My problem mum

[twinz]

My mum is someone who is totally doesn't how to solve her problems... my problems is my problems... her problems also my problems... I'm very sick and tired.... how come I can't have a normal family with happy and nurturing parents?

My mum is totally can't think and reason what is right or wrong. Sometimes I need to teach her how to be a better mum... even though I'm not one yet...I should not be doing this...I should only be doing my role as a daughter ....

Sometimes the way she does things is forgetful... does things never plan in advance, just rely on ppl. I'm sick and tired.

If I nag at her, she's not happy. Why is a mum acting a child for me take of?

I got problems with my work and marriage, she can't understand... the most she listen but can't give good advices and reasoning...

Recently, she even blame me for causing her to fall down and injured her head because I scolded her early in the morning for not able to follow simple instructions that I asked her to do. That really hurt me... her onc sentence wiped out all my care and concern for her I knew she fell down...

I was pissed with her last week when she said "how come I didn't sub card for her as my sis has sub a card for her...!" Can't she see my earning power is not as good as my sister!!!!!!!!

I'm so tired mentally with this sort of mother...

 

[carlislesg]

I understand your current situation, I'm just lucky to have a very good mother. I don't have a clue how to help you in this case, but venting out your frustrations in here is actually a good thing, rather than keeping it to yourself. I guess, patience is all you need to in this case.

 

[miloice]

"how come I can't have a normal family with happy and nurturing parents?"

No one can choose their parents. No matter how imperfect my parents are and how difficult a family life I had, I appreciated them and the unique background that grew the man I am today. We can only do what is within our limits. At the end of the day, we have own life and priorities too.

btw, what is normal family. Every family has its unique issues. Its not all rosy and sweet. In many situation, we can choose to dwell on the negativity or look at the positive. Often, focusing on the negative leads a vicious cycle of negativity. In the long term, it ruins relationship.