Hi couragefinding,
that bounds down to whether you two communicate enough. I lead the same lifestyle as you, working 9-6 everyday, meeting my friends after work and don't meet him on weekdays not even a call.
As I'm in the communications line, I do lotsa entertainment and sometimes, work on weekends. He is an accountant, and quiet by nature, as in if he does not know you, he don't like to make small talk, but he yak alot in front of peeps he know.
Initially, he does mind, especially i'm not those 'gluey' kinda gal. I'm perfectly alright if he wanna have boys niteout or stay at home for his soccer matches, I'll find my own programs, until he said we don't feel like we are in a relationship.
After a long 9 years, what I can say is that, we have learnt how to give and take. I still go out on weekdays and not meet him (not calling every nite too), but I try to give my weekends to him and his family, as we are planning to settle down. Maybe it is a work thing, as a communicator, you don't want things to look ugly. I try to accomodate him by staying at home on weekends with him, and yet have my own lifestyle. He mingled with some of my friends and colleagues, and at times go out together with them (whenever he is not in his 'closing' mode) and join in our activities.
We will take turns to accompany both sides of our family but mostly his side as my parents are also either working or bz with other activities themselves.... see the resemblance!
and I'll accompany them during weekdays where I can go home early. But he will be at my place for major events like CNY, Xmas and bdays, while weekends will be spent at his place.
What I can say is that, it's not easy, but it all boils down to whether you guys wan to make it work. Since you have plans to settle down, find a chance to talk it out as paktoring and marriage is quite different.
All the best~
