Was divorced in Nov last year. Did not claimed custody of children -2 boys aged 6 & 7 / alimony due to a reason that leads to so much endless complication now. While we were still married, I had frauded 2 credit card applications under his name. Used up all the credit to the max and had difficulty paying since. I may seem like an immoral wife who had e gumption to do all this but in my desperate situation then, being out of job for almost 2 years, had not been getting any financial support from hubby since day 1 of marriage, 2 babies to raise, I'm left with no choice. He wasnt aware of all this, not until towards the end of our marriage. He threathened to further pursue the fraud case shud I claim custody of kids/alimony. He did made a police report once while we were still in the divorce process but somehow, I managed to persuade him to withdraw the report and he did. Total outstanding credit card debts amounted to ard 11k and we had put into a written personal agreement that I have to settle on a mthly basis w/o fail. He hd spoken with e banks himself on e instalments. Recently, in Jan, I had difficulty to pay the mthly instalment to the banks and he keep demanding me to pay up. Finally he lost his temper, came to my house & assaulted me. Witnessed by my 2 kids and younger sis. I made a police report, obtained medical report from CGH and also filed for a magistrate complaint. We have to attend a mediation session 30/3. Magistrate told me i can either charge him or ask for compensation. wat kind of compensation can I ask for? 1 thing i know is i want my kids back. But wat if he brings up e fraud case in court? can i be charged and lose my assault case against him? Can e personal agreement paper we signed be in-forced in court?
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Messy messy divorce involving credit card fraud, assault, etc..
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hoddioo,
the fraud took place between 2005-2006. At that point of time, I was retrenched and did not rcvd financial support from my ex hubby. All expenses for the house, babies was burdened to me still. Apart from that, I was constantly abused during our marriage. Police report had been made twice but in the end I decided to just let the matter rest. I hang on just becos of the kids. They were still very very young then. Of course Im alrdy working now, with stable income. And in any case, if e custody is being granted to me, ex husband wud hv to b responsible for kids maintenance. How can he simply wash his hands off just like dat? Further, wif e basis of all his abuses / assault dat happened rite in front of my young kids' eyes, does that makes him a person wif a 'better' moral than me? Fyi, e recent physical attack aft we divorced was horrible. It all happened under my void deck. I was punched, kicked, n stepped on the head n all over e body. All this while, both my kids were crying helplessly! So wud u still consider a violent man a better parent to take care of 2 young kids??
the fraud took place between 2005-2006. At that point of time, I was retrenched and did not rcvd financial support from my ex hubby. All expenses for the house, babies was burdened to me still. Apart from that, I was constantly abused during our marriage. Police report had been made twice but in the end I decided to just let the matter rest. I hang on just becos of the kids. They were still very very young then. Of course Im alrdy working now, with stable income. And in any case, if e custody is being granted to me, ex husband wud hv to b responsible for kids maintenance. How can he simply wash his hands off just like dat? Further, wif e basis of all his abuses / assault dat happened rite in front of my young kids' eyes, does that makes him a person wif a 'better' moral than me? Fyi, e recent physical attack aft we divorced was horrible. It all happened under my void deck. I was punched, kicked, n stepped on the head n all over e body. All this while, both my kids were crying helplessly! So wud u still consider a violent man a better parent to take care of 2 young kids??
LoveRiver,
If it is better for you to claim custody of the kids, then you should.
Regarding the fraud case, it's better for you to accept the punishment than to having to live in fear that it can be used against you.
Personal agreement is legitimate as long as it doesn't break the law. It should be supported by a witness who is willing to testify if the authencity of it is being questioned. So usually people would sign papers in front of a lawyer or notary public.
Hope things are better for you now.
If it is better for you to claim custody of the kids, then you should.
Regarding the fraud case, it's better for you to accept the punishment than to having to live in fear that it can be used against you.
Personal agreement is legitimate as long as it doesn't break the law. It should be supported by a witness who is willing to testify if the authencity of it is being questioned. So usually people would sign papers in front of a lawyer or notary public.
Hope things are better for you now.
moistfaucet
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if family have money problems, it will trigger the chain of event. a mole will become a mountain.
It is weird that you are saying that you frauded the 2 applications without him knowing at all. And is it really impossible to get any money from him in any way. Because he wanted to keep the kids, means that he should have the ability to pay for their expenses.
And the way you describe on the assualt seems like he is pinning you down trying to prevent you from doing something and what caused the assualts?
And the way you describe on the assualt seems like he is pinning you down trying to prevent you from doing something and what caused the assualts?