Hi Crayon2512,Sancai,
i tink for the GUODALI, no need to give hongbao to the PIL, elderly. Oni on the wedding day itself, then u give angbao to them. Tis is wat i gather fm my mum, but my mum is supposed to give a new pair of pants to my FH on GUODALI. Acutally, by rite on GUODALI, FH is not supposed to come, i tink is oni Auntie come. But for me, FH will be delivering all the cakes, oranges, pingjin..etc to us, & then be the driver to distribute to my relatives too. & oso on the GUODALI, ur mum is supposed to hand over the red tinks like lamps, baby tub,needlebox... to ur FH & then u have to put everything into ur hse for gd luck. I juz purchase all these tinks last Sat.
Well, then for "tingching" is the day tat ur PIL come to ur hse & ask ur parents for ur hand in marriage. Tis is so called official to acknowledge both families lor. Well, tats all tat i can contribute as for me we did not practice "ti-chin". We juz pick a day to discuss our marriage date, dinner venue.....
Hope wat i contribute helps u ppl
! & one more tink, tat is the "red tinks" is to be paid by ur mum, as tat is her duty to give u luck...