Recent content by Jay Al

If you find something, you just opened a can of worms. It can lead to breakup or divorce. If you find nothing, you show that you don't trust him even though he hasn't done anything wrong. Again, this can lead to breakup or divorce. It's lose-lose.

Does anyone here have experience engaging two property agents (one by each spouse) to sell the matrimonial flat? How does it work?

I'm not sure if I can find something concrete. It was part of the out-of-court negotiations that led to an uncontested divorce. The price is already baked into the lump sum maintenance. As you can see, I put in extra effort to make sure she doesn't disturb me again. In fact, everyone around me...

Long story short. My divorce is uncontested and I got the interim judgement already. My ex and I agreed back then that I will stay in the flat alone until it's sold, and she will not enter it again. I paid her a sum of money as part of the deal. She also agreed that I'll engage my own property...

Injustice it is. A piece of (relatively) good news: We finally signed the Draft Consent Order this morning. I will have to pay her a hefty lump-sum maintenance and give her half the net gain from the sale of our HDB flat (even though she contributed very little). It is painful to sign away...

Is the implementation of the Woman's Charter so one-sided that men who suffered under unreasonable wives have no recourse? And still need to part with their hard-earned money after going through the ordeal? It is hard to believe that the court would ignore the fact that the men suffered greatly...

I tend to agree. With or without the Woman's Charter, a lot of men are getting married without thinking it through and setting up themselves up for trouble. Please thick twice, thrice, four times and again before making the decision.

caution, you have PM! Without going into the ugly details, I'll just say that I have served her the Writ and she flipped out at my brutal honesty. But when her angry reaction subsided, she is still trying to strike a deal (read: money). On my end, I also prefer to strike a deal and cut off all...

Hi lbk, your case is quite different from mine then. I have no children and just trying to get a clean break without going broke.

I want to sell to the open market. Neither I nor my ex will be eligible to retain the flat. I heard it can be done only if the divorce date is really near the MOP such that the 3 months period for you to sell will cross the MOP. Any truth in that?

It brings me great sadness to revive this post. Before anything, caution, you were right. All they wants is our money. My soon-to-be ex-wife is now asking for more and more money in various ways. It is getting very annoying and I am tempted to stop compromising for an agreement and simply fight...

I face a similar problem. I am getting divorced and my flat is under MOP (I've owned it for 4 years 2 months). My lawyer told me that it is unlikely for the divorce proceedings to drag for 10 months and cross the MOP, so I might have to surrender the flat to HDB. However, my ex's lawyer told her...

Thanks everyone for your kind advice. miloice - Agreed, the best and most definitive way is to get a black-and-white answer from HDB tinzhen - I may have to appeal to MP in the end. My parents are quite old-fashioned and not very supportive of my divorce. In fact they think I'm not serious...

Hi miloice, I can understand why HDB will look at appeal cases with skepticism. There are many black sheep out there. For my case, my dad is a hawker who makes barely enough and has very little CPF savings. My mom is a retiree and has a brain tumor. Her medical treatments so far have drained...

Hi all, I'm a newbie here but I've read some very good advice about ending an ill-fated marriage amicably and moving on with life. The time has come for me to walk down that road and I hope to get some specific advice about ending things cleanly for both myself and my wife. Some background...