Catholic+Christian weddings

[olivia_n]

Hi,
Any Catholic brides out there whose HTBs are Christian? Is it possible to have the priest and pastor to both co-officiate the wedding service/mass?

 

[sella]

I am a Catholic and HTB is a Christian.

Errmmm have both priest? I think both of u need to discuss who should compromise. For me, my husband is compromising wif me. So we will get married in a Catholic church.

I am not sure how it works if you want both priest and pastor to officiate the wedding. In which church you want to hold your wedding?

And bear in mind, that if you decide to get married in a Catholic Church, both of you need to attend a marriage preparation course (6 weeks).

 

[olivia_n]

Hi Marssella

We have decided to get married in his Christian church and we have almost completed the marriage prep course in his church as well.

Been trying very hard to convince him to get married in a Catholic church in the beginning but 'cos he's Pentecostal and pretty strong and active in his church, he would rather we get married in his church.

It's been a struggle for me in the beginning 'cos I'm pretty active as a Catholic as well, but I've decided to be the one who compromises in this aspect. To me, what matters is that we are married in the presence of God and that we begin our marriage with Him there with us.

Anyways, I heard from someone that she attended a service at St Andrew's Cathedral with a Catholic priest who gave a blessing 'tho it was a Christian wedding service, so wondering whether anyone else has done it before...

 

[noknok]

Just a correction.. Marriage preparation course dun last full 6 weeks.. it's only on 6 wkends and it's only half a day for each wkend. So effectively it's 6 half day thing. There's also another option for MPC which is the Engage encounter (EE) which is a stay in wkend thing. Only one wkend.

Olivia, I heard of the opposite before. Couple married in catholic church and blessed by the pastor. Do check with the priest though if you're going to be married in the Christian church, he might have some concerns.

 

[olivia_n]

Thanks Noknok,

My htb is quite a stubborn guy in this aspect, so most likely it will be in his church... But I'm fine with it.
I've actually spoken casually to some Catholic priests about this, and yup, you're right, I didn't get all too positive responses...

 

[noknok]

I'm just afraid that your marriage is not recognise in the catholic church. But I guess as long as you're fine with it then it's ok.

Just pray for your wedding ba.. that's wat my MPC couple said. Pray for it. He'll show u the right way.

 

[olivia_n]

Thanks for the encouragement
Sometimes it bothers me about how each denomination views each other as somewhat different when we are all worshipping and praying to the same God... Oh well, guess it's up to us to bring about Christian unity in our small little ways... Will keep praying! Thanks again, dear

 

[sella]

Hi Olivia, yes you are right! I also feel that as long as we are married in the presence of God, then it is valid

I also have a neutral view about these denomination since we are serving the same Jesus Christ. Anyway good to hear tat you solve the matter

And it is good that your and your husband is strong in Christ

Noknok is right that your marriage will not be recognised in Catholic church, but as long as you are aware and do not mind, it is all good

How long is ur marriage preparation course?

 

[olivia_n]

Hey Sella,

Thanks for your post It's always heartening to hear from different ones who are supportive 'cos it's not as easy as some people think it is... It's really complicated! Haha...
The course is over 8 Saturdays and after that, we will need to have another 2-4 counselling sessions to go through the "homework" and talk with the pastors, so it's rather intensive.

BTW, when are you getting married? You've completed MPC and EE?

 

[dizzy_bride]

Hi Olivia N

So do you converted to Christian? or you still a Catholic?
If you are still a catholic, will your HTB church give a blessing? As i heard Christian is quite strict as to only give a blessing to a christian couple.

Please share as Im having a similar probs its just that my HTB is a free thinker..

Thanks!

 

[olivia_n]

Hi dizzy bride

I'm still a Catholic, and I've made known to my HTB that I will always be one So he has to accept that fact....
Anyway, we might be facing a bit of problems in his church, cos I'm not willing to receive Communion during our wedding service, so we are talking it out with his church pastors to see how we can do it. If they can't compromise, then we will either go to my church (Catholic churches accept mixed marriages) or another Christian Church (heard from my HTB that there are some Christian churches that may officiate mixed marriages)
This is a very tricky issue so I guess it's best to discuss with your HTB what he is willing to accept during your weeding service/mass, and then talk it out with your pastor/priest. Sadly, there is no quick fix to this problem...

 

[dizzy_bride]

Hi Olivia N

Thanks for your reply Olivia

I think we sort of in the same boat.
Cos my church can't give a blessing if one of us is not a Christian =(

My HTB doesnt mind if we have a church wedding its just that dunt think that he is ready to convert yet..Not until he learn about what is Christianity which I also agree. Dont want him to convert just for the sake of having a christian wedding.

Hmm Im sort of looking for a Christian church who want to give a blessing to a mix couple like us now..

So if your HTB happen to find a Christian church that can accept mixed marriages please share the info ya..

I will share my findings with you also..Heard that methodist church allow however not sure if they are willing to bless a non-member.

 

[olivia_n]

Yup, some Methodist churches do allow non-members to have their wedding service there

Yup, will let you know too!

 

[cheryling]

hihi.. im a christian while my HTB is not.. im planning to have a church wedding in the hotel instead.. but not sure if there are pasters who is willing to bless mixed marriages.. cos my church is pretty strict.. only give blessing to christian couples..

 

[ellytusk]

hi there, St Andrews' is open to non-members? I am another church, but it is taken on the date I want.

 

[catholic]

Hi,

I have sign up a package with Rasel for my church wedding in December.

We have decided to do away with our Church wedding cos my IL are not a Catholic or Christian.

I have check with my caterer and they are willing to accept any wedding booking with any prices so long as I can find someone to take over.

Have paid a deposit of $1000. Willing to transfer at $500.00

For sincere buyer buyer only.

I don't check this forum often. Please email me directly [email protected]

 

[catholic]

refresh...

 

[longtimemarried]

i was married in church of immaculate of mary at highland rd more than 10 yrs ago. No aircon.. simple 1 level church.. Our celebrant was Fr. Bart (a french priest already passed on!.. God Bless his soul!)

now IHM is so much diff.. new bulit 5 yrs ago.. 2 level.. fully aircon.. beautiful church.. anyone form there??

 

[catholic]

Ladies,

So sorry, we are going ahead with our church wedding so not transfering the package.

 

[gzer]

Dear all,

is it a must for the bride's father to walk the bride down the aisle?

 

[arkitec]

Hi Gzer,
I think it's up to the bride's preference if she want her father to walk her, some brides even have her mom and dad walk her down the aisle