seems kinda weird? lol
ya I agree but no choice I guess
darrelandgeri
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Thomas > put a sign saying ... "parking coupon redemption : to redeem, put ang pow in box"
I'm sure that gets u about 80% of the ang pows back
I'm sure that gets u about 80% of the ang pows back
Thomas: no worries. Boat come to bridge naturally straight.. haha.. =)
Haha.. my parents have 4 daughters (Si gian jin)... so initially my mum dun expect me to hold a banquet with many guests for mi.. since my sis had 50+ tables for her wedding already.. and i am the 2nd. they are ok with a simpler wedding for mi. 1 reason i had 40 tables is becoz i really like the GCW grand ballroom alot... the min table for weekend..so with so many tables.. i can give them 10 tables bah.. at the same time.. tt means near 10k gone..=)
Haha.. my parents have 4 daughters (Si gian jin)... so initially my mum dun expect me to hold a banquet with many guests for mi.. since my sis had 50+ tables for her wedding already.. and i am the 2nd. they are ok with a simpler wedding for mi. 1 reason i had 40 tables is becoz i really like the GCW grand ballroom alot... the min table for weekend..so with so many tables.. i can give them 10 tables bah.. at the same time.. tt means near 10k gone..=)
Jalene: i think as long as ur parents are okie.. should be fine.. there are generally 2 types.1 is give the gal side an ang bao as pin jin... another 1 is give tables..=)
Hmm.. we haben really tok to abt our parents abt the tables thingy.. but i guess if we follow my sis should be no prob.. my bf and his parents aware of of my sis wedding coz they went to her wedding 3 years ago.. then tt time auntie asked mi how many tables my parents took..coz mi and my bf 9 yrs together le.. next yr 10th yr le.. so our parents sort of seen each other years ago.. haha
Hmm.. we haben really tok to abt our parents abt the tables thingy.. but i guess if we follow my sis should be no prob.. my bf and his parents aware of of my sis wedding coz they went to her wedding 3 years ago.. then tt time auntie asked mi how many tables my parents took..coz mi and my bf 9 yrs together le.. next yr 10th yr le.. so our parents sort of seen each other years ago.. haha
darrelandgeri
New Member
4K for BS ... including the pre wedding photography ?
be careful not to fall into the trap where they upsell photos to you.
be careful not to fall into the trap where they upsell photos to you.
darrelandgeri
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deerixp > yup ... my wife and I are both impressed by his photography. Any I'm quite anal when it comes to photography. I just dunno how many extra photos my wife will end up picking.
i wonder what will happen when u put ur 2 albums side by side to see ....
i wonder what will happen when u put ur 2 albums side by side to see ....
Darrel: 1 reason is becoz i really like photojournalistic style.. but ala carte quite ex and mafan..
so i decide tt i should firmly not top up the bridal studio poses. i got 36 poses for MBR and 18 page album for Chris Ling.. so already 54 photos le.. i guess it's different feel totally. But I am really glad.. coz on 1 hand I can enjoy the typical costume thingy and yet have nice photojounalistic photo taken by a Pro himself..
1 is more posed (non photojournalistic) and the other should be more candid and elegant bah...=)
so i decide tt i should firmly not top up the bridal studio poses. i got 36 poses for MBR and 18 page album for Chris Ling.. so already 54 photos le.. i guess it's different feel totally. But I am really glad.. coz on 1 hand I can enjoy the typical costume thingy and yet have nice photojounalistic photo taken by a Pro himself..
1 is more posed (non photojournalistic) and the other should be more candid and elegant bah...=)
darrelandgeri
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deerixp > well, I asked arvinna @ chris ling and she said, chris will generally deliver around 150-200 photos after each shoot. Imagine sit down 150 choose 18. So you got the $888 or the $1088 package ? I'm worried about the top up too, Arvinna said chris is quite strict on the pricing, so its fixed $120/photo.
I won't be surprised if My Bridal Room comes back with 500 photos either.
I won't be surprised if My Bridal Room comes back with 500 photos either.
darrelandgeri
New Member
thomas > our package with chris still ok larr ... his regular price i definitely can't afford.
darrelandgeri
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Mei > you better start looking, a lot of us already confirmed our venues.
how many tables are you looking at ?
I think you can just email to all the places you are interested in and they will send u the details. or list out the places you want, and whoever has checked out the place will give u the details.
how many tables are you looking at ?
I think you can just email to all the places you are interested in and they will send u the details. or list out the places you want, and whoever has checked out the place will give u the details.
