Self Confidence VS Money

[cocobaby]

I have tender my resignation yesterday without a new job. My salary is good but money unable to buy back my self confidence.

I am deeply hurt by my boss unkind statements and hurting words. Due to some unreasonable office issues, he dont trust me at all, find faults on me, in his eyes I cant even handle simple task, under performace and below his expectations.

WOrse of all, he don't even bother ask me for re-consideration to stay......

For 5 years, I put my effort to assist him to grow the company from zero, with much devotions and loyalty. Now....leave with a broken heart.

Need time to nurse back my confidence..........

 

[lost_n_sad]

Coco, is just a job. Dont be too hush on yourself.

Hug Hug

 

[mistral]

How about taking your mind off this, and spend more time on a hobby you like? Chances are, you will do well in it (since you enjoy it) and that could boost your self-confidence. Attending a new training course could help boost your confidence as you would have upgraded your knowledge or skill sets. Even spending time helping those who need assistance could help keep your feelings positive.

By the way, from what you've described (helping to grow a company from zero), your contribution is significant and you could update this to your resume.

Take care and all the best

 

[powder]

Coco,

seems that it has come full circle... so headed for some paper upgrades or time off? when u're ready to start... u know wat to do...

 

[kleobis]

Coco, don't think so hard. Like what some forumers have said of relationships, not happy, just leave. At least this is just a job, not so emotional.

TBH, no one is indispensable. Life goes on for your boss, so why care so much about him or the company? Don't let him affect your confidence. It's totally not worth getting upset over someone who is unreasonable. You deserve better.

 

[cocobaby]

So sad today........I learned that he is accusing me for destroying teamwork and demoralise all my colleagues. I don't understand why he become like this. We have being working for 5 yrs and yet he can harbour such thoughts.

I wonder how I get such abilities to brainwash
others???

How I am getting worried that he will starts to get defendsive and find excuses to save himself......will he make me cant find a job after I leave? Am I worried for no reasons?

 

[kleobis]

Think he's just unreasonable. Please leave. It's not worth it.

I hv a guy friend who was so affected by his female boss that he starting feeling nauseous at work, crying at night, cannot eat, cannot sleep type. Do you really wanna be like that?

Some people are plain ridiculous and nasty. Don't bother about them. Leave them before they get to you and affect your self-confidence.

It's just a job. Yes, mkt now isn't tht great, but if you spend more time thinking about how nasty he is rather than doing your work, tht's just dumb too right? Please just leave...

 

[lost_n_sad]

Coco,
when someone don't like you, everything you done is all wrong in their eyes. Even for things you didn't do but is wrong, they will point the fault on you.
Don't bother yourself with this kind of 'xiao ren'.

 

[powder]

Wah Coco,

u tendered liao still can get so much info?

better be sure your closest colleague is not screwing u and driving the wedge? ie she tell boss u said this.... she tell u boss said that... and your resignation is the ultimate aim.

the way i look at it, u are very affected by others... so Even if u can do your job, u will not feel u're doing enough if someone else says u're not doing enough.

 

[tomasulu]

what do your former colleagues think of you? if it is just him, and most others think he is an ass, walk away with your head held high and a smile on your face.

otoh...