Getting along with hubby's brother's wife

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wob8ly

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My HTB and i have an 8 year age gap and of course an age gap for me with my hub's siblings and their spouses. Hub is the middle child and so I am about 5 years younger than his younger brother and his brother's wife.

Things are a little different between me and them in terms of age and I feel that they believe that i am too young for hub and a child. ..

Hub is not too close with them, but coming from a very close knitted family, i feel awkward when it comes to interacting with hubs side of the family....

please help~
 


u dun need help.

just be urself and dun think too much cos it'll only mess things up
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eight or five years is not a big age gap. when u r working, u must meet pple of different ages too. try to find common topics to talk with them and be interested in what they r saying. don't talk abt things that u know pple their age will not know about.

if they treat u like a young person, just accept it. bcoz it's a fact that u r younger than them. but slowly show them that u r a mature young person and that's why ur htb chose u.
 
Thanks!

I am 22 btw..

I get along fine with older peers.. its just I find it hard to fit in there when the people that address my hub as a older brother are older than me.. one of my hub's cousins actually told my hub that she did not like me because i was so much younger.

My family accepts hub as their own...(his age is near my aunts).. and i am not sure how to fit in the same way he does.. the best i can do now, is say hi when i see them..

there are some discomfort because we will be living together for about a year or two after the wedding that is two years from now.. sigh... hub tells me that just by saying hi and bye is good enough and if they are too shallow to see that a younger girl can be as matured, they dont deserve me trying to get to know them.. is he right?
 
Oh..

another problem is the problem with the MIL... she still thinks i am a third party because hub was with another girl when we both met but they broke off three weeks after we got together.. she pulled the crazy ex stunt and went to rant to the MIL and so on...now...there is still this mistrust...
 
Everyone has their own opinion on things even when its not biz of them... people that doesn't matter, why bother?
 
You married your husband and this is what he think...
"hub tells me that just by saying hi and bye is good enough and if they are too shallow to see that a younger girl can be as matured, they dont deserve me trying to get to know them.. is he right?"

You are worrying over nothing. Your husband is supportive, it really doesn't matter. You didn't marry his siblings. No one but you yourself place the importance in them.
 
that's your family, you can continue to bond with your family. But, you cannot expect his family culture to change for you mah. Let it be. Its not causing any problems.
 
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