Good Marriage Cousellor to recommend?? Anyone?

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vc2

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Hi

I'm undergoing very very rough times with my hb since Feb this yr.

Is seem like war everyday for us.... both agreed that the easiest way is to file for a divorce.

However, we hv a 16mth old kid who I love dearly and I can't bear the tot of her without a father...

does anyone out there has a good marriage couseller to recommend me?? plsssss
 


it should not be how good a cousellor is .. rather it should be a cousellor that is both accepted by you and your husband in this way . everyone will discuss it with an open heart ..
 
Is your HB amendable to counselling and he is willing to work on the marriage with you?

A father is always a father.. whether you divorce or not.. still has a father.. no father only when the father is DEAD.
 
Sometimes, a better person to talk to will be a close friend whom you both share, especially someone maintaining a good marriage.
 
i actually also thought of going for marriage counselling...but have my doubts about whether it will werk anyone can share experience?(if any)
 
I agree with some of the points here that its not really a matter of having good counsellors or not but more of the participants mentality and openness. Counsellors can only do so much, telling you what to take note, from experience how they tackled some problem and give you advice, but its all up to the couple themselves how they wan to take things forward.
Pros and cons going to someone you know like a close friend vs a professional counsellor. For a close friend they may know both of you better than an external party and might be able to give you better advice which is suited to your character, on the other hand, the advice might not be as objective as someone who does not know the couple, but they may have had much more experience as in seen alot more cases. Personal preference - some ppl might actually be more comfortable confiding to a "stranger" vs a close friend - just like getting an insurance i guess, some ppl might not want to divulge sensitive info to someone familiar

but nonetheless below are some consellors that you can consider:
1) touch community
2) church (if you attend any)
3) MCDS (not sure if this is same organization as touch)
4) yue fei (www.fycs.org)
 
lol ... Habe .. you make my day .

sorry to make fun .

but yue fei die long time ago haha .. the tattoo on his back also no more liao .....

the url states FEI YUE community service ...

apologies..
 
Hi vc2

Have both of you discuss within your respective parents about your suituation and have anyone of them be willing to render assistance to eithier one of you?

This first approach should be best.

In any family problems, the family which extends to your immediate family memebrs should ideally be the first be to aware and consulted on before taking your marriage issues to a external counsellor.If you find religious based advisors are not helpful, you could try the Family Court.

But you must realise. In opting for counselling and to mediate your problems with your partner, BOTH of you must come with an open mind.

To be able to compromise and to be able to reap the benefits thru sincere mutual co-operation.

Without these first steps, taken willingly by both of you, counselling would be like listening to a sermon and leaving the premise none the better or wiser.

Cheers.
 
hi all

thanks for the advise. knowing my hb, he'll just go with the motion of hvg a cousellor.
we did went for the pre-marriage counselling, however, the counsellor who is handling our ac does not left a good impression to both.

To make the situation worse, both of us are strong headed individual and we dun hv common close friends

We hv always been bz in work then to accompany each other friends' activities.

basically, during the courtship period, we are too engross in resolving our differences n our work till we hv overlook the importance to understand each other friends n family better

As for approaching family assistance, he's trying to contain the situation from his family, hence even i myself does not know if his family knows what happen. My mum n sis have tried to discuss with him but he just entertain them, with little reflection on his part.

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