Has anyone woke up the next morning and realise that you dun love the man as much anymore?


did he sleep with back facing u and u looked n saw his very hairy back, hairy ass and he's whispering men's name in his dreams?
 
Hey Powder, in most of your previous threads, you always sound so stern... Din know you can be soo humourous!
 
depends on the occasion. i'm both, just tat my typical humour requires pple to read between lines n is 3 thoughts ahead.. typical audience won't get it. the seriousness is more becos of the urgency for life...
 
but seriously, it's gonna be hard to wake up next morning to realise u dun love the person as much... i didn't know there's a weighing scale. u either wished he was on your bed, not on your bed, or someone else was on your bed, or u prefer to have the family dog on your bed... Else u simply wish u had bought a queen-size instead of a super-single.

all in all, i'd say these questions are meant to romanticize matters that can't be romanticized.
 
scary to be staying with some1 like u..
can wake up 1 day and say u dun love the person next to u anymore or as much the next day .. weird
 
even if such a thing were to happen shouldnt it be built over time cos of some factors that happen.. but waking up and realising u dun love the person overnight is so sudden.. can love and dun love all of a sudden ?...
 
bchan, most likely is...the feelings are fading each passing day...and this person only realised it suddenly when he/she wakes up to look at his/her partner. Sometimes a person can reflect the most during mornings or nightime. So the realisation part..yes I do believe it can happen suddenly. But the actual feelings already were diminishing...
 
I too agree that this kinda feelings dun happen overnite.. It happens only after a period of time.. Unless u have other choices of soulmate now, if not, it wun just happen..
 
Yeap. It's definitely accumulated. I chanced upon his smses on the phone with a woman 10yrs his senior 4 yrs ago. I almost died.... Something which was so unexpected, an apparrently the relationship had already been on for a year. Subsequently they broke off. However, along the way, he had/has been flirting on fb, and adding "corny" girls to his friends list. N again, my itchy eye must go and see his fb inbox, and found that he has been flirting with diff girls, and even exchanging numbers..... I have been telling myself along the way that I can never allow anything to happen between us for the sake of our children..and at the same time, tell myself not to lie this person so much, incase he hurts me again, then I cannot take it. Hahaha...
 
I know it sounds childish, but I really hope I can wake up one fine sunny day, and tell myself I have lose all feelings for this person I have loved so much for the past 10years. I have definitely learnt to forgive him, but forgetting is really tough, and it's been in my head day in and out. Life is tough, being a inncocent party is even tougher.
 
then it'll never happen, so let me be the one to tell u now.

it's all decisions n choices, starting from being happy... love yourself... that should be the most impt decision.
 
Bchan, perhaps you have not open your eyes wider before you step into this marriage. But since you have forgiven him, try to make things work. As for forgetting, let it be natural. No point forcing it. By the way, does he feel neglected or it's his character to flirt?
 
i tell u lah, only char bor will wait for their heart to die lah, this lah, that lah... why har? life got alot of time n youth to give us isit?
 
I dun Think I had make him felt neglected in anyway before the incident, though I dun deny that I do these days, coz' I just dun wan to put in so much efforts anymore. Before the incident, everything was all abt him. I even put him above the kids. Now, NO MORE. it's enough. I dun wan to be a bloody fool anymore. U can never imagine how one feels when she sees a love letter from her husband to another woman... How to forget?? Forgive for he sake if kids. But erasing it off the eyes is absolutely impossible.
 
bchan,

u made precisely the mistake i tell my galfrens n even my wife not to make... and that is not to revolve their lives around the guy. i would never had married my wife if she had revolved her life around me... not only isit suffocating, it restricts me to having to reciprocate this kind of love exchange... if u are well rounded with many frens, u would never wanna settle down with such pple... u will sooner or later have to give up your life, your frens and live the rest of your life just focal on one aspect.

he didn't make u the fool entirely, u fooled yourself too.
 
Bchan, I can only imagine how painful it is for you.. Sometimes I feel that humans are really 'fan jian'. Always depending on others to give them happiness when it's in their hands. When bad things happened, the pain is so much that it destroys them totally. I hope you can learn to bounce back. Frankly, I don't have much advice for you because I'm not in your shoes. Whatever principles that I preached is basically just... Useless.
 
If a relationship turns sour in any cases of cannot forgive and forget, it won't last long. If u can't make urself happy, how to let the kids be happy? This is wad I tink, live for the kids, follow by urself.. Do what's the best for both u and the kids..

FYI, if u have nvr read my previous thread, I'm in a midst of divorcing with a 2 yr old baby. My case is the other way round, hb can't forgive and forget, my 3 yrs spent trying hard to put the relationship back to what we used to be, ending up still fail.. I've decided enough is enough, if u think dat u can't forget the past, life down the road will be tough..
 
miyako,

yes, sure, women are more emotional, but selfishly so and focal to their own purpose and self. emotional is one thing, but doing anything abt it?

u know, i'm also emotional n passionate abt the underpriviledged, not myself and my feelings and me me me. so i do my part whether by money or effort to do something.

wanna have emotions, have useful emotions... dun hold on to destructive ones that do nothing but keep u in sadland.

can cry all u want for yourself, but that little kid down the street is starving or has no home to go to. the easiest way to treat ourselves better, is to realise how lucky we are.

well if any of u wanna put your time to good use, i might need a volunteer who is good with sewing machines to head to a village in vietnam for a month to pass on the skill on sewing to some really poor kids. sometimes good to find new things...

emotions used on self is not the best thing. use it to fuel a higher purpose...
 
Really, what so difficult about forgetting?

It is all in the mind. The more you are telling yourself it is difficult, the more difficult it will be - it is self-fulfilling.

I am the master of forgetting. I can systematically erase things that are no longer useful to me..
 
Powder, ya I remember you told me this once.. Your views almost always lighten my mood! Oh and you type really fast for a long passage! Haha. Thanks.
 
Hey simpleman,

I read ur blog, and I was filling the buckets. How great can a man get? And u r indeed a wondeful hub/daddy.
 
there's so little willpower here tat it surprises me if any of u actually go thru evn that little bit of hardship. wat's thi sabt your gender genes?

u rem unhappy things for a long long time, not just things... this has more to do with the inability to accept that life brings both good n bad, and u dun always get the good things all the time.
 
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