Any big sized girl? How do you handle when people say u are big sized?

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joy_joy

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I am quite big build. I have broad shoulders and heavy bottom. People have been saying I am fat. Any advise on how to deal with these ppl?
 


Deal with innerself first, seem easily affected by what others comments about u.

there diff between big buid and fat, maybe u are indeed fat but u ddn realise it. slim down if there's a need , ignore them if u are comfortable with yr build
 
Joy_joy, I'd smile and say "thank you."

If they comment any further, just ask them, "Does how I look bother you? Because it doesn't bother me. I'm comfortable with the way I am."
 
Unfortunately, the apparently desired shape of a girl is "underweight". Which is actually unhealthy. If you are leading a healthy life, exercising, and eating a healthy amount. There's really nothing to worry about.

I know what they are doing is very offensive. But take a step back and look at the motives for them saying it. Do they have good intentions? If they are, you can reevaluate your lifestyle. Or are they just being mean? If they are, just being mean here are a few comebacks, that you can say to lighten up the situation, or give them a hint:
1. At least I have boobs.
2. I'm not fat, you are just too skinny.
End it with a laugh so that they think you are joking but subtly you are giving them hints not to be mean

my 2 cents :D
 
Its your life, love yourself. LOve yourself and don waste time on these comments. Why bother with their comments? Sometimes the pot is calling the kettle black, sometimes you have what the other ppl is longing for, so don bother. Make the best of what you have.
 
I never like BIG people. for one reason. they LOOK unhealthy. why not you loose weight. it is just the matter you want it or not.

many sickness for the BIG people. usually they die quick.

sound threatened ? oh yes...so loose weight then...
 
Hi Mirrorcelcious,

I am healthier than many people in this world. I run frequently and have taken part in various half marathon. Not all big size people are unhealthy. Similary some skinny ppl are even unhealthier. It is people like you that make "bigger" sized people inferior.
 
troll...
but joyjoy... realized how u never reacted or responded to any advises but almost immediately to an obvious negative comment?? Why bother?
That chap is intentionally provoking a response. It wasn't a sincere advise.
 
joy joy,

Funny thing. If you are so healthy and proud to be so even if you are big size - then what is the problem? It is not other people that make "bigger" sized people inferior - it is you yourself.

think about it.
 
Is big size equal to fat? Some people are big in nature due to their bone structure but they are as healthy as many of us. If its fat...then I would rather they do something (eg exercise) about their size for health reason rather than ignoring others comment or feeling confident about themselves...not for others but for ourselves...are we causing them more harm by telling them to accpet what they are?

joy_joy...half marathon?...keke...you are better than me...I jog quite often but still lack the stamina to go for half marathon...longest only ran about 13, 14 km...I swam too trying to build up my stamina....do you go gym?...my bf does and asked me to join him but dont like his type of exercise regime...pumping hard for a short period on a few xercises, rest, repeat again....boring...i dont want muscle like him..i just want to sweat and feel energised after the exercise...but he dont like jogging...he said not as good as his gym training....i think not true lah..
 
Outcast, high intensity resistance training isn't boring lah. It gives a relative quick workout with significant work done. I find long cardio boring. Running is best in climate where its cooler and we get to enjoy the view at the same time. In sg, its damn humid.
 
Ya..thts what he told me…getting work done in a short period of time…sometime as short as 30min…wah…how much can you get from a 30min exercise…I learn that our body only start burning fat, carbohydrate or fire up only after 30min of exercise….the body is getting ready to go and you already end the exercise….I think its just lazy of him…want to exercise but go for the short cut…I always try to maintain more than an hour of exercise to be effective…for sure he don’t have the stamina that I have….he only go for 2.4km…nothing more….

Don’t know lei….find those exercises he did in the gym very boring….stationary lei…confine in a small area….not much lady are in it too….at least swimming and jogging is in open space….humid?....aiya good to sweat lah….I like the sweating feel….feel very refreshing….keke
 
Joy joy, you said so yourself. You're healthy but just not born with the conventional slim body type. then why bother with what people say?
if you've accepted your body , might as well work on dressing it up with the right clothes. Large people can also look very good, like Queen Latifah
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Some very good advice from everyone that I agree with. Learn to love yourself and have self confidence. People will always think things and if these are bad things then just ignore them. It doesn't matter what they think, their opinions are just opinions at the end of the day, they're not right or wrong. Enjoy your life and enjoy who you are.
 
Well, if u r big sized and healthy, be proud of urself. If it's a man who said u r big sized, forget abt him. I dun think much of petite men who make such inferior comments. If it's a woman who said that, I'll challenge them to a long distance run to shut them up. Most imptly u must have that self-confidence!
 
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