the judgment works both ways bro... u take a chance with yours, for my circle i wouldn't cos my better judgment gives me tat edge in decision-making. of cos all these assuming we're right tat the person Is anti-social... and shy... perhaps u're looking at just 'shy', i'm looking at both.
it's an impediment of freedom if u bring parents to a teenage group outing, same with bringing an anti-social to an otherwise happy-go-lucky groupie...
with tat same judgment i dun mix with negative pple if i can help it. tat decision is made by the judgment of things... of cos if nothing better to do why not, but it's better to err on the side of caution.
like i said, i see ahead... u ever thought tat later on whereby your cousin the anti-social may pester u for the next outing, but u have a group of frens telling u pls not to bring him along again?
and yes, we're responsible for our frens' feelings... it's an unspoken responsibility not to 'anyhow introduce' just cos u wanna be a nice cousin. u have to ask yourself if u're doing it becos u wanna be the good cousin, becos u wanna matchmake him BY CHANCE, or becos u really think the guy can blend n hit it off? i'll pick the last option, and if my judgement says no, it's a no.
lastly, i can definitely discount some pple as 'not my crowd'. there are some forummers here who are definitely not my crowd... i am not prepared to discuss making frens in office via cute biscuits, hanging around with the 'we women' groupies, the women's rights groupie who live with a double-standard, nor the good-for-nothing guys with the big ego.
