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November 2024

6 Common Things Brides Do That May Annoy Their Bridesmaids

By Audrie Soh

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Learn about the things brides do that annoy her bridesmaids to avoid doing them to your bridesmaids.

Weddings are joyous celebrations filled with love, laughter and excitement, but the magic of wedding planning also brings with it a fair share of stress, especially for the bride. That’s where her bridesmaids come in, her closest group of friends whom she can trust and rely on in times of need, and who are willing to step up to support and help her in this exciting but equally trying time of her life.

While bridesmaids are expected to lend a helping hand or listening ear to the bride, sometimes her demands and under-appreciation may leave them feeling more frustrated than happy to be helping out. We’ve listed out six common things brides tend to do, sometimes unintentionally, that annoy her bridesmaids, so you can learn and avoid these pitfalls for a wonderful wedding experience for both you and your girls.

1. Insisting on Identical Gowns

Your bridesmaids get that you want a uniform look for a sense of cohesiveness when you take your bridal party shots with them, but forcing them into the exact same dress when they each have their own unique style, personality and body shape will not sit nicely with all of them. While they are honoured to be part of your wedding and more than happy to take a step back so you can have the spotlight for your special day, they also do not want to look uncomfortable or unflattering in a dress that does not complement them in any way.

2. Setting a specific look for your bridesmaids’ outfits

Sure, you’ve given your girls free rein to decide what outfits they want to wear to your wedding, but when that freedom to choice is chained to a long list of criteria that they have to follow as they choose their outfits, it can make them more frustrated than freeing. Your bridesmaids may like they’ve merely been given the illusion of choice, since they are still contained by a host of specific rules around the colour, fabric, length, or style of the outfit they choose. If you really need to create a set of guidelines for their outfits, make it short and simple, and keep it vague.

3. Requiring Professional Hair and Makeup for the wedding

Professional styling is an additional expense that your bridesmaids may not want to fork out on top of other wedding related expenses that they have to bear, especially if they are able to do their own hair and makeup, or prefer to be without any styling. If you insist on them having a professional do their hair and makeup, you may want to consider paying for it, or your bridesmaids may feel resentful being forced to pay for something that is less of a necessity than it is to fulfil your wants.

4. Assuming your bridesmaids will cover all costs

While your bridesmaids may not be the one getting married, they too have to pay to be part of your wedding. From bridesmaids dresses to your bachelorette party, to blessing you with a wedding ang bao and any other miscellaneous wedding expenses they may incur along the way, your wedding can get expensive for your bridesmaids. Demanding that they buy expensive dresses that they’ll only wear once or a fancy bachelorette party without considering their budgets can easily annoy your bridesmaids, since it shows that you do not care about whether they are spending within their means or not to satisfy your wants.

5. Forgetting that your bridesmaids have lives

While your bridesmaids are more than happy to lend you a hand or a listening ear as you plan your wedding, they too have their own personal lives to lead. When you start demanding constant attention or expect them to be on top of things at all times, your bridesmaids may feel resentful and frustrated at your disregard of their needs. Ultimately, your bridesmaids want to be there for you, but when you become inconsiderate of their personal lives and time, they may start to feel more like your personal servants rather than a cherished and trusted friend.

6. Taking their help for granted and not showing appreciation

One of the fastest ways to leave your bridesmaids annoyed and upset is to skimp on showing your appreciation. Your bridesmaids have dedicated significant time, energy and even financial resources to support you in your wedding journey in spite of what’s happening in their personal lives, but instead of expressing your gratitude for their contribution, you act as if it was their job to do so. That may make your girls feel that you’ve taken their acts of goodwill and love for you for granted, resulting in a build-up of tension and resentment.

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