Hi all,
I on the verge of thinking of separation wif mu hubbie. We both sat dwn to really discuss wat we want in life. Look like both of us have different expectations we want. He try to start up a small business seeing any potential opportunities. He is not in the wrong and I somehow not as adventurous as him and not really optimistic abt him doing. But have endured and given him 1 year to do watever without a stable job. Til now, it is still not stable as I also worry and sumtimes juz can't keep my emotions and my emotions irritates him. I know he had try his best to bring as how as he can. He hopes that I will support him no matter wat. He is rather insistent in the things he is doing and mention that main priority is wat he is doing even sacrifice mi if I stop him frm doing. I can't and nor I want to stop him as his strong belief in doing this own things. Plus I have problems wif his mum. I know he is sandwiched between us but I try to accomodate but to no avail. Or maybe I did not do very well in handling relationships wif his mum. I really do know either myself. All I hope is stable jobs from both of us so I dun have to worry for his mum side maybe juz leave forgive n forget but his mum keeps making requests I find it hard to compromise. When I say no, he tell his mum my answer, his mum could be veri extreme like not talking to him since CNY till now. He feels bad and sad abt it as he comes frm a single-parent home. All these years his mum singlehandedly brought him up. He mention he is on the end already as everytime is his mum says tis and I says tis. He had enough trying to please everyone. Should we really try for one more time for our marriage or should we really let go?? Coz tis is not the first time we try. Or am I in the wrong should I juz let go?? He says he does not want mi to be unhappy so he wishes to be separated so tat both of us can really live our own lives. But I told him I try to succumb my emotions letting to try for a few more mths on his job but he should really know the limit as to when. He told mi he dun know. Wat should I do? I have sleepless nites and really affecting my work.
I on the verge of thinking of separation wif mu hubbie. We both sat dwn to really discuss wat we want in life. Look like both of us have different expectations we want. He try to start up a small business seeing any potential opportunities. He is not in the wrong and I somehow not as adventurous as him and not really optimistic abt him doing. But have endured and given him 1 year to do watever without a stable job. Til now, it is still not stable as I also worry and sumtimes juz can't keep my emotions and my emotions irritates him. I know he had try his best to bring as how as he can. He hopes that I will support him no matter wat. He is rather insistent in the things he is doing and mention that main priority is wat he is doing even sacrifice mi if I stop him frm doing. I can't and nor I want to stop him as his strong belief in doing this own things. Plus I have problems wif his mum. I know he is sandwiched between us but I try to accomodate but to no avail. Or maybe I did not do very well in handling relationships wif his mum. I really do know either myself. All I hope is stable jobs from both of us so I dun have to worry for his mum side maybe juz leave forgive n forget but his mum keeps making requests I find it hard to compromise. When I say no, he tell his mum my answer, his mum could be veri extreme like not talking to him since CNY till now. He feels bad and sad abt it as he comes frm a single-parent home. All these years his mum singlehandedly brought him up. He mention he is on the end already as everytime is his mum says tis and I says tis. He had enough trying to please everyone. Should we really try for one more time for our marriage or should we really let go?? Coz tis is not the first time we try. Or am I in the wrong should I juz let go?? He says he does not want mi to be unhappy so he wishes to be separated so tat both of us can really live our own lives. But I told him I try to succumb my emotions letting to try for a few more mths on his job but he should really know the limit as to when. He told mi he dun know. Wat should I do? I have sleepless nites and really affecting my work.