hi gals,
in the midst of preparing for my customary next yr june...is confused over many things. my mum mentioned some things that we dunno correct or not....next help from u gals.
1. first thing in the morning, when FH picks me up from my place, got to do the tea ceremony first, cos mum says that once i leave the house means i'm already married out, tea ceremony to pay the "last" respect to my parents before i leave.
2. after which have to go back to FH place for the tea ceremony, cos according to the chinese customs, in-out of the house timing very important.
3. after tea ceremony @ FH place, den proceed to church for ceremony. but from my understanding, we will have to proceed to the church b4 going back to FH place.
4. during church wedding, we r supposed to have witness, so since my dad-in-law have passed away already, we feel that the eldest in the family which is FH's brother should be the witness, since he is also the witness during our ROM. But bro-in-law think other wise. he feels that since dad-in-law is the witness during his wedding, it is only fair that now my mum-in-law witness our wedding. (BTW, the other witness is my father, both ROM & AD)
there are so many dos & duns during AD, since we both r from diff background, he is a teochew & me a hokkian, he a catholic & me a buddist...his family a typical modern type, me family rather conservative, but mum is adopting a open mind so as not to make things diff for FH....so many things that his family dun know. Sometimes i really feel very tired having to run all these. Pls help!
in the midst of preparing for my customary next yr june...is confused over many things. my mum mentioned some things that we dunno correct or not....next help from u gals.
1. first thing in the morning, when FH picks me up from my place, got to do the tea ceremony first, cos mum says that once i leave the house means i'm already married out, tea ceremony to pay the "last" respect to my parents before i leave.
2. after which have to go back to FH place for the tea ceremony, cos according to the chinese customs, in-out of the house timing very important.
3. after tea ceremony @ FH place, den proceed to church for ceremony. but from my understanding, we will have to proceed to the church b4 going back to FH place.
4. during church wedding, we r supposed to have witness, so since my dad-in-law have passed away already, we feel that the eldest in the family which is FH's brother should be the witness, since he is also the witness during our ROM. But bro-in-law think other wise. he feels that since dad-in-law is the witness during his wedding, it is only fair that now my mum-in-law witness our wedding. (BTW, the other witness is my father, both ROM & AD)
there are so many dos & duns during AD, since we both r from diff background, he is a teochew & me a hokkian, he a catholic & me a buddist...his family a typical modern type, me family rather conservative, but mum is adopting a open mind so as not to make things diff for FH....so many things that his family dun know. Sometimes i really feel very tired having to run all these. Pls help!