Boyfriend too nice to everyone??

[qwertypie]

My boyfriend is known for being really nice. I used to think it's a virtue but sometimes I cannot help by feeling pissed.

1. Unfortunately, he doesn't have a nice group of friends. His best bro always put aeroplane on him, and yet my bf always push away all his appointments for him. Whenever I get pissed with that bro of his for being such an ass, he will get angry with me (FYI, his best bro is my good friend too)

2. He everything also 'nvm, forget it'. An example is when we go out, people cut into my queue or push me without apologising. I am the kind who gets irritated by such rude behaviour but my bf will be just nvm let him/her be. It makes me even more irritated!

3. Some stranger randomly offered him food saying it's from a party. He gladly accepted it and really ate the entire plate of food. I appreciate the person's kind gesture but how can you be sure that the food is safe? He don't even have any slight suspicion or whatsoever. But all in his mind was, somebody was being nice and offered him food, why not? To me, I can never be entirely sure that the food is safe especially when it's from a total stranger I've never seen before?? What kind of example will I set for my kids in future? If I were him I will either politely reject or accept and not eat?

Am I overreacting? I really feel that we are not on the same line sometimes and it gets on my nerves sometimes that he's being overly nice to every single person in the world

 

[joannecc.]

I think it is a lot of adjusting your expectations and your own ideas. My fiancé he's a very nice guy too and always love to bless ppl ard us. Initially I see it as a sacrifice, but when I learn to love what he loves, I learn to flow along with him. What's more important is to go thru all Seasons together. Let him lead and just be a support. Makes me learn to take a backseat and let fiancé feel good leading and all

 

[qwertypie]

I think it is a lot of adjusting your expectations and your own ideas. My fiancé he's a very nice guy too and always love to bless ppl ard us. Initially I see it as a sacrifice, but when I learn to love what he loves, I learn to flow along with him. What's more important is to go thru all Seasons together. Let him lead and just be a support. Makes me learn to take a backseat and let fiancé feel good leading and all

Hi Joanne,

Thanks for the reply! But wouldn't you be worried that he'll be taken advantaged of...? Sometimes I fear this will happen since I'm more of a cautious type of person who'll think twice while he's the kind with a straight mindset thinking everyone is nice and all... Thing is, he mentioned he won't care if he get taken advantaged of as long as his conscience is clear but sigh.... Should I think of this as gullible or a positive trait of his?

 

[Aj.tan]

Hmmm I always tell my HTB, no one else can take advantage of you or bully you except me.

 

[JohnNPG]

Well...Sometimes it's just the mindsets matter, To me personally i felt that being nice ain't making any crime or doing anything wrong, Perhaps as a couple, one should learn how to protect and take care of each other, And to make sure he or she doesn't get taken advantaged of, I believed there should be trust and faith hence there shouldn't be any problem.

 

[joannecc.]

Hi Joanne,

Thanks for the reply! But wouldn't you be worried that he'll be taken advantaged of...? Sometimes I fear this will happen since I'm more of a cautious type of person who'll think twice while he's the kind with a straight mindset thinking everyone is nice and all... Thing is, he mentioned he won't care if he get taken advantaged of as long as his conscience is clear but sigh.... Should I think of this as gullible or a positive trait of his?

My fiancé knows what he is doing, so even if I know he is too trusting I'll still let him go ahead. Sometimes guys learn when they fail they don't like nags! Haha I make it a point if fail, it's ok we got each other's back. Too trusting it's ok, we got each other's back

 

[Infernolord]

My fiancé knows what he is doing, so even if I know he is too trusting I'll still let him go ahead. Sometimes guys learn when they fail they don't like nags! Haha I make it a point if fail, it's ok we got each other's back. Too trusting it's ok, we got each other's back

Well done!!! sweet.. haha if my gf or wife going to say that, i will do anything for her..
These days its so hard to find a ger who is supportive of their partner. They like to challenge, fight and have cannot "lose" mentality.
Conflicts arise when the guy wan to do something, their partner against it or think that he is stupid.
Even if stupid, let us try and fall, we learn and improve.

 

[miloice]

Well done!!! sweet.. haha if my gf or wife going to say that, i will do anything for her..
These days its so hard to find a ger who is supportive of their partner. They like to challenge, fight and have cannot "lose" mentality.
Conflicts arise when the guy wan to do something, their partner against it or think that he is stupid.
Even if stupid, let us try and fall, we learn and improve.

not every woman will confront and challenge. Between quietly supportive and confronting, there are those couples that are able to feedback positively as well. What is important is couples don't put their pride in everything. Who wins isn't important. Hear each other out. When we see from more perspectives, we are wiser in your decision making overall.

 

[joannecc.]

not every woman will confront and challenge. Between quietly supportive and confronting, there are those couples that are able to feedback positively as well. What is important is couples don't put their pride in everything. Who wins isn't important. Hear each other out. When we see from more perspectives, we are wiser in your decision making overall.

Agree, don't win arguements and lose the person/relationship in the end. Not worth it

 

[newproject]

Hmm is this the same bf you posted about that always no time for you?

Anyway too nice guys like inferno lord often get girls eventually they say he not man enough and dump him...