Dis-respectful Xiongdis

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teletubbies

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Hi All,

Im planning to do away with my gate crash as we seem to have problems with 2 of the Xiongdi's.
This 2 Xiongdi, namely J & E, had been creating issues for us instead of helping us out. They requested my boyfriend to get them a coat, a valentino shirt, a goldlion belt, a new pants, a branded tie & a new leather shoe. Why do Xiongdi have to wear a coat? They also wanted a one night stay at the hotel like us. They wanted us to give them a angpow of not more than $50.I'll be honest, if we had the ability, we'll be glad to provide those above like ties & shirt for them. But definately not shoes, pants & coats. My galfrens was saying that if, they are true frens, they wouldn't be calculative with us for those stuffs.
What annoys me is the remark they made about my Jiemeis. They ask my boyfren, whether he had seen my Jiemeis before & that if they were sexy & pretty? They ask my bf if they are into one night stand thingy? Preferably, use & dump that type. How could they have that thinking? My Jiemeis are decent gers & how can they make them sound like prostitutes? How would they feel if I got my male fren to play his gf?
Ladies & Gentlemen, pls tell me how I should deal or punish this two fellows? They simply have no respect for gers. They are too arrogant right?
 


You don't need to play judge and jury here.

You do not agree with the Xiongdi's demands. You do not agree with their disrespecting your jiemeis. It's your wedding so YOU have the right to decide who will play a role in the ceremony.

Can't please everyone in life so just kindly tell them that you'll find others (hopefully truer friends) who will replace them as xiongdis.

For your information, where I am living now, the bridesmaids and grooms rent/buy their own gowns/tux if the wedding couple cannot afford it. It's all a give and take and usually, they are the wedding couple's closest friends or siblings so these roles are performed with honor, love and respect.

I think you should just ask your husband to have his closest buddies, be it only 1 or 2, to be his xiongdis. It'll still be really fun. There is no need to have plenty of "rabble rousers".
 
these 2 guys are crazy.. juz leave them out once and for all. dun even let them attend ur wedding banquet else they will cause trouble!
 
Ask them to to get those during their own weddings and seek for their one night stands then. They are not sought after.
 
wah.. ! hmm... unfortunate to have this kind of "brothers"... perhaps its best to drop them out and have another replacement... U wan ur "brothers" to help u out in ur weddings... and hope not to screw things up or offend anybody...
 
Why must U punish them? Are they joking? Juz ignore them.....

U have been posting the same Q at various threads. Don't U find it "tedious" to "juggle" between so many to look for solutions juz to punish them?? *blur*....
 
Yeah, just drop them as your xiongdis. It's not necessary to have many xiongdis and jiemeis for wedding.

For my wedding, I kept things simple, 3 jiemeis and 2 xiongdis.
 
hahaha....Iris...very eng har? Went to check on TS' postings.
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Simi punish? They are only 'suggesting' (or maybe just joking), not really doing it.

If you are not happy with them, just strike them off from the list. It is not a must to have them.
It's your decision, your wedding. I dun think it is that difficult that you have to start posting everywhere for this 'problem' of yours.
 
It is a happy occasion, no point getting yourself upset or allowing them to add more stress to your planning, jus replace them.
 
hi huan zhen,

just get someone else to replace them. if they r true frens they won't be asking for anything, will be helping u guys out instead.
 
Hi All,

Thank you for all your support. This two peabrains are way getting too much. You know what, the actual schedule which I done, includes some of my Jiemei's hp. One XD name E, called & ask my Jiemei if the dress they wearing that day, is I bought for them or the purchase themselves one. My FH does not wanna make the matter worse, so ask me to pretend I didnt know bout wat they said cos my FH still gotto face them everyday at night class. Im so tempted to just get those they have requested in paper form... Arghh....
Both, J & E, are already in their mid twenties & you wont believe the questions they ask my FH like, Will you wash your wife's panties? I felt like asking them to swallow a soiled panties...
 
Strike.... Them.... Off.... Or... Live.... With.... It.....

Your.... Hubby.... also.... very.... zo.... bo....

Tell them if they want, they can just come as guests. And I can't believe that such ppl are xiong dis? Ain't xiong dis good friends who share strong relation bonds with you? Or anyhow grabbed from streets and night classes? Come on u'll really have to assess on the selection leh.
 
ask them to buy the stuff they wan and claim after ur wedding. Which in fact u're not gona do so. Let them burn a hole in their pocket. Karma for them for being so greedy. And get some transverstile at changi to answer to their one night stand call. I'm sure they will nv wan 1 night stand again. Haha.
Juz a wacky suggestion to relieve ur anger and stress cause by there 2 idiots.
 
piggylove, not a good suggestion as I feel if it's done this way, the hubby will still be paying for their claims.

In fact, it's quite pointless to have them in the entourage to even begin with.
 
Haha threadstarter should also look at her hubby's selection of his helpers besides blaming everything on J & E.

Chey they are just classmates in his night class. They are not even colleagues at workplace or close buddies. Why threadstarter and Hubby must worry so much about offending them? There're more other worthy things to worry about the wedding than these 2 guys. What's so hard about removing them from the xiongdi list? :p
 
In such a context, it's like rolling out the red carpet and pleading them to take part leh. And I personally do not think such traits would help out much on the day itself than feeling all important about themselves cos they are the "xiong dis".

And for the wedding couple, well u'll have responsibility in your choices as well like Green had mentioned. Is either if you'll are able to cater to such request or really look for the required helpers who are genuinely prepared to assist you. Otherwise just do without them.
 
salsa - Not I eng ok... It's some people super duper ENG!!.. Can post it in MOST threads... Even reply use "cut & paste" in them....

Me tot me cock eyes initially... But when I look closer, simi SAI lah!!! it's in most of the THREADS!!..

BOH LIAO!!
 
so what TS' hb has to face them at the night class? Course mates nia mah.

Really really ä¸æ˜Žç™½...why wanna make yourself so unhappy and then still wanna kpkb here?

Dun have to feel embarrassed to strike them off since you are not even buddy buddy with them.
Your hb very close to them meh?
 
To add-on, if one is indeed finding a "solution" to deal with such people... Where got time to post in every thread.. Then go back to every single thread to reply... =_="

"拿人消é£".... heheheh....
 
Iris,
LOL~ Good observation.

Salsa,
That's what happen when one tries too hard to look like an 'angel' and please everyone. Outside looks cool, while inside is boiling with fumes.
 
Aiyo just remove them from your lista nd replace to those who really call "brother".
Something happen to my wedding as well. The bro just give me problem.

In the end i told my hubby to remove him from the list. Just tell him that mayb jiemei side got someone cannot make it so we have to remove one "xiongde" so can get even number.

I always think that those who are really your good friend will not mind so much. Mu hubby even got "xiong de" all the way took cap from one end to another end during mid night to rush over to my hubby's house during our wedding day. (cos he have to pick me up before 7am). He dun even ask for the taxi fee, but of cos our red packet also must zidong.

For your case, remove them from the xiong de list. No point. Dun make yourself unhappy or not later during your AD u see them also not shoik.
 
hey Huan Zhen, sounds like ur hubby just get himself xiongdi becoz he doesn't have any. becoz classmate in night class doesn't sound like real blood brothers where they went thru thick and thin for yrs.

don't juz get xiongdi for the sake of getting. its ur wedding! u definitely have the right to make it a happy one. decide who u wan and strike off those who cannot make it, which obviously in this case, are the 2 despo.

they just wanna "chop" ur husband. tell ur husband to even think carefully if he really want them as friends yah?! he might be misled in time to come.
 
this is my 1st time hearing XDs to ask groom to buy clothes and shoes 4 them..if JMs ask still ok..coz have to be same theme..

but i didnt get clothes for my jiemeis coz of colors..some can wear pink some cannot..some can wear tube some cant etc..very headache..

and i dont want them to buy new clothes..so i ask them to wear watever they like/have..as long they feel comfortable....my hubby XDs also wear watever they like..end up we were also having lots of funs eh..

just tell them no theme ba..wear presentable can already??
 
Those guys are insane.
Just leave them out of the wedding and tell them to go bang their head against a brick wall.
 
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