HELP! To those LDR lovers out there, this will be my proposal...

zslim86

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Hi my name is Jason, me and my girlfriend has been in a relationship for almost 3 years. However, due to the geographical distance between us, it makes us feel a little timid to continue. Here, I’m going to tell you our story right from the beginning. At the end of this story I hope you will give your support to me and to those who are having a long distance relationship.

Our story begins at about slightly more than 2 years ago. On this lucky day, I was set out to Tioman Island, Malaysia, early in the morning from Singapore to attend an underwater clean-up event. During that journey, I’ve met the girl who moves my heart and her name is Yingying. Just like me, she too was travelling alone to Tioman Island from Singapore. We travelled on the same bus, waited in the same ferry terminal hall and boarded on the same ferry to get to our destination. Throughout the journey, I dared not to step up and take my initiative to have a conversation with her, because I was too shy to talk to someone like her as she's being a crush to me. At that moment, I chose to stay silent and admire her from afar. When the ferry stopped at the first pier of Tioman (Tioman Island has several piers and villages), she dashed out of the cabin and disappeared from my sight. My heart was filled with disappointment and regret because I thought I wasn’t able to see her again. However, just a split second after, there’s a voice caming from outside the cabin, I knew that’s her voice trying to explain to the local ferry operator who had limited English proficiency that she had alighted wrongly. Without any hesitation, I quickly moved towards them and get her back in again. Then we started to talk to each other and after a short conversation and some local guidance from me, I find that this was her first visit to Malaysia. Since she was travelling alone in Malaysia and is not able to converse in Malay, I then pass her my mobile number and ask her to contact me in case of emergency.

Thanks to the existing technology and internet, we are able to keep in touch till today. Since then, we started to get to know each other well and only found out that our ancestral originated from a small village called Wuyang in Fujian China. In fact, she grew up in that village where my great grandfather was born and brought up before migrating to Malayan. However, she’s currently working in Beijing, and came to Singapore just for short term project at that time. She was having her holiday trip to Malaysia just before she left Singapore and this is how we met. On the other hand, I’m a home-grown Malaysian who grown up in Kuala Lumpur the capital of Malaysia and I’m currently having a permanent job in Singapore. After slightly more than 2 months, I find that we both have feelings for each other and I decided to confess my feelings towards her. At the beginning she wasn’t really sure to be in a relationship and part of the reason is because of our distance. Despite that, she gradually accepted me and our relationship has become more intimate day by day. Often, we exchange letters, postcards and sometimes gifts whenever we have a reason to celebrate. After about a year of our last meet up in Tioman, I travelled to Beijing to see her. She brought me around the Beijing city and we also visited the Forbidden City, the Great Wall and many more interesting places. Nonetheless, good time always slip by so quickly, till we didn’t even realised it. We did not know what future lies in front of us and we certainly will be missing each other when we were both apart. Fortunate enough after 3 months, she flew to Singapore to attend her ex-superior’s wedding and this allowed us to meet again for the third time. I took her around places in Singapore that she hasn’t visited before. Throughout these 2 years, we had spent our holidays together in several places. She came to my home in Kuala Lumpur, we both travelled to Malacca, Kota Kinabalu, and even hiked up to Mount Kinabalu. In the last holiday, we'd spent some time together in Inner Mongolia during China’s long autumn break. As the winter is approaching, it was very cold when we travelled there. From all the trips that we've spend together, they were indeed great experiences for both of us and we always cherish these valuable time whenever we travelled together.

However, when our relationship comes into the third year (which is this coming September), things have changed a little, we no longer talk to each other as frequent as before, and our conversation has become less and less intimate. At first I thought she was too busy, but after I've tried several times to get her talking in regards of this matter, she finally opened up her feeling to me. She confessed that she was too afraid to continue to commit into this relationship because one of us might not be able to suit ourselves to a foreign country if one of us decided to move in together in the future. Besides, she was also worried that we might quarrel upon our daily chores as both of us were ingrained and bonded to our own culture and lifestyles since we haven’t really spend much time together. Eventually, after some persuasion and guidance from me she gradually put down all these fear and let us return to the our normal states. Since then, I started to ponder about this and now I’ve decided to settle down with her and want to propose to her in our next meeting which will be happening very soon. I wish my proposal will be a memorable experience to her and I need help from all of you good fellow netizens around. It is very simple, all you need to do is to write your message on a piece of paper and take a photo of it together with you and send them to me. Example are as below:

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I’ll then make a movie slide from all of the photos I’ve received to give her a surprise and some encouragement on our relationship, and of course I’ll then ask her to marry me.
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This is the end of my story. I hope all the long distance lovers around the world can give their best to each other (you all rocks!!). I wish you all like my story and hope you could help me by sending your photos with your messages on it to this email: [email protected]
Let’s pray that I have a successful and memorable proposal. Thank you for your support.

Limited writing skills, hope you all still enjoy reading this.

Below is the Chinese version of my story, and there's some photos too. I really hope you all can help me.

小哥(可以叫我节省/Jason)第一次在论坛里发帖。请各位大哥大姐小弟小妹们帮帮忙也把这贴子传出去吧。
如有不对或造成反感的地方敬请多多包涵。

我和我的女友异地恋拍拖快三年了。可是由于我们之间的地域距离让我女友感到有点害怕和我继续发展下去。
以下是我们一开始认识直到拍拖的异地恋爱故事。我希望你们读完后可以出点力,
帮帮我还有像我们一样的异地恋人们。

话说回来,还记得在两年多前,我一大清早就从新加坡出发去参加一项刁曼岛的海底清理环保活动。
在这次的旅途当中给我遇见了那位让我心动的她,而这位女孩的名字叫莹莹。莹莹她跟我一样也一个人从新加坡启程去刁曼岛游玩。
我们一起乘同一辆巴士,在同一个码头等候渡船,之后乘同一艘渡船前往刁曼岛。
一路上由于我是一个比较腼腆的男生,我并没有主动的向她搭讪而选择了在旁偷偷的观察着她。

当我们抵达岛上的第一个码头时,她从船里一箭步的走了出去,我当时还以为我已经错过了这次和她相识的机会。
正当心头还在后悔的时候,那熟悉的声音又从船外传了进来。
原来她并不是要在这码头下船(如果你们有去过刁曼岛的话应该知道他们有好几个码头跟旅游区),不过正当她想回到船上时却被不精通英文的船员制止了。

感谢上天给了我多一次机会,我当然也毫不犹豫的赶到舱门前为她解围。
之后经过短短的十几分钟的交谈以及对刁曼岛指导后,才知道这是她第一次来到马来西亚。
毕竟只有她一个女生来这旅游,而且不精通马来语,我就把我的手机号给了她,好在她遇上困难时有个人可以照应(她要去的目的地跟我不一样,住了刁曼岛的主要城区)。

感谢现有的科技与网络技术,后来我们就开始并保持了电话网络联系。
在网络上交流期间,我们才发现原来大家出自同一个祖籍,都来自福建永春的一个小村,梧洋。不过目前我们各自都在不同的城市里打转。
她小时候在永春梧洋里长大,目前在北京上班,当时的她刚完成了公司在新加坡里的一项短期项目,乘还未回北京之前好好的在附近邻国旅游度假而被我遇上了。

而我呢,却来自马来西亚首都吉隆坡,目前在新加坡有长期的工作。我们交流了大概两个多月,当我感觉我们对彼此都有一定程度的欣赏跟好感时,我就鼓起了勇气向她表白。
一开始基于距离的关系,她并没有表示愿意交往但也对此事也没有特别的反感。不过后来我们的感情也正因为这件事而渐渐变得更加的亲密了。
期间除了以网络交流之外,我们还会互相通过书信跟明信片来往,在重要的日子里也不忘互相给对方寄些小礼物。

过了大概一年后,我就去了北京找她,而这一次是我们见面分开以来的第二次面对面接触。
她带着我到北京城游玩看看,我们还去了故宫,长城还有很多有趣的地方。
不过愉快的一周很快就这样过去了,我们当时也不知道下一次见面的机会在何时到来。

还好很快的,三个月以后她又飞到了我工作的城市新加坡参加她公司前主管的婚礼,而让我们有了第三次见面的机会。
这一次我带着她到她在新加坡时还未去过的地方。

我们前前后后在这短短的两年里也一起去了好几个地方旅游,她也到过了我的家乡吉隆坡。接着也带了她去了马六甲,亚庇,还一起登了京那巴鲁山。
在最后一次的旅游,我们趁着去年中国秋季的长假去了中国东北内蒙赏秋,当时冬天快要来了,气候特别的冷特别的干。
我们一路走来,一起经历的事跟物的确挺艰辛难得的。而且每次出游旅行我们都会特别的珍惜在一起度过的时光。

不过当我们的感情来到第三年时(今年九月就三周年了),有一天突然发现我们不再像以前那么的亲密了,交谈也变得越来越少。
起初我还以为是大家忙开了,但后来在我的追问下,我才得知她开始对这样的异地恋产生恐惧而想慢慢的疏远我。
原来她深怕我们其中一方将来到对方的城市里展开新生活时会不习惯,怕会发生文化冲击;毕竟大家已经习惯了各自当地的文化与生活。
不仅如此,她也担心在这两年多里我们其实并没有长的时间在一起,可能会由于地域文化的关系,深怕以后我们会各自坚持自己对事物的看法跟习惯而产生冲突。

还好在我一而再三的劝导下,她慢慢的的放下了对未来的恐惧,打开心扉让我们继续交往下去。那一晚我们聊了好久,晚上根本就睡不下去。
之后的今日经过我几天的反复思考,我决定了要在我们下一次的见面的当儿向她求婚。想到要求婚,一生人就可能只经历一次,我当然是想给予她一个难忘的求婚。
不过这难忘的求婚需要你们各位好网民的鼓励和帮助。

事情很简单,你们只要为我在一张纸上写下你们想对我们说的祝语,跟祝语一起合影然后发到我的邮件里就可以了。例子如下:

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不管你们写什么语言我都能接受。过后我会把你们的祝福做成一部短片给她一个大大的鼓励,希望我们能一起坚持的走下去。

以下是我们旅游时拍过的照片,希望你们多多支持。
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2013年我去北京找她时的第一张合影。

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晚上聊困了,她说要准备睡了。

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她人在外地生日也不忘为我庆生。

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之后为她亲自弄的生日卡片。

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我去了文莱出差,这是我给她发的明信片。

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她也把她的心寄了给我,这是她发前拍的。

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给她寄的刁曼纪念T shirt,我自己也有一件,她一收到就马上拍给我看了。

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长城上的她走不动了,只好拉着。

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情侣装合影
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她也把我带去了她同事的聚会,有点小紧张,庆幸的同事们都很喜欢我。

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她第二次来到了新加坡,也是我们第二次碰面。

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金沙外的夜景。

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在新加坡巧遇的永春会馆,我们祖籍的会馆。

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2014年她来到了我家乡吉隆坡。

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吉隆坡展览门外。

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在双峰塔桥上自拍。

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马六甲古城。

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马六甲鸡场街。

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亚庇昆达山养牛场和我们出发前在山脚下的拍的合照。

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终于开始登山啦~

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路上遇到登山的大妈们,年轻人该加把劲了。

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采野莓吃,补充能量。

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这时我们就快抵达半山的住宿了。

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攻顶后不幸的遇上了大风雨,无法完成世界最高的via ferrata还是有点遗憾的。

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踏在筋斗云上原来就是这样的。
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一起参加了丰收节,沙巴亚庇每年五月的大庆典。

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跟友族们互动~

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2014年秋冬东北内蒙之旅刚下飞机的第一站,满洲里。

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第二站额尔古纳,我们第一次一起上山等日出,当时气温零下7-8度,冷。。身体不知觉的缩了上来。

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为日出跳起来,暖暖身子!

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影子相连

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我们大家都在沉思些什么呢?还是在装酷?

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大概在去刁曼岛等候渡船时也是这个样子吧~ 就在人群中偷瞄了你一眼,我的世界就永远的改变了。

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内蒙的第三站,室韦。

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草原上的铁马记。

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第一次在广阔的草原上骑马,超爽!马儿也挺温驯的!

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我们像内蒙族么?

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巧遇的内蒙族婚礼!没拍到车子的话,情景就跟童话一样吧!

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内蒙族新郎与新娘子

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河的彼岸就是邻国俄罗斯了。

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好模特!
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月亮代表我的心

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之后她却把这个心给吃了

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去着一个很神秘的地方,路上根本就没车,简直high翻了!

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之后果然给我们来到了一个很神秘的地方,那地方叫奇乾,就十几户人家。

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一见面就跟我们很熟络的小黑,还跟着我们一起上山探路。

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还好有小黑,我们不至于迷路,也能为我们壮胆防夜狼。

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我们住宿那的老爷爷跟奶奶。老爷爷是俄罗斯跟华族联婚的后裔。

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各种跑各种跳,草原给人的感觉就是自由!

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奇乾小村子就这么大。

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一起乘绿皮火车去旅途的最后一站,可能是累,也可能想着旅途快结束了,大家的表情都笑不出来了。

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来到了我们旅途的最后一站,敖鲁古雅鄂温克族,他们是中国最后一个驯鹿部落。我们还是第一次那么近距离的接触它们。

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很快的终于来到我们旅途的尾声。我很感谢她一直以来都很用心的迁就着我,由于本人自小茹素,她一路上也尽心的配合我。
之后还为了我们的未来顾虑了那么多。不过在这里我想让她知道爱的力量是可以很强大的,不管距离有多远,未来有多难,只要大家爱着对方,心态正确,我相信我们一定能修成正果。
在这故事的结尾,我要为和我们一样的异地恋恋人们加油,要珍惜彼此。也希望你们会喜欢我们的故事,当然更希望你们会给一点力,发你们的祝语照片到 [email protected]
好让我这次的求婚计划成功。照片越多越好,截止日期为2015年5月2日。谢谢支持!!! 也请你们尽情转发!!感恩!!

小哥目前写作能力有限,希望你们不要介怀。

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