Suffer from depression

skycloud

New Member
just want to share the things with whoever suffered the depression like me. the feeling is suck! it has been pestered me for 5-6 mths after that incident. for the past few mths, i have been seeing the doc, taking the anti-depression medicion. the medicine will make u daze, less focus sometime i reli wonder am i normal person. Crying is very norm for me esp. weekend or long weekend. alot of negative thot in my mind when i was depressed. And now i decided to go for councellig cause don't wan to reliance on the medicine.
Depression make me mood swing, frustated, anxiety and panic. Sometime, i reli feel so tired why i need to suffer for it? when i can be back to normal?? i feel like so stressful and the road for me so dark and cool.
i don't reli happy eventhough smile. just like carry a big rock behind me and make me walk so slowly and difficult. i am worn out by this kind of suck feeling. where is my life, where is my value? am i a lousy person
 


printing

New Member
Hi,
what you have mentioned above is normal. I have slipped into depression countless times before and i always recover through own efforts since friends are not always there for you.

You probably be asking alot of 'why', 'how', etc.. There is no answer for it and there is hardly anyone can answer you.

Sometimes, you just have to let 'it' go. 'It' refers to whatever issues that bother you. Learn to recognize the issues and grow maturely. Yes, it sounds simple but you can do it. You be amazed how your brain can psycho you to be positive.
 

autumni76

New Member
i've been thru this stage before as well.

find someone to talk to. a few trustable people would be good.
then they will take turn to hear and won't feel very stressed listening as well.

there're other alternatives, i've discovered.

alternative remedies, they call it.

Go to the library website and look for a book called "Natural remedies for health".
In it, there're many remedies, all natural.
The cure might take longer, at least it helps with the root of the problem.

Like using homeopathy, herbs, FOOD.
Do you know that different types of food gives different help to health, even mental/emotional ones?

Go to chinese physician. They're GOOD.
TCM really cures the ROOT of the problem. But the process is Looooong.

Get a pet if you're an animal lover. Treat it well.
Find something to focus in.
Can be gardening, writing a book, drawing, music.
Many possibilities.

Do NOT keep looking back. For whatever reason, do NOT look back.
You can look abit in future. But not now.
 

mark78

Active Member
imho anti Depression methods
1)Go exercise
2)Stop bad mouth ppl or being negative if not yr friends will LEAVE u after finding u a chore to be with
3)encourage the economy by going for retail therapy (over doing it can be detrimental to health and pocket)
4)EAT Lots of Salmon and high fibre food.
5)Avoid junk food which causes mood swing
6)Take a short break if required and try to explore new horizon in life
7)take up healthy hobbies

Life is bigger then the problem.

If you are in bad shape health or mental, then u better improve them. Life is beautiful with all the equilibrium in places. I am in pursue to find my utopia. If possible check out the DVDs "Bucket List" and "The Pursuit of"Happiness.

Yeah, pls avoid taking too much sugar and choco. Bad for mood.
 

skycloud

New Member
when i was depressed, all the negatives things will play ard in my mind. I feel like isolated myself with the rest, i don't the hope and started to ask y and y. Yes, i do always look back which make the things harder. now i trying to read the books and understand myself. alot of things i have do wrongly bt i noe it can't be change. quite bad shape now. both health and mental. i can't stand my look sometim
 

mark78

Active Member
sometimes we hate our LOOKS when we are down. Now i look HAndsome even with my BIG BELLY if my heart is joyful.

i do have my share of my sadness but really have to work the way out. I guess i have to see my divorce as a very valuable lesson. Life is my greatest teacher. Thus learn as you go loh.
 

mark78

Active Member
... well after looking at things with an OPEN heart you will find the issues we facing rather small.

care to enable your pm and pm me? Thanks
 

mark78

Active Member
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bigmac

New Member
hi, i think i know how u are feeling....

your usual routine is suddenly disrupted. now u are lost

there is nothing u look forward to.

you know, what u need/have to do, but you dont find any purpose in doing them. and you dont feel like doing anything.

there is no one there for u. even if there are friends/family, they cannot fill the void.

i am not sure how u can get out of this. but i think u need to stay as focus as u can, and as positive as u can, no matter what.

it is a matter of time, u will see the light at the end of the tunnel.

i wish i see the light at the end soon. good luck.
 

bellethel

New Member
I suffered from Pre Natal Depression before until I was hospitalized. And I took the med U mentioned before. I got well and recently something happened and I almost slipped back into depression until someone asked me this word.

When U are unhappy, u attact all the negative energy ard u and it'll make urself feel worse. Why not ask urself wat are somethings that u had left behind, shelved aside that is yet to have your attention. Redirect ur focus to ur unfinished promise/task, by looking forward to completing them, u will get your directions back in track and feel better. It works for me. I hope it can work for u too...
 

joemarv

New Member
I am not a doctor, just sharing my personal experience as I have had depressions and anxiety for sometime. The best way to get over anxiety and depression is to take a break from your regular schedule, go out, and take good sleep. This helps in clearing the mind and try consulting a specialist who can suggest you as how you can get over your problem. There are various prescription drugs to get over anxiety and depression, but these should only be used in accordance with the instruction of a physician. There is a lot of fake selling of such medicines on internet, so before you can order it online just make sure it is a real pharmacy. I am having it from http://www.xanax-effects.com
 

sadistger

New Member
im sufferin fr depression as wel i tink.i cant eat...havin insomia...pimples started poppin out...heart feelin e ache al e time.once visited e doc bt din work cos e optimism pills suppos 2 tk w slepin pills.bt slepin pils i cant tk as ive 2 tk care of my daughter.nw i din visit e doc as i worry if i go 4 divorce,i'll lose custody on my gal as it mayb detrimental on me.
 

skycloud

New Member
thanks for all the advices and sharing. I noe i can't beat it immediate, just hang on just hang on. time will heal it.. not sure how long it will take. everytime i cried, i took the medicine will tel myself next time will be better.
 
Skycloud,

You can try to make yourself occupied with other activities so that you dun spend too much of your time thinking about the past. Maybe for a start, you can try to make more friends, do volunteer work, take up a hobby etc. When you are more occupied, you will tend not to indulge with thoughts of the past. There are people who have been through worst times and they are able to recover. If other people can do it, you can too! Time will heal all wounds. Just remember: Tough times dun last, tough men do.

You can go to a few of the friends making threads in this forum to make friends and join their outings. You could then make more friends too.
 

alphinsis

New Member
i had stress-related depression. i overcome the worst.

it creeps back at times, which made me cry when i think back the painful, hurtful memories. feel why m i blamed for all things that go wrong or m i to blame.

compared to my worst period when i swallowed all the pills my psychiatrist gave me, punished myself by biting, scratching myself. insomnia.

how to overcome when hit by bad memories? anyone can share?
 

alphinsis

New Member
my medication is to b taken when necessary. due to me losing temper during the period. i left my job. as i cant concentrate at work and lack of sleep. went for several sessions with the psychiatrist now no more.

am leading a pretty healthy lifestyle ever since. except for my occasional late nites.
things somehow changed, my parents & i had a few major rows. somehow ended up my dad calling in the police at the end of each. honestly i dun see y there's a need to. i didnt harm/lay hands on either of them.

we had arguements over the years we lived, avoided one another after that, soon everythg died down & we began talking as usual.

but as of this yr the police was called in 4 times!

i've spoken to a couple of friends & an aunt of mine. they too share the same thots y there's a need to call in the police. i wanted to move out then, but changed my mind. as i done nothing wrong. besides i hav not found a job.

somehow i felt torn, very hurt by their actions. it made me recalled the times that caused me so much fear & hurt.

if anyone recall, i mentioned before havin probs with my bf's ex-wife. in terms of bad-mouthing me, txtin abusive & vulgar words etc.. it had escalated to her giving her now-bf my mobile no. him calling my mother a prostitute & even mentioning he had just finished a session with her.

all these lasted for 2 yrs. i made a total of 3 police reports and a magistrate's complaint as at 31 dec 2008. had withdrawned the complaint recently as there wasnt any more harrassment.
i put it behind me, with my lawyer's and psychiatrist's advice.

i feel i can no longer trust my parents. i cried at the slightest recollection of wat they did. the similiar fear creeps back.
 

two_piece

Member
what abt doing some volunteer work? Do you like animals such as dogs? Perhaps u can try volunteer at SPCA or some dog shelters, play with the cutie doggies, they might be able to cheer u up
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tomasulu

Member
tt, if you think you have done nothing wrong, you need a lot more help than you have gotten.

pardon the segue but is filing police reports a uniquely singaporean phenomenon? people seem to treat police resources as the forum page or storm website to complain about their sad existence. how much taxpayers' resource is spent recording such cases of domestic disturbances? i can imagine all police stations having to have regular bonfires to free up cabinet space. or do they actually record such nonsense in a proper database?
 

babywanqi

New Member
PLs be strong, when I am down, I always think of my parents. The hardship they went thru bringing me up. How will they feel if they know I am depressed. This always give me strength to carry on. I've been suicidal b4, almost gave up living, pls hang on ok.
 

miloice

Well-Known Member
Medication only helps reduce the effects but it is not a long term solution. Friends and family support are important. More importantly is yourself. You need to take the initiative to break away from the depression. Talk to the doctor, follow-up regularly on the counselloring and fill your life with more positive things.

There is nothing wrong with crying. But its purpose is really to let you let go of the emotions and feel more relieve after that. If crying is making you feel worser, then, don't cry. In the nutshell, minimize dwelling in negativity. Knowing your problem and wanting to get better is a very good 1st big step.
 

skimnslim

New Member
Hi Skycloud,

have been through depression and anxiety problem. Mine is trigger by set back in relationship and politics at work. It was really bad, my world is in grey all the time. The period lasted for 6 mths +.

How did i crawl out of the bloody hole?

Was on medication for about 4-5 months.

I quit my work and look for a new one. I settled issues/problems with my r/s. I have a very good and encouraging doc (GP), everytime i went to him crying , he would try to his best to listen to me. I have all the support from my family.

I think first you need to get rid of whats bothering you.Be it a situation, work, person. Get out of the circle, then with the help of medication and exercise, you will be on the road to recovery very soon. You NEED TO BELIEVE that you WILL RECOVER very soon. We have came out of that hole, YOU CAN TOO!! Jiayou!
 

alphinsis

New Member
i admit the part about the police reporting part. I'm not defending myself, i did realised there's a better way to handle. at that time, i was so lost, in terms of wat to do next - i've done watever i can to stay away from that woman. the torment lasted for 2 whole yrs.

On top of that, politics at work also contributed to my outburst.

as for my parents, i was their adopted daughter. i am indeed grateful bringing me up, with shelter, food, schooling. As for nuturing, nope..

i just need peace & quiet. my childhood is not a good one. my paternal grandmother creates hell of a problem - bad-mouthing us when we'r not at home. eg: tellin neighbours we forbid her to go out, didnt give her any food. She had passed away 2 yrs back, certified she has a mental related illness. i understand my dad's pressure. he in fact is going for psychiatrist treatment for at least 2 decades & longterm medication. but he didnt follow up after his mum's death.

Wat can i do, if my parents use 'bastard', 'stupid idiot' on me? All my life, this is wat i hear. i never had a say, in discussions or small-talk, when i mentioned somethg unacceptable to them, 'u shut up, u don't know anythg'.

i developed a shutoff, not to say anythg even though i want to. they followed me around, afraid i do something not right. i didnt do well in my O levels, they choose to tell me that i'm adopted that very year.

after that, i did alot of readups, continued my studies, worked part-time to finance my daily needs. i take care of everythg except rental. we talked, not very often. sometimes was told to stop coz they'r going out. yup, my parents sometimes hav more activities lined up than me.in fact i felt no longer wanted in the family. but each time after a certain arguement, i tried talking to them. goes on well for a couple of days, after that the harsh words start all over again.

i've found this forum when i had pcos 4 yrs back. i recovered in health, mentality. appreciate alot of advises shared here.

at times i'm fine, but when i'm alone, i felt so helpless. i'm afraid of this feeling. its sad la, to think back now, y do i put myself in such situation. almost 3 decades.
 

alphinsis

New Member
m thkin of volunteering at an animal shelter. adopting one is a big no-no.. my mum hates the smell, mess, inconvenience. mayb i freak her out - when i'm younger i told her i wanted a python as a pet after seeing, touching, spending time with one at the zoo.. so far i only had hamsters.

i love animals. i'm like a kid when i visit the zoo, underwater world recently.
 

sha82

New Member
Hi alphinsis

I have sent you a PM.

Everyone: I have sent a PM but am lost as to how to view private messages sent to me. Can anyone help? What's the process?
Thanks in advance!
 

skycloud

New Member
hi, meow and everyone here..
thanks for the support and sharing. My depression has been hauted me for 6 mths and 3 mths plus on medication. Everyday jt like a battle to me as i have to fight with my negative side eg: i am crying this morning and don't feel like going to work. this is my 2nd job as i quited the 1st one cause unable to concentrate and not suitable to me as well. My family and friends told me 2nd job is very gd opportunity for my career path. I agreed but my depression making it a tough job for me which i still can't focus well. I started to blame myself for not cherish it and i felt guilty whenever face to my parent and siblings.
I even think abt giving my life and don't go for doc and councellor anymore. I felt like NO HOPE to me. Is kind of feeling make me exhausted. The only thing bother me now is my ex. i still missing him alot and cry alot whenever i start to think abt him. psychiatrist advised me to go for ECT treatment, anyone know abt this clearly?
Meow, how u sorted out the r/s with ur ex? mind to share?
 

alphinsis

New Member
its difficult, but not impossible to achieve.

i felt exactly the same way. NO HOPE. NO DREAMS. NOTHING.
someone told me this: only u can help urself. take ONE step at a time. but first u need to cure urself. everything else can wait.

at times, i wake up feeling like shit, doesnt want to do anythg. i went to the extend of not bathing for 2 entire days.

i did go for interviews, sending resumes. but no replies. i'm selling things online right now, and looking for other opportunities. i cook for myself, my bf..when i feel like doing. making jellies.. though simple small steps. But hey, im doing something i enjoy.

as for my relationships, i cant say its rosy. i do still have issues with my bf & parents. all of us taking things slow, one step at a time.

i'm aware of acumulated buildups over the years, resulting in some of my very bad temper, outbursts, consequences...

take things slow, patience will follow suit. with that then u're able to see situations clearer. everyone is different, councellors, psychiatrists, friends, parents can only lend a helping hand, listening ear, sharing own experiences. Ultimately thinking, mentality, decision, actions lies in you. which will determine the result.

i believe if i can survive the day, i will nvr repeat my mistakes.

take care
 

sha82

New Member
Hi aphinsis..

thanks for responding.. have replied to your mail and also added u on facebook..
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take care..
 

blueberrytea

New Member
taking up a new hobby really helps alot.

make new supportive friends and widen your circle.

a MUST to have trusting friends to listen to you.

And, imagery might help. Like imagining youself throwing a big heavy rock down a mountain, it's like throwing away the unhappiness.
Imagine yourself at a beautiful white sandy beach.

Get a few nice friends to go for tour together.
 

alphinsis

New Member
if u guys ever think i am someone who doesnt respect my 'parents'... guess what??? they went to file a PPO against me yesterday..

so much for love.... plz before saying anythg, not every parent is great.

i can be irrational, go & file PPO against them too. But would it help? pple can talk til the cows come home.

now i will do things that will nip from the root of the problem. disowning them. it wouldnt do me any good. BUT by doing this, i wouldnt b affected by their words, actions etc...
 

alphinsis

New Member
if u guys ever think i am someone who doesnt respect my 'parents'... guess what??? they went to file a PPO against me yesterday..

so much for love.... plz before saying anythg, not every parent is great.

i can be irrational, go & file PPO against them too. But would it help? pple can talk til the cows come home.

now i will do things that will nip from the root of the problem. disowning them. it wouldnt do me any good. BUT by doing this, i wouldnt b affected by their words, actions etc...
 

skimnslim

New Member
Hi Skycloud,

you need to move on! You should stop looking back. Throw all the things related to him away. Pick up a new hobby, new skills , something u enjoy doing. Make up lessons, cooking classes, yoga or aerobics. Dun allow yourself free time to think. Make new friends. And cut all contact with your ex.
Move on dear, no point hanging on. climb out steadily and slowly. You can do it.

i summarize people's encouragement on my bed side ( on a big poster) and also key them in my mobile. When i feel down, i will look at them to remind myself. You need to depend on urself.
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Remember, all are waiting for you at the end of the hole
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Remember.. there will be rainbow after rain, the world will be beautiful again.
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lovingyou

New Member
No doubts there might not be a reason for a lot of things, but there will be a cause of why would you suffer depression ya.. Is it work stress etc? I used to think the same way as you when I was struggling to cope with the death of my grandpa and of coz some complexion infection issues. Attempted suicide as well, but I guess with encouragement and support from love one and family, I managed to pick up my life and move on. It is certainly not easy but we have to keep trying for the sake of people who cares and loves us ya.
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Most importantly is to find the cause and tried to tackle the issue.
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lonelygal

New Member
If no encouragement and support from love one and family, how? Nobody loves me. Everybody around me wants me to do what they want and need. They simply don't care how I feel. I feel lost and stuck at the crossroads.
 

lovingyou

New Member
Broken Hearted: are you okay? Before anyone can loves you, you have to love yourself, you have to cherish yourself, once you are able to do that, you will be able to find the direction and light at the crossroads.
 

toyisme

New Member
Happy thought fill your life with happiness. never negative thought influnced you because it will drag you down futher.

I know that People are eager to comment on something when they themselves are not in the situation of doing it. i admit that.
 

lonelygal

New Member
How to love myself when people around me (especially loved ones) keep condemning and belittling me? "EVERYTHING is my fault, I'm the cause of it, I deserve it." I have reflected upon myself. I find that when I don't "satisfy pple's expectations/checklist", they start their sarcastic remarks. If medicine can help me forget or block all these, I do not mind taking them.I know it's not good, but if it affects me to the extent that I break down easily in the public, then I have no choice.
 

lovingyou

New Member
Broken heart: different ppl have diff perspectives, different thinkings etc, why bother compromising yours to satisfy / meet what ppl want? It is your own life and you should not belittle yourself jus coz u are unable to meet those so-called expectations. I can't meet the general criteria of being a good wife in the criteria of the traditions as well; I don't really cook well, can't really sew well etc etc, but there are bound to be other things that I am capable in. Look deep inside you, there mus be something special about you, you just have to explore and know yourself better.
 

sassynsweet

New Member
just want to share the things with whoever suffered the depression like me. the feeling is suck! it has been pestered me for 5-6 mths after that incident. for the past few mths, i have been seeing the doc, taking the anti-depression medicion. the medicine will make u daze, less focus sometime i reli wonder am i normal person. Crying is very norm for me esp. weekend or long weekend. alot of negative thot in my mind when i was depressed. And now i decided to go for councellig cause don't wan to reliance on the medicine.
Depression make me mood swing, frustated, anxiety and panic. Sometime, i reli feel so tired why i need to suffer for it? when i can be back to normal?? i feel like so stressful and the road for me so dark and cool.
i don't reli happy eventhough smile. just like carry a big rock behind me and make me walk so slowly and difficult. i am worn out by this kind of suck feeling. where is my life, where is my value? am i a lousy person

cheer up but easier said than done! i've been in the same shoes before.
the medication does not work for me...
but its really a large part to do with activities.... stay active, exercise regularly.
u would be amazed at how exercise can make u happy.

not ask u to run till u dead tired... just jog at leisurely pace, take in the sights and sounds
if u hate running, then maybe go swimming.
if u hate swimming nor running, then go walk walk near the beach... walk till sweat a bit.
those really help.

everything that happen to u, think abt it.... what can i be cheerful abt?
force it also can be happy.....

every bad thing that happen to me, after i cried, i will think.. hmm... i am actually more experienced now.. :D
 

Joes

Member
I had depression before.

With the help of the psychologist and also self will to want to become happy, I am now much better person than I was.
Focus on what that can make you happy/important.
Whatever that cause you to go into depression, most of the time they are things that we can't control.

So if you have a problem or something you worry about next time - think about it if it is within your control?
If Yes,
draft up a map on the problem to brain storm for a solution.

If No,
throw it out of your mind and not dwell on it.

As you keep repeating this cycle of thoughts, eventually your brain would incline to push out the negative thoughts by habit. And your depression would go away with it. ;)
 

Roxie88

Member
HI,
Just thought i will share my experience here. Very often the "happy outlook" might not be the real reflection of the true person. I had bad episodes of depression which started after someone under my charge committed suicide. It happened despite a few of us already there to offer our support and we were already helping that person to get profession help. It was a terrible ordeal! I don't know about others but this remains a dark part in my life. Always thought i can "self talk" and time can heal, but still depression is hard to self heal i guess. Then postnatal depression set in and together with many other issues in life, i always felt God is testing me and pushing my limits too hard. There was a period i cried every single day, cried myself to sleep, woke up, cry and fall asleep again.. Those were the times where my so called " best friends" and buddies unfriended me on social media and pushed me to a corner. They tried to predict what is wrong with me, gave me situations that they think i did and guess what, i was in such bad shape then that i just admit to whatever they said i did. Haha.. that's the friends i had.. for 10 years!! till today, i guess there is still this "she" who thinks she is upright and so "high up" that she can treat others in this manner. depression is hard to fight. i can only keep fighting the "demons" everyday and hope for a better tomorrow. The phrase "Short is short, treasure it" keeps me going.
 



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