Where to bring bf to cheer him up or what to give him?
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salsa_babe
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Could not get a job OR Could not get a job he LIKES?
Do simple things and dun have to have be elaborate and exaggerating.
Do simple things and dun have to have be elaborate and exaggerating.
mr_homelook_er
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some just need u to show that u love and care for them. dont just say, but u have to be able to express ur feelings to him. maybe then he will be happy to have u with him.
funtasty_funtasty
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I tink it might be easier for you to start a thread to get ppl to share what are the things they do to cheer up their partners and try to get some ideas from there...
its difficult to suggest something because, we do not know his preference, character and hobbies..etc..etc...
its difficult to suggest something because, we do not know his preference, character and hobbies..etc..etc...
sgbabydoll
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If my bf is troubled over something I will give him space and time to settle the problem.
francaisco
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>>he likes. he's currently teaching tuition, earning abt 6k. but no CPF. <<
LOL....OH PLEASE....
He teaching tuition also earning more then me. Don't he know he can just put 2k each month into his CPF, that's alot of CPF already....
He just don't know how to be contented. PERIOD
If he want's to get a 6K+CPF job with tuitioning experience... then good luck to him.
Maybe he needs to be practical. Ask him to tune in Channel 8 TV program @ about 8pm every Monday and maybe he will feel better.
LOL....OH PLEASE....
He teaching tuition also earning more then me. Don't he know he can just put 2k each month into his CPF, that's alot of CPF already....
He just don't know how to be contented. PERIOD
If he want's to get a 6K+CPF job with tuitioning experience... then good luck to him.
Maybe he needs to be practical. Ask him to tune in Channel 8 TV program @ about 8pm every Monday and maybe he will feel better.
salsa_babe
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Panicky...that's wat I was thinking too lor.
That's why I asked her...issit he cant find a job or he cant find a job he likes.
What he is earning now is so much more than some of the forummers here. He wants to earn that much, of course have to get more tuition kids. Then dun complain abt being stressed over the number of kids he has.
In fact, I dun understand both the TS and the bf.
BF not happy coz he cant get a job in an audit firm. TS 'hurting' to see the BF not happy , and asking ard for ways to cheer him up.
*roll eyes*
Be contented.
That's why I asked her...issit he cant find a job or he cant find a job he likes.
What he is earning now is so much more than some of the forummers here. He wants to earn that much, of course have to get more tuition kids. Then dun complain abt being stressed over the number of kids he has.
In fact, I dun understand both the TS and the bf.
BF not happy coz he cant get a job in an audit firm. TS 'hurting' to see the BF not happy , and asking ard for ways to cheer him up.
*roll eyes*
Be contented.
Salsa, actually cant blame TS, maybe to TS bf, tuition is a dimishing return job whereas maybe the hourly rate will drop in the near future. However as an auditor let say in those big 4 accounting firm, the beginning pay is low as compare to TS bf current wages but the salary ceiling is much higher than what an avg tuition teacher can earn.
wink wink....
wink wink....
francaisco
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Honestly, which big 4 account firm will want to hire a tuition teacher as an auditor? :S
Or is the poster just wanting to show off her guy earning 6K/month?
If stress, then lower the number of tuitions. I'm sure he can survive with 4K / month? Just stop driving that PORSCHE...
Or is the poster just wanting to show off her guy earning 6K/month?
If stress, then lower the number of tuitions. I'm sure he can survive with 4K / month? Just stop driving that PORSCHE...
wah liao, seriously.. i asking for suggestions leh. panicky, franz, salsa latina and thomas, are your comments SUGGESTIONS??? are your comments related to the topic?
& who the hell said im showing off FRANZ? if you think so, then you shouldnt comment in the first place. thank you very much.
thought this is a brides forum = for women. dont even know if you people commenting are ladies or not. hor franz, thomas, panicky and salsa latina.
tsk tsk. thanks for your VERY HELPFUL comments.
& who the hell said im showing off FRANZ? if you think so, then you shouldnt comment in the first place. thank you very much.
thought this is a brides forum = for women. dont even know if you people commenting are ladies or not. hor franz, thomas, panicky and salsa latina.
tsk tsk. thanks for your VERY HELPFUL comments.
francaisco
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KEKE, it is a bride forum, but it is not purely for women
We are honestly telling you. In all record, your guy should be happy. He isn't happy cause he isn't contented. If he isn't contented, no matter what you do, he will still not be happy.
Oh, the part about showing off is meant to be a joke, no hard feelings. But then 6K IS alot of money.
We are honestly telling you. In all record, your guy should be happy. He isn't happy cause he isn't contented. If he isn't contented, no matter what you do, he will still not be happy.
Oh, the part about showing off is meant to be a joke, no hard feelings. But then 6K IS alot of money.
francaisco
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Tuition should be quite stable in Singapore. He might want to make changes in his life.
If he is stressed, then take up lesser tuitioning.
If he is worried about CPF, then deposit some $$$ from the $6K each month.
But it will be difficult for him to find a 6K job without the relevant experience. I worked for so many years still haven't even reach that standard, maybe I sucks.
If you want a suggestion...
Go Genting!
It's the nearest coolest place, I love the weather there.
If he is stressed, then take up lesser tuitioning.
If he is worried about CPF, then deposit some $$$ from the $6K each month.
But it will be difficult for him to find a 6K job without the relevant experience. I worked for so many years still haven't even reach that standard, maybe I sucks.
If you want a suggestion...
Go Genting!
It's the nearest coolest place, I love the weather there.sgbabydoll
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Diffy, please don't start mothering your bf. If he can't handle road blocks or hiccups in life, don't you think it is high time that he learns something?
agree 200%! my salary + CPF doesn't even come close to 6K. I'll be overjoyed if I can earn that kind of money..
Anyway, giving tuition is a proper job.. flexible hours, no office politics, no boss to put up with..
What happens if he manages to find a job in an audit firm and finds that it's not that great afterall (e.g. lower pay and longer hours). Is he going to get depressed all over again?? Diffy, we're just advising you the root of the problem. Just like what Franz has said, ur bf should learn to be contented. If he really wants to change job, go for it!.. be positive! what's the use of getting depressed??
Well, that's my view.. if you feel offended then there's nothing much else I can say..
Anyway, giving tuition is a proper job.. flexible hours, no office politics, no boss to put up with..
What happens if he manages to find a job in an audit firm and finds that it's not that great afterall (e.g. lower pay and longer hours). Is he going to get depressed all over again?? Diffy, we're just advising you the root of the problem. Just like what Franz has said, ur bf should learn to be contented. If he really wants to change job, go for it!.. be positive! what's the use of getting depressed??
Well, that's my view.. if you feel offended then there's nothing much else I can say..
francaisco
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It's stable cause Singapore alot of Kiasu parents.
Anyway like Panicky says, starting pay for an auditor won't be so much and the working hours is definitely much much longer. I heard some of them work till 10pm each day.
Anyway like Panicky says, starting pay for an auditor won't be so much and the working hours is definitely much much longer. I heard some of them work till 10pm each day.
sgbabydoll
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Let's not assume that Diffy's bf is so ignorant that she has to tell him everything.
sgbabydoll
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TS = Threadstarter
alcifertoh
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Seriously, if he wants, he can contribute to cpf himself. I don't see the big deal in it anyway. Otherwise, just set aside the cash for housing in future. Or is he so after the 13% from employers?
To cheer him up, give him some space and allow him to do what he likes. Or plan a holiday or something.
I don't know how CPF can make someone happy or sad. Cos frankly, I know quite some people here are willing to give up a CPF job for 6k monthly.
I also hope that when he gets a job he likes, he would not feel depress over the pay cut if there is any.
To cheer him up, give him some space and allow him to do what he likes. Or plan a holiday or something.
I don't know how CPF can make someone happy or sad. Cos frankly, I know quite some people here are willing to give up a CPF job for 6k monthly.
I also hope that when he gets a job he likes, he would not feel depress over the pay cut if there is any.
i understand the stress of being a tutor as I was one for 5 years.. Although money seems good, it is really not stable as the students can drop you quickly. Plus its really a job if you stop working, money stops coming in, During the holidays, income really can dwindle until 200 a mth or less.
However, i agree with the comments abv.. Sometimes its just important to be contented with what you have ... just my 2 cents worth ya
However, i agree with the comments abv.. Sometimes its just important to be contented with what you have ... just my 2 cents worth ya
sgbabydoll
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I think it is OK to be discontented. It could motivate us to achieve more. But I don't understand why TS must crack her head to cheer her bf up as if he can't handle disappointment, rejection hiccups?