Littletreatz
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After all these while, I finally realised that it is better to be alone..then in relationship..
Better to be alone
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Hopefulbride2016
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Why the negativity?
Littletreatz
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Cause men all the same... either he's a MCP who expect you to be submissive, or he's very sweet to you but a womaniser.
meiji5
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alone is good because you don't need to think of the other person and you can just proceed with doing your own thing. but sometimes it's nice to have someone there, at least to talk to and enjoy some time together. all my close friends are married now, so it's difficult to really get one on one time with them.
Hopefulbride2016
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Well just that u haven found the right guy yet. Not all guys are like that. Girls are not made the same either. A little change in perspective changes alot. I used to have someone in life and thought im gonna spend the rest of my life with him. Until another man comes around and i chose the second guy instead. Now we are getting married next year. Babe, u will find a gd guy just look carefully.
Littletreatz
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You are so blessed. Many good wishes to you. There are cases out there when girls choose the second guy over the first, as the latter seem more caring and sweet. But end up the second one is worse than the first one.
So ultimately after a while, the men will start to show their true self and expect the women to be understanding. Else they will start saying things like women are emotional creatures, unreasonable or simply they are too tired to tolerate the tantrums.
So ultimately after a while, the men will start to show their true self and expect the women to be understanding. Else they will start saying things like women are emotional creatures, unreasonable or simply they are too tired to tolerate the tantrums.
Infernolord
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These days man and woman are the same. While over time, woman accuse man that we are demanding and we usually ignore all the nonsense she do, eventually woman seeks another man for all these and find that those "jerks" appear to be better, caring and loving.. And they stray for these jerks and over time, same thing happens, man demanding woman complain... Cycle repeat.
haha.. instead of saying man not gd and womanizer, why not think about how to communicate and put in efforts to work things out. If a couple are committed, they will work it out over quarrels, demands and show respects. Man wont look for other gers cos it how we respect our gf, woman wont stray cos she will communicate to reduce unnecessary quarrels and emotions.
haha.. instead of saying man not gd and womanizer, why not think about how to communicate and put in efforts to work things out. If a couple are committed, they will work it out over quarrels, demands and show respects. Man wont look for other gers cos it how we respect our gf, woman wont stray cos she will communicate to reduce unnecessary quarrels and emotions.
Littletreatz
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I have seen a lot of men having a family, beautiful wife and lovely children, but still find other women. They will still fulfill their responsibilities as a husband and father. So what should the women do? Tolerate?
Littletreatz
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I only know in the beginning of the relationship, men seem to be more committed than women. But as time passes, the women become more committed. Then the men start to "run away".
Infernolord
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Likewise i seen many woman having a family, good husband and lovely kids, but still feel resentful and stray . Then they feel guilty yet fall for another guy knowing that they shouldnt do that and start a new thread in this forum asking for advises..... -_-"
So what should husband do? lol
haha just like you, i think negatively on sg gers these days. I seem many of my gf cheat and stray and lot of my guy friends just lost everything. I was dumped almost all the time by gers cos they get bored of me. (woman also "run away" ) haha
Well, dun blame on guys or gers. Just be yourself and make sure you dun do that. You can't stop your partner from straying or running away, but u can try your best so that your partner wont even think of it... That is compromise. End of the day, if you tried, he runs.. means he is not in sync with you.
buddhabar
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You really think it's better to be alone?
Do you really know what it's like to be lonely?
1. You are nobody's first priority. Between boyfriends and girlfriends and spouses and kids and church, there's always someone before you on the priority list. I don't have that one person I come home to at the end of the day, with whom I share all the mundane details of my life. So I parse them out between friends and family, sometimes oversharing because I just need someone to validate my existence. I'm not saying it's wrong that I'm not the top priority (of course family should come first). But for the perpetually alone sometimes it'd be nice to be first. Just once. Just for a day.
2. Physical touch is a thing for other people. When you're not part of a couple and you're living alone, physical touch goes out the window. And not just sexy, intimate touches. I'm talking mundane, everyday, almost-no thought-put-into-them touches. Last week, I realized it had been months since I’d been touched by another person. For as much as I value and need alone time, nothing is more isolating than realizing no one has touched you in over a month. Nothing.
3. Jealousy is green and ugly and real. I don't want to be a jealous person. I don't like being a jealous person. But when the loneliness is overwhelming and all-consuming, I can't help it. I can't help but be jealous of the fact that other people have someone to come home to—that they have the occasional unthinking brush of hands and take so much for granted.
4. There's physical pain associated with being lonely. It's not something you know until you've experienced it, and it's hard to describe. But it actually hurts to be lonely. It's an ache in your chest, a heaviness that you can't shake, a longing that only the touch of another person can soothe.
5. Being the third wheel sucks. No matter how much I like my friends' significant other (and really, they're great!), I don’t want to be the third or fifth wheel. A little part of me dies every time I have to plaster a smile on my face and joke to the waiter that the bill is going to be split, "Two, two, and me. Just me."
6. Friendship isn't enough. This one is hard. I have an outstandingly good group of friends and family, but as much as I want them to be (and as much they wish they could be), they aren't enough. I've tried really hard to make them enough, but it's like forcing a puzzle piece into a spot it doesn't belong. You can push and push and push, but it's never going to quite sit right.
7. Everyone is part of a couple. Or maybe it just seems that way when you're not. But from my point of view, everywhere I look, I see couples. Even events are geared towards couples. Have you ever tried cooking for one? It's not pretty.
8. The grass isn't greener. Stop telling me how you'd love to have some peace and quiet or a night where no one touches you. Because that's not what I'm talking about. There is a profound, bone-deep difference between "alone time" and being lonely. Comparing the two or romanticizing something I consider painful undermines my feelings and makes me hate you a tiny bit.
9. This isn't a "lifestyle" choice. Plenty of folkschoose to be single. Nobody chooses to be lonely. That's part of the problem. I didn't ask for this. I don't want this. But it's not something I can fix on my own.
10. No one gets it. It’s kind of like the Dead Dad's Club. (Please lower your pitchforks and allow me to explain.) Until you lose your dad, you don’t know what it's like. You can sympathize and you can think, "Oh, that's really sh*tty," but you can't really empathize. And it's true for loneliness, too. Unless you've experienced it—unless you know what true, deep, painful loneliness is like—you don't get it. And, well, that just makes things all the more lonely, doesn't it?
Do you really know what it's like to be lonely?
1. You are nobody's first priority. Between boyfriends and girlfriends and spouses and kids and church, there's always someone before you on the priority list. I don't have that one person I come home to at the end of the day, with whom I share all the mundane details of my life. So I parse them out between friends and family, sometimes oversharing because I just need someone to validate my existence. I'm not saying it's wrong that I'm not the top priority (of course family should come first). But for the perpetually alone sometimes it'd be nice to be first. Just once. Just for a day.
2. Physical touch is a thing for other people. When you're not part of a couple and you're living alone, physical touch goes out the window. And not just sexy, intimate touches. I'm talking mundane, everyday, almost-no thought-put-into-them touches. Last week, I realized it had been months since I’d been touched by another person. For as much as I value and need alone time, nothing is more isolating than realizing no one has touched you in over a month. Nothing.
3. Jealousy is green and ugly and real. I don't want to be a jealous person. I don't like being a jealous person. But when the loneliness is overwhelming and all-consuming, I can't help it. I can't help but be jealous of the fact that other people have someone to come home to—that they have the occasional unthinking brush of hands and take so much for granted.
4. There's physical pain associated with being lonely. It's not something you know until you've experienced it, and it's hard to describe. But it actually hurts to be lonely. It's an ache in your chest, a heaviness that you can't shake, a longing that only the touch of another person can soothe.
5. Being the third wheel sucks. No matter how much I like my friends' significant other (and really, they're great!), I don’t want to be the third or fifth wheel. A little part of me dies every time I have to plaster a smile on my face and joke to the waiter that the bill is going to be split, "Two, two, and me. Just me."
6. Friendship isn't enough. This one is hard. I have an outstandingly good group of friends and family, but as much as I want them to be (and as much they wish they could be), they aren't enough. I've tried really hard to make them enough, but it's like forcing a puzzle piece into a spot it doesn't belong. You can push and push and push, but it's never going to quite sit right.
7. Everyone is part of a couple. Or maybe it just seems that way when you're not. But from my point of view, everywhere I look, I see couples. Even events are geared towards couples. Have you ever tried cooking for one? It's not pretty.
8. The grass isn't greener. Stop telling me how you'd love to have some peace and quiet or a night where no one touches you. Because that's not what I'm talking about. There is a profound, bone-deep difference between "alone time" and being lonely. Comparing the two or romanticizing something I consider painful undermines my feelings and makes me hate you a tiny bit.
9. This isn't a "lifestyle" choice. Plenty of folkschoose to be single. Nobody chooses to be lonely. That's part of the problem. I didn't ask for this. I don't want this. But it's not something I can fix on my own.
10. No one gets it. It’s kind of like the Dead Dad's Club. (Please lower your pitchforks and allow me to explain.) Until you lose your dad, you don’t know what it's like. You can sympathize and you can think, "Oh, that's really sh*tty," but you can't really empathize. And it's true for loneliness, too. Unless you've experienced it—unless you know what true, deep, painful loneliness is like—you don't get it. And, well, that just makes things all the more lonely, doesn't it?
Better to be alone than have to deal with women's charter. There is no law to protect men from crazy women who accuse them of all sorts of things just to put them through hell and risk of going to jail for something they didn't do. I hope those judges and lawmakers who help such women will live to see themselves and their loved ones suffer from meeting such people who will stop at nothing to make hell for them.
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