in e midst of divorce

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Cyn1977

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dear all,

i hv gotten the IJ now is e headache part, ancillary part.

the reason of divorce is a third party fm vietnam.

i asked for e flat be transferred wholly to me without any refund paid to him. i hv been paying e mthly hdb instalment, maintained & cleaned e hse, most expenses paid by me. as such i do not see him deserving hving a part of e hse. i also asked for child maintenance $1200per mth. he counter offered flat divided 70/30 him getting e 30 and mthly child maintenance $200. we hv a 7yr old child.

recently i saw him posting some baby pic on facebook. i dunno is that his baby with tt vietnamese girl. i wonder is anyone here can read vietamese language who can help me translate?

yr help is greatly appreciated.

thank you.
 


u can just google translate
 
probably the message wasn't type in proper sentences either. it's just like our own lingo in english, we use jargons, shortforms in sms. so can they.
 
yes, that could be the reason. thats y i hope i can find a vietnamese who can help me on that. .....

really hope i can collect more evidence against him...:(
 
i'm sorry to hear abt ur plight. and hope the best comes out for u ..
 
I dun think it is right of you to claim the entire HDB to yourself...pay him back the percentage of the house he fork out.....taking advantage of another person is not rite....Since he has an affair outside....just let him go....he might not be happy with you...but someone else might give him the happiness he seeks...

And since a child is involved, both of you are responsible for the kid.....if it costs $1200 a month to maintain the kid....split it up with him...each one contributing $600...

When love is gone..just let the other party go....dun take advantage....what if you are the one who strays...what can the guy claim from you...have u ever thought of that?
 
of course i am more than ready to let him go... I have my reason why i think he don't deserve having a share to the flat (too long story). I am not out to take advantage of others.. I am just taking back what i think I deserve.

he having affair, chat on phone with HER in front of our child (child doesnt know the reason of divorce). How do I feel having to see him everyday doing such thing in our hse. forgot to add, we still living under e same roof.
 
The main issue here is did he fork out money for the flat...if he fork out 1%...just return him 1%....

You can have tons of reasons why he dun deserves a share of the flat....but end of the day....if u dun return him his shares...u are obviously taking advantage of him...

Committing adultery by him is definitely wrong...but that does not means that the child is not both of your responsibilities....you are lucky that the woman charter protecting women...that's why u are able to claim child maintenance...

If the same scenario falls on the guy....not only does he have to bear all this mental abuses....he has to also bear the full financial burden of raising up the child.....without any law protecting him....
 
thks for the advise Mr. uglydude...

I am still hoping to find someone who can help me do some simple translation :P
 
I can find someone to help you do translation... Pm me your number.
Next, find prove that he is having an affair. Then, file for divorce requesting more on alimony, maintenance n your kid...
Don't make yourself miserable... Instead he should be the one to experience the effect of his wrong doings....
Get as much from him as possible... Really you need to to do that to be happy living on your own in the future...
I'm Trying to help...
 
his gf posted my daughter's pic onher fb page with some comment. seems to be comparing her child n my daughter. goodness, he even hv e cheek to send my daughter's pic to her...
 
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