Forgiveness

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rebecca1

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Seeking advice: how many times will you forgive your boyfriend? If he repeatedly betray your trust.
He is a man with no integrity, but he claims he loves me. And I do love you too.
Should I continue to be in the relationship and "be prepared" for the next betrayal? Or get out since I've seen his true colours?
 


When someone really loves you, he/she does not repeatedly do the same thing to hurt you. Your bf was merely bullshitting when he said he loves you.

He has zero integrity, so you have said. He is a time waster.

Are you one of those women who are terrified of being boyfriend-less or husband-less?
 
would u go to the same hawker chicken rice stall if the fella charges u $10 everytime, gives u less meat, no soup, no chili, abit of rice and all he tells u each time u go is that u are his fav customer?

if your feet take u there and u still wanna be loyal, it's not the hawkers' fault...

spore got so many chicken rice stalls...
 
did i mention that the chicken rice taste lousy?

but truth of the matter is... Rebec is not able to walk away, so she does the ONLY thing she can do... she forgives him. or she thinks by forgiving him, the relationship is still there... so end of the day who is more afraid of losing the relationship?

how can u forgive a person when u LL? or can u even LL-forgive a person?

no meaning... but then this is the usual case of pple who are unable to let go becos they are afraid to lose, so they prefer to hold on...

and the funny common thing amongst these pple is... actually nobody ask them for forgiveness, or for another chance... they Themselves Initiate to give the chance and wanna forgive, and they make it sound like it's the other party who wants it...

it's denial, whether u like it or not.
 
TS, do you know that you can forgive your bf and make him history too? Forgiveness and reconciliation are two totally different matters. They are not a package deal.
 
I agree w powder n doll. Pple do make mistakes n some mistakes can be forgiven once. But if the person keeps cheating on u, I cannot believe tat he loves u. Think about it fairly - now if u are the gal who's cheating on him repeatedly, do u think he will still stand by u?

Sometimes its sad when pple trap themselves in such r/ships, instead of loving themselves better, standing up for themselves n walking out to seek a better life. If u do choose to continue being in the r/ship, then dun lament ur lost of youth n dun be sad when u next find out tat ur bf has cheated on u again.
 
Thanks gals..It's really hard to leave a relationship, but I tink I've forgiven him enuf times..I really feel like having a break. And I tink the example that powder cited was really gd. It bring me to my senses.
 
Some men are like serial cheater, they will never be able to quit that cheating habit. My ex bf is a good example and I took a almost a decade long to finally let it go. Now that I think back, I'm glad I didn't continue to forgive him and marry him.
 
True enough guys can be cheating outside you.
But the choice falls on yourself.
If you thinks that you wanna him out of your life, even if without all these words from us, you will still do so.
But if you still thinks that there is something that holds you to this guy, no matter what we say, you will still hold on to him.
It's just the matter of wanna or dun wanna.
If got any problem or enquires u can email me @ [email protected].
Mayb just for a chat lo...
 
Hi gals...I guess in every relationship, it's impt to have trust and security. But pple should not take trust for granted, and start to play a fool. Like my bf, I tried to trust him, but he did not treasure it, and still go overboard. I've asked myself, if I forgive him this time and carry on, I wonder if the relationship will lead to anything, as I feel that "lying" is a habit. I do not want to live in a "world of doubts" all the time.
 
Rebec

i have similar experience with my ex, got engaged and were together for 7 years

trust me, these type of people will never changed.
they have a term for their personality traits call "character disorder" which you can google for more understanding.. they are especially gd in lies, cheating and manipulation without a sense of guilt and shame...

run for the nearest exit and you can save your remaining lifetime of happinness which you deserve..

cheers!
 
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