hateyouehotmailcom
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Can someone shed some light will a serial cheater change? What causes someone to behave such a way?
Will a serial cheater change
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Probably, the serial cheater's up-bringing and his family background, bad companies he mixed affect his way of action and behaviors for his actions now.
Depends... some saying that leopard never change its spots, but it really depends, they must be convinced that they wanted to change for themselves, but not for anyone else... what abt bringing him for those hypnosis and hypnotherapy? I came across this therapy, but not too sure whether it works. Still researching on people who have heal and recover from problems.
Depends... some saying that leopard never change its spots, but it really depends, they must be convinced that they wanted to change for themselves, but not for anyone else... what abt bringing him for those hypnosis and hypnotherapy? I came across this therapy, but not too sure whether it works. Still researching on people who have heal and recover from problems.
rafflesjay
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sorry for my question.
What have he done to be classified as serial cheater?
What have he done to be classified as serial cheater?
luckymandarins
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Habitual cheating on their partner/spouse... serial cheater.
I tend to put together serial cheater always come with serial lying too!
I tend to put together serial cheater always come with serial lying too!
"Can someone shed some light will a serial cheater change?"
Typically, i do believe that for one to self-change - be it a heart-break kid, million-dollar swindler and the likes - the person must first undergo a huge setback, or receive an unexpected fall in his own life. It's like, you MAY have to taste the bitterness to savour the latter sweetness.
The way I approach this topic, is my personal life of learning some valuable lessons through the hard ways.
Of course, nothing is guaranteed.
Typically, i do believe that for one to self-change - be it a heart-break kid, million-dollar swindler and the likes - the person must first undergo a huge setback, or receive an unexpected fall in his own life. It's like, you MAY have to taste the bitterness to savour the latter sweetness.
The way I approach this topic, is my personal life of learning some valuable lessons through the hard ways.
Of course, nothing is guaranteed.
miloice
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Even the biggest setbacks cannot guarantee changes. And sometimes, inspiration from a story, movie, dream or just thinking and self-reflecting, the realization can come too.
Big setback or drama... it might not be present in all scenarios.
The only fundamental essential part is the REALIZATION itself. The person must realize the issues themselves and put in the determination to change. This is the only way it can happen.
Big setback or drama... it might not be present in all scenarios.
The only fundamental essential part is the REALIZATION itself. The person must realize the issues themselves and put in the determination to change. This is the only way it can happen.
I believe that change is possible .. everyone makes mistakes in the life and I am quite positive that he will be likely to change if he meets the right person in life who he would want to spend the rest of his life with .. then he might change because the thought of him hurting or losing her might be unbearable.
Of course, it would still be a break through for someone to change but if they willingly change and they find purpose in life such as meeting their life partner .. It is definitely possible.
Even a prisoner who has committed an offense and is release from prison can be given a 2nd chance .. why not a serial cheater ?
Of course, it would still be a break through for someone to change but if they willingly change and they find purpose in life such as meeting their life partner .. It is definitely possible.
Even a prisoner who has committed an offense and is release from prison can be given a 2nd chance .. why not a serial cheater ?
"Can someone shed some light will a serial cheater change? What causes someone to behave such a way?"
Cheat during a marriage? Just becos he has sign on that piece of paper, you want to see a different person? So if during courtship, one can accept he/she has slept with many man/woman b4, y cant accept it after marriage? Just like if i have black mole on my face, it doesn't mean after i sign that piece of paper, my mole will be gone.
Cheat during a marriage? Just becos he has sign on that piece of paper, you want to see a different person? So if during courtship, one can accept he/she has slept with many man/woman b4, y cant accept it after marriage? Just like if i have black mole on my face, it doesn't mean after i sign that piece of paper, my mole will be gone.
sgbabydoll
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Not impossible but the need to change must come from the serial cheater himself/herself. Change always starts from within ourselves.
sgbabydoll
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Even though anything is possible, I won't place my bet on a serial cheater. Serial cheater means he is no ordinary cheater. No marriage is worth the divorce in such a case.
sgbabydoll
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Sometimes we just have to let the next man or woman benefit from the changes of our ex-spouse or ex-partner.
baby_lonblue
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my ex is a serial cheater, can have many different gfs all at the same time
as we are in a LDR at that time, i could still smell many "signs" of him cheating
when i confronted him, he deny all the way , never admitted eventhough i have solid concrete evidence
to cut the story short, we still carry on the relationship as he said his focus will be on his career n making more money now, and i gladly trusted him that he can change after the bashful confrontation.
after 2 years, i see that he indeed show some changes and start to feel confident about it ,
however, i discovered on his passport accidentally 4 months ago that he was away on a 4 days trip to Taipei which he never told me a SINGLE word about it and the date shown on the passport is already 1yr + ago in Yr 2007.
of cos i never believe the stupid explanation he gave
enuf is enuf
all i realise is that a seriel cheater is very hard to change, it is all in their blood
as we are in a LDR at that time, i could still smell many "signs" of him cheating
when i confronted him, he deny all the way , never admitted eventhough i have solid concrete evidence
to cut the story short, we still carry on the relationship as he said his focus will be on his career n making more money now, and i gladly trusted him that he can change after the bashful confrontation.
after 2 years, i see that he indeed show some changes and start to feel confident about it ,
however, i discovered on his passport accidentally 4 months ago that he was away on a 4 days trip to Taipei which he never told me a SINGLE word about it and the date shown on the passport is already 1yr + ago in Yr 2007.
of cos i never believe the stupid explanation he gave
enuf is enuf
all i realise is that a seriel cheater is very hard to change, it is all in their blood
baby_lonblue
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look at Vivian Chow bf, has he changed despite given so many chances by the gf to forgive him ?
eventhough they are married now, i am sure he will find new chance again to cheat after the recent incident cool down ..
eventhough they are married now, i am sure he will find new chance again to cheat after the recent incident cool down ..
sadman2009
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By the way, just curious about cheating.
Men cheat is because they wanted to have sex more women and they can explore more about women. ( This is what I thought.)
But why do women cheat? What do they get out of it???
Can anyone enlighten me?
Men cheat is because they wanted to have sex more women and they can explore more about women. ( This is what I thought.)
But why do women cheat? What do they get out of it???
Can anyone enlighten me?
texasholdem
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thrill of being satisfied..or maybe want to get the men's fortune.
this is what i call S***
this is what i call S***
pink_sapphire
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a leopard doesnt change his spots
pink_sapphire
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hmm maybe to qualify as a serial cheater one has to cheat enough times and be found out enough by the same people .. perhaps twice .. as the saying goes once bitten twice shy
inspectorate
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If you want the serial cheater to change, you change. He will change
texasholdem
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Change is impossible in my views...don't be naive or stupid in believing just like me
ya..will change but it's just temporary. After a while, will revert back to the old ways. It's just a cycle.
ya..will change but it's just temporary. After a while, will revert back to the old ways. It's just a cycle.
pink_sapphire
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ya rather then pin your hopes on him changing might as well use the time and effort to do something better
at least away from the probability that he might cheat again
at least away from the probability that he might cheat again
~wiggly_toes
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Just wondering, does anyone personally know of any serial cheater who has changed his/her old ways?
The idea that they can change seems like a myth, much like "...and they lived happily ever after". Or Santa Claus.
The idea that they can change seems like a myth, much like "...and they lived happily ever after". Or Santa Claus.
shirleypoise
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In my opinion, if a gal has fallen for a serial cheater, unless she has real strong willpower, she'll likely b thinking that she might b THE gal for him and that he'll change for her.
In such cases, it's quite diff to stop her from falling for him. Everyone deserves a 2nd chance. Rather than stopping herself, perhaps she could give him 1 chance and observe him in the process.
In such cases, it's quite diff to stop her from falling for him. Everyone deserves a 2nd chance. Rather than stopping herself, perhaps she could give him 1 chance and observe him in the process.
pink_sapphire
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hmm i have known of a friend whose boyfriend cheated on her last time. then he came to ask for her forgiveness and they r happily married till now. well it depends on the individual la and wat hard lessons they have learnt from this encounter. I beleive that the serial cheater has to be geunine and really truthful that he/she is sorry for wat he/she did then the change will really be one for gd.
In a relationship , if the couple decides to patch back and move on giving each other 2nd chance, then must never look back or rack up the past. must have the wats past is past type of mentality and not talk about the past again. move on and lead a happy new life together.
but many a times, the scars are there and we cannot really tell a humans heart so the risk is there. but if u wanna start the relationship afresh then try to put the past behind and start anew (also depending on whether u can do it)
In a relationship , if the couple decides to patch back and move on giving each other 2nd chance, then must never look back or rack up the past. must have the wats past is past type of mentality and not talk about the past again. move on and lead a happy new life together.
but many a times, the scars are there and we cannot really tell a humans heart so the risk is there. but if u wanna start the relationship afresh then try to put the past behind and start anew (also depending on whether u can do it)
buddhabar
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IMO a cheater will not change the cheating habit. But over time and episode they will evolve to learn how to cover up better. A person will never change unless he wanted to. That is if he self confess a cheater and wants to change . If he got busted thats different because he didnt wanted to change but rather he is force to and that wont work. A drug addict can get busted 10 times and go in 10 times but there will certainly be an eleventh time. Unless the drug addict take a personal decision to check himself in rehabilitation . Nobody in this world can change anybody other than themselves.
miloice
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He is not a changed man, just a highly monitored husband. Is he happy?