Extending +1 Wedding Invitations to Guests?

[Hermione Vermilion]

Hi everyone, I am in the midst of sending out invitations for my upcoming wedding but is unsure on whether we should extend the invitation to include the spouses of our guests if the both of us have totally no interactions with their spouses at all and do not know them.

We have asked around and there do not seem to a coherent answer to this, some couples do, some don't. I would like to know from the forum members here what is their opinion. Do you extend your invitation to include the spouses of your guests even if you and your SO do not know them at all?

 

[swashed]

Nope will not extend if we don know them at all

 

[xueyu]

for me, I would invite if I need to meet the numbers, otherwise would prefer not to invite.

 

[alyooop]

We're only including for 2 of our friends because we've know their SOs for a while, then maybe for one of his friends if they are still together/she is free to come. I'm not including most of my girlfriends' bfs because my htb only met them once before and we both feel that they are too quiet and awkward to be around.

This is decision is up to you and your htb, but if it helps, the general advice I've read is that if you can accommodate and don't mind having more people, then go for it. If you feel weird having people you don't know (and you won't get much chance to talk to everyone on AD anyway if it's a banquet), don't. And do do DO specify just your guest's name on the invite. Don't leave any ambiguity for them to assume they can bring a +1, because I've heard stories of that happening and it gets awkward for you to say "actually please don't..." or having to sacrifice a seat for them when it could go to a relative or close friend instead.

 

[Hermione Vermilion]

Thanks alyooop for your detailed feedback. It was very useful to me indeed.

 

[alyooop]

No prob! Hope your planning goes smoothly!