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bearine

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My hb and I have talked about it before marriage. And, hubby wants to move much sooner than previously discussed. My bto will only be ready by end of 2017.
But he wishes to migrate before that. His main reason was the stress from job, and he doesnt like the working culture here.

Not sure should I support or advise him to rethink about it. Husband is PR. Had lived in 3 different cities, SG is the 3rd one. Wishes to migrate to a new environment.
I'm a sgrean, nvr lived in another city, only travelled for holidays. Start to feel sceptical about moving now. :(
 


the world is such a big place. Why do you want to only remain in Singapore? If given the opportunity, go explore. Especially when you are still young.
 
Have you had an intense conversation with your hubby regarding to the country he wants to move? Since he is a PR, he has not much emotional ties with Singapore and its easier for him to uproot himself and leave. I can sort of understand what you are going through because I'm based overseas too although a Singaporean.

There are so much things to discuss about before making the decision to move. Is the next country a place he is familiar with? How are both of you going to find jobs there? What is the country's economy, what kind of taxes you will need to pay? Does he have friends or family there? What about healthcare and accommodation? What about environment best for raising children?

Relocating does not happened just like that, there are a lot of options weighting heavily on your decisions. I would suggest not to say no to him but sit down with him and explore the options available. If it is a new environment he is seeking for due to stress, won't the move be stressful as well? When someone relocates, he or she will take about 3 - 6 months to finally settle in.

As for yourself, look from a positive direction, relocating is not that scary and it can bring wonderful opportunities to you. Look at it as a form of adventure. Ultimately, relocation is not something you can decide and leave by next month. Your hubby have to remember he is not deciding for himself anymore but he is making joint decision with you, as a family.
 
LILPIXIE said:
yupz.. i also want to migrate to new zealand.. but so far no job opportunities...
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There are always unlimited wants... what is your plan to achieve it? Job opportunities come when you have the right job fit and reputation. You need to work your career towards your goals if you are serious about it.
 
We were looking to migrate to NZ too. But was thinking about the education system, becoming the minority class, etc. Hmmm.. The more I research, the cons are pretty glaring for me. :(

PS. Now I have a good reason to migrate, his mum drops by too often for medical checkup and other stuff. The duration she stays nowadays get longer too. She is nice overall, but it makes me uncomfortable, feels privacy intruded. If something bad happens (hopefully not), she might have to stay here for good. But if I use that as my motivation, if something bad happens, I might end up pushing blame again. :(
 
bearine said:
We were looking to migrate to NZ too. But was thinking about the education system, becoming the minority class, etc. Hmmm.. The more I research, the cons are pretty glaring for me. :(

PS. Now I have a good reason to migrate, his mum drops by too often for medical checkup and other stuff. The duration she stays nowadays get longer too. She is nice overall, but it makes me uncomfortable, feels privacy intruded. If something bad happens (hopefully not), she might have to stay here for good. But if I use that as my motivation, if something bad happens, I might end up pushing blame again. :(
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Avoiding the mum might not be the ideal reason to migrate.
 
MiddleMe said:
Avoiding the mum might not be the ideal reason to migrate.
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bearine said:
We were looking to migrate to NZ too. But was thinking about the education system, becoming the minority class, etc. Hmmm.. The more I research, the cons are pretty glaring for me. :(

PS. Now I have a good reason to migrate, his mum drops by too often for medical checkup and other stuff. The duration she stays nowadays get longer too. She is nice overall, but it makes me uncomfortable, feels privacy intruded. If something bad happens (hopefully not), she might have to stay here for good. But if I use that as my motivation, if something bad happens, I might end up pushing blame again. :(
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Agreed. You should not migrate to get away from the mum. Would encourage you to go out and experience living in another country if there is nothing holding you back (:
 
bearine said:
We were looking to migrate to NZ too. But was thinking about the education system, becoming the minority class, etc. Hmmm.. The more I research, the cons are pretty glaring for me. :(

PS. Now I have a good reason to migrate, his mum drops by too often for medical checkup and other stuff. The duration she stays nowadays get longer too. She is nice overall, but it makes me uncomfortable, feels privacy intruded. If something bad happens (hopefully not), she might have to stay here for good. But if I use that as my motivation, if something bad happens, I might end up pushing blame again. :(
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I encouraging u to migrate to NZ. I'm planning in the end of 2017 too~ SG is good for education but not working and retire! Tax is high, but u can relax! U can own a yatch there for just few thousand Nz dollar or own a car~ I just love Kiwi so much.......
 
chloe1558 said:
I encouraging u to migrate to NZ. I'm planning in the end of 2017 too~ SG is good for education but not working and retire! Tax is high, but u can relax! U can own a yatch there for just few thousand Nz dollar or own a car~ I just love Kiwi so much.......
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Omg my partner also wans to move to NZ...
 
what jobs will you all be doing in NZ if you go over there? just curious.. as i realise more and more people want to migrate to NZ
 
somemore his current career is heavily dependent on living in SG. haha. he cant duplicate his career successful in other countries.
oh the irony!
 
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