sgbabydoll
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Some girls don't know when the appropriate moment is lor. They will be princessie all the time.
Love but cant work...
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"Po Huai Tian Wang" = HBH!!!
Don't make this thread into Food Thread Again....wahahaha.........
Guess it's not much on the behaviour, it's more on the attitude towards handling matters..
One may agree or admit mistakes by juz saying it loud... But is it true? Only one know =)
Don't make this thread into Food Thread Again....wahahaha.........
Guess it's not much on the behaviour, it's more on the attitude towards handling matters..
One may agree or admit mistakes by juz saying it loud... But is it true? Only one know =)
sgbabydoll
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"One may agree or admit mistakes by juz saying it loud... But is it true? Only one know =)"
Princesses don't care as long as the bf/hb says sorry first and coax them.
Princesses don't care as long as the bf/hb says sorry first and coax them.
alcifertoh
New Member
Iris I never hor. I was juz drawing relations on the man with toys.
salsa_babe
New Member
ya...hbh is one of the siao one...in fact...very siao liao...he needs medication
alcifertoh
New Member
Nah I wun. I will just grab a bottle open up and start drinking haha. Ok, return the thread please.
i agree with anthony. by the way, i dont always expect my bf to coax me whenever we argue, in fact during usual times sometimes im the one who is taking care of him, yet he doesnt feel im controlling him. So ur definition of princess isnt entirely true on my part.
Anyway my bf doesnt like to always remain so serious he like to talk cock to disturb me as this is his character. So i also do the same back to him.
Times when he is really quiet should be his most serious moment which he might be doing some thinking.
Anyway my bf doesnt like to always remain so serious he like to talk cock to disturb me as this is his character. So i also do the same back to him.
Times when he is really quiet should be his most serious moment which he might be doing some thinking.
lookingback
New Member
guess u still understand him for his action.
HELLO, are u a big girl???????????????????
since when i am assuming or criticising u this and that?????
those questions are meant to trigger your confusing thoughts that u’re currently having.....
but ur kind of response have shown ur extremely defensive nature and portrayed “i'm-no-wrong” kind of thoughts, isn’t it?
and here you were yakking away…. harped and harped on what?
having had an issue that I was actually trying to get you….
to understand your stubborn, princessey and whiny self?
u don’t need to indicate name but i shld know?
is that tough to lift your fingers to type the addressee names, or are u simply peeking through your fingers?
HELLO, i’m not playing “guess x3” like ur kind of communication with the bf
and I have no time for that… and it’s pretty draining to assume that he assumes that u assume which he assumes, isn’t it?
man, i can certainly feel the annoyance that the bf feels...
since when i am assuming or criticising u this and that?????
those questions are meant to trigger your confusing thoughts that u’re currently having.....
but ur kind of response have shown ur extremely defensive nature and portrayed “i'm-no-wrong” kind of thoughts, isn’t it?
and here you were yakking away…. harped and harped on what?
having had an issue that I was actually trying to get you….
to understand your stubborn, princessey and whiny self?
u don’t need to indicate name but i shld know?
is that tough to lift your fingers to type the addressee names, or are u simply peeking through your fingers?
HELLO, i’m not playing “guess x3” like ur kind of communication with the bf
and I have no time for that… and it’s pretty draining to assume that he assumes that u assume which he assumes, isn’t it?
man, i can certainly feel the annoyance that the bf feels...
alcifertoh
New Member
That's why many withdrew liao mah. From the fairytale telling of a princess woes. Not matter how you tell the story, the flavour is still the same.
whahahaa... ya lor..
seems like only she herself can praise her bf then later complained & harped on his so called lax of behaviour then again later when many others start discussing on what he actually is doing.. and if all else are negative thots then she will bounced back again saying & quoting that she understand that he must have his reasons for doing so.. so again she is right and all others are all wrong in their assumption!!
zzzz...
anyway the ball is always round.....
seems like only she herself can praise her bf then later complained & harped on his so called lax of behaviour then again later when many others start discussing on what he actually is doing.. and if all else are negative thots then she will bounced back again saying & quoting that she understand that he must have his reasons for doing so.. so again she is right and all others are all wrong in their assumption!!
zzzz...
anyway the ball is always round.....
sometime i dont quite undstd your posting over here,just let me know ur point directly. im a straightforwards person nothing wrong. I am posting my thoughts here, ur feel free to post yr advice as said but its up to individual to seek or not, like ur mentioned also.
Ya if u insist im right & ur all wrong, no point saying i agree with this that... Of course among all the posts there tend to be certain things we agree or disagree right.. I wouldnt have post so many issues here if I am right all the way ok.
Ya if u insist im right & ur all wrong, no point saying i agree with this that... Of course among all the posts there tend to be certain things we agree or disagree right.. I wouldnt have post so many issues here if I am right all the way ok.
alcifertoh
New Member
Take a step back, re-read all the posting, draw the relation on other views to your stand, understand what generally majority is trying to deliver to you and comment on your scenario.
Why different people are saying the same thing to you. Be open about it if you are sharing. Otherwise, no point sharing for agreement.
And yeah throw justifications aside.
I sai hei liao.
Why different people are saying the same thing to you. Be open about it if you are sharing. Otherwise, no point sharing for agreement.
And yeah throw justifications aside.
I sai hei liao.
I talked to my bf again finally. And he actually mentioned that several occasions he knew wat i wanted & was thinking its just that he purposely refuse to do/say it, waiting for me to say/do it first.
For certain things i will wait for him to say/do first hoping he can be more automatic, actually he did in certain occasions.
Thus sometime he didnt do certain things which i expected, i will be upset. And he actually feels that among us, I am the one who listen to him more than vice versa. He hope i can offer some advice occasionally as I am not firm enough, be it at wk or personally.
I do not want to be v demanding thus I tend to be 'anything' He even said he tend to be demoralize coz i alway say/do wuliao stuffs at times. But he also, in fact more crappy at times. He doesnt like to be serious always, so i try to suit.
Hard to accomodate him, i try to be neutral. Sometime i also try to disturb him by words, or actions. just like vice versa. To add fun only..
Its not that he didnt think of future, he did thought of settling down. But coz of age too young, those issues, financial & career stability thus gota wait.
For certain things i will wait for him to say/do first hoping he can be more automatic, actually he did in certain occasions.
Thus sometime he didnt do certain things which i expected, i will be upset. And he actually feels that among us, I am the one who listen to him more than vice versa. He hope i can offer some advice occasionally as I am not firm enough, be it at wk or personally.
I do not want to be v demanding thus I tend to be 'anything' He even said he tend to be demoralize coz i alway say/do wuliao stuffs at times. But he also, in fact more crappy at times. He doesnt like to be serious always, so i try to suit.
Hard to accomodate him, i try to be neutral. Sometime i also try to disturb him by words, or actions. just like vice versa. To add fun only..
Its not that he didnt think of future, he did thought of settling down. But coz of age too young, those issues, financial & career stability thus gota wait.
miloice
Well-Known Member
yongqin,
its a childish game of waiting.... Whenever possible, I do the opposite. I take control of the situation to initiate. And then I feedback to make the partner reflect and feel guilty and at the same time lucky to have an understanding and patient spouse.
This way, I'm encouraging proactiveness in the relationship instead of playing on the endless childish waiting game. I encourage her to look at the big picture about the relationship beyond who's right or wrong or who wins. Surely, everyone will be angry and no one will be super nice in a fight. So, see beyond those unhappiness.
The relationship is bigger than the fight. No one wins in a fight. When we learn to understand each other better, its WIN-WIN.
its a childish game of waiting.... Whenever possible, I do the opposite. I take control of the situation to initiate. And then I feedback to make the partner reflect and feel guilty and at the same time lucky to have an understanding and patient spouse.
This way, I'm encouraging proactiveness in the relationship instead of playing on the endless childish waiting game. I encourage her to look at the big picture about the relationship beyond who's right or wrong or who wins. Surely, everyone will be angry and no one will be super nice in a fight. So, see beyond those unhappiness.
The relationship is bigger than the fight. No one wins in a fight. When we learn to understand each other better, its WIN-WIN.
sgbabydoll
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Yongqin, how come I don't get you at all????? Don't know what you were trying to say.....I just find that if it requires both to sit down and talk out things once every few days, and so much adjustments to be made on both sides in order to get along, the relationship isn't enjoyable at all.
rubbishcow
New Member
yongqin, we can't always be waiting for people to initiate the first move. Life is not really like waiting for buses you see. The right bus arrive at the bus stop and you board it after 10 mins of waiting. What if the bus is late and you are in a rush? you will still need to stop waiting and take taxi or train right?
Me too dun understand what is she trying to imply in her posts...
To make known there are communication between 2 parties??? *eye rolling*
It's nonsensical at all....
Maybe I too old to understand how "young" people handle BGR now... It's like play "masak masak"...
I wonder how such communication can last?? Is it really that well??
To make known there are communication between 2 parties??? *eye rolling*
It's nonsensical at all....
Maybe I too old to understand how "young" people handle BGR now... It's like play "masak masak"...
I wonder how such communication can last?? Is it really that well??
I guess what TS might be saying would be that with our advices, both her bf and her are showing signs of improvement in terms of communication and this in turns helps to improve the r/s as well? There are certain things that they had kept inside their hearts w/o saying and thus, overtime, it become problems.. They are trying to overcome these problems now or at least they know what has been hidden so far and making efforts to resolve everything?
I aldy tried to explain to the clearest as i can to u all. I duno y the more i try to explain the more complicated it seems, can even go to the extent of playing masak to some of u.
He is the type whom doesnt say much even if the whole thing is over, u gota initiate to ask, for clarifying issue, for reminding him to do his stuff etc. As he himself imply.
As he himself said, he will forget or dont bother to do/say certain things if there isnt anyone else to remind him again.
He is the type whom doesnt say much even if the whole thing is over, u gota initiate to ask, for clarifying issue, for reminding him to do his stuff etc. As he himself imply.
As he himself said, he will forget or dont bother to do/say certain things if there isnt anyone else to remind him again.
sgbabydoll
Active Member
Yongqin, you write a lot but the post lacks a focal point. Not sure what you are trying to tell us.
miloice
Well-Known Member
its actually the same with the point about her studies. She has so many little little things in mind without any focus.
yongqin, u need to clear that scatter brain of yours. Frankly, its natural to have probs. But, because one is clear minded of their priorities, one only really need to isolate and focus on issues that matters. Else, the list of problems will always be overwhelming.
yongqin, u need to clear that scatter brain of yours. Frankly, its natural to have probs. But, because one is clear minded of their priorities, one only really need to isolate and focus on issues that matters. Else, the list of problems will always be overwhelming.
sgbabydoll
Active Member
"my mind is always distracted thus in a whirl."
Hi Yongqin, do you have difficulty making sense of what people say and vice versa?
Did you do well in comprehension, summary during secondary school days?
Hi Yongqin, do you have difficulty making sense of what people say and vice versa?
Did you do well in comprehension, summary during secondary school days?