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Wah.. you siao on, ah siao.. next time got car I may not drive to gym leh.. 
Oops.. cannot be lazy! I prefer to go 2-3x after work and maybe only 1 weekend. I also wish my hb can go to gym w me but his workload is quite heavy and he will complain tired and wanna go home to rest. But funny thing is once he's infront of his PC, he wun be tired anymore leh!
RaRa, the route you described seems longer leh..
Oops.. cannot be lazy! I prefer to go 2-3x after work and maybe only 1 weekend. I also wish my hb can go to gym w me but his workload is quite heavy and he will complain tired and wanna go home to rest. But funny thing is once he's infront of his PC, he wun be tired anymore leh! RaRa, the route you described seems longer leh..
cecilialim
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where's simpleman??
machiavellian
New Member
G~gal, what you did in the other thread...
that was not cool man.
Not cool at all.
that was not cool man.
Not cool at all.
machiavellian
New Member
Yes powder, that's true. Disappointing still, to discover that there are times an exchange of opinions do not go down too well with people who has their backs against the wall.
Anyway, 200th post.
Here's another poem by me to share.
The Indomitable One
Anguish weeped from the wretched song
Bloodied tears his sole source of warmth
Wrapped in piercing, rotting stench
Clad in shreds of wilted flesh
Wrists enclasped by cuffs of doom
Ankles chained and soul entombed
Escaping the lips of a condemned emperor
His soothing roars of raging whispers
He raised his head and to heavens he stared
Only to be mocked by His blinding glare
"'Tis time!" is heard, the crowd fell dead
Hushed and huddled they silently prayed
The swish of iron ends their dreadful wait
Sealed and delivered his abysmal fate
But screams and shrieks broke the muted grounds
"A scam! A scam!" the men astounds
For he had preserved his once lost crown
And rose to meet the blade like a deity's son
Cloaked in scarlet drapes he cries
"I shall not bow" with a smile so wry
Anyway, 200th post.
Here's another poem by me to share.
The Indomitable One
Anguish weeped from the wretched song
Bloodied tears his sole source of warmth
Wrapped in piercing, rotting stench
Clad in shreds of wilted flesh
Wrists enclasped by cuffs of doom
Ankles chained and soul entombed
Escaping the lips of a condemned emperor
His soothing roars of raging whispers
He raised his head and to heavens he stared
Only to be mocked by His blinding glare
"'Tis time!" is heard, the crowd fell dead
Hushed and huddled they silently prayed
The swish of iron ends their dreadful wait
Sealed and delivered his abysmal fate
But screams and shrieks broke the muted grounds
"A scam! A scam!" the men astounds
For he had preserved his once lost crown
And rose to meet the blade like a deity's son
Cloaked in scarlet drapes he cries
"I shall not bow" with a smile so wry
machiavellian
New Member
G~gal, forget it
It's okay don't worry about it.
I wasn't planning on continuing the discussion with the other party making a biased judgement on my perspectives on offer based on my marital status. But since you did make the revelation, so be it.
The 'discussion' kind of ended anyway. She fled.
I wasn't planning on continuing the discussion with the other party making a biased judgement on my perspectives on offer based on my marital status. But since you did make the revelation, so be it.
The 'discussion' kind of ended anyway. She fled.
machiavellian
New Member
She 'fled' because she said she won't be posting anymore. I'm also knocking off, like NOW, but I didn't say I would not be posting anymore in that thread.
She claimed to have verified her statements, I asked her to show me, and conveniently she says she's said enough. -Yawns-
anyway, have a good Monday night everyone. Long week ahead!
She claimed to have verified her statements, I asked her to show me, and conveniently she says she's said enough. -Yawns-
anyway, have a good Monday night everyone. Long week ahead!
Need some advice from you all.
How do I go about talking someone elder in the family into going for a medical checkup?
I'm talking about my aunt. She's the kind with a very traditional mindset and paranoid about going for a checkup in case they discover anything bad about their health.
To her, this is unnecessary expenditure even though her own husband suffered a stroke and underwent a bypass before, and her own sisters were both diagnosed with breast cancer in the advanced stage.
Her health is not very good as it is, which she denies, and always uses the excuse of not having any kind of enjoyment to indulge in unhealthy food.
To make it worse, I am not good at all at persuading and we almost tore down the roof before she allowed me to buy her an additional 1st-$ payout hospitalisation plan.
Since I'm doing a full medical checkup with this clinic recommended by my company and the package price is extendable to family, I asked her about it last night amicably but she declined as expected. I didn't insist last night for fear of another outburst.
However, it's been a year since her mammogram (she went for it not without much persuasion from her children, and also because I called to book a date at the polyclinic and also offered to pay for her), and she has never gone for a full body checkup before.
I'm not going to mention the package offered by this clinic anymore, since NTUC has a similar but cheaper package which I found on its website. Any advice on how I should approach this matter? She can't possibly be avoiding body checkups forever, especially with our family history and unhealthy lifestyle.
How do I go about talking someone elder in the family into going for a medical checkup?
I'm talking about my aunt. She's the kind with a very traditional mindset and paranoid about going for a checkup in case they discover anything bad about their health.
To her, this is unnecessary expenditure even though her own husband suffered a stroke and underwent a bypass before, and her own sisters were both diagnosed with breast cancer in the advanced stage.
Her health is not very good as it is, which she denies, and always uses the excuse of not having any kind of enjoyment to indulge in unhealthy food.
To make it worse, I am not good at all at persuading and we almost tore down the roof before she allowed me to buy her an additional 1st-$ payout hospitalisation plan.
Since I'm doing a full medical checkup with this clinic recommended by my company and the package price is extendable to family, I asked her about it last night amicably but she declined as expected. I didn't insist last night for fear of another outburst.
However, it's been a year since her mammogram (she went for it not without much persuasion from her children, and also because I called to book a date at the polyclinic and also offered to pay for her), and she has never gone for a full body checkup before.
I'm not going to mention the package offered by this clinic anymore, since NTUC has a similar but cheaper package which I found on its website. Any advice on how I should approach this matter? She can't possibly be avoiding body checkups forever, especially with our family history and unhealthy lifestyle.
laundry_woes
New Member
Sounds like my parents. I lied my way thru the whole thing to get them to go for the health checkup. I paid but bluffed them tat it's sponsored by company. Scheduled it on Sat so they can't complain abt taking leave. Chauffeured them there so they can't run away. Heheh. Basically short of lending my body for their checkup.
Can't ur aunt's children help persuade her again?
Can't ur aunt's children help persuade her again?
laundry, this one don't even need to ferry her there. they will come to your house to draw blood and collect the urine/stool samples.
her children are younger than me and don't see the importance of such matters yet. daughter doesn't earn much and son is in NS. $200 to them for a checkup is a lot of money. Ok, their mindset about money is a huge issue which I cannot fathom.
Anyway, gotta go off now. Continue later.
her children are younger than me and don't see the importance of such matters yet. daughter doesn't earn much and son is in NS. $200 to them for a checkup is a lot of money. Ok, their mindset about money is a huge issue which I cannot fathom.
Anyway, gotta go off now. Continue later.
Rara, I dunno how to persuade such pple except to try to lay a guilt trip on them. Say their children may incur even more expenses if they are seriously ill due to late treatment, or their children's children may not get to see their grandparents, etc. If they cannot take gentle persuasion, then got to try this "ku rou ji" lor...
G~gal, that's the other big issue - Money.
It's not as if she doesn't know how expensive treatment can be since her money's been almost wiped out thrice before by my mum's, my grandma's and my uncle's medical bills.
There's been a lot of communication problems in the family all this while, esp between my aunt and I. Money talk always brings emotions into the conversation and complicates matters.
I was thinking if I had offered to pay last night, she would probably still say 'No'. Well, in a way things have become so sensitive that she doesn't want to 'take' any more money from me (I give quite a large portion of my pay to her monthly). I asked her why she doesn't want to go for the checkup. She said 'I jsut don't want to go lor. No particular reason.' I tried the soft approach by showing her the pamphlet and saying 'You just take a look lor. A couple of hundreds, if nothing, good, can set your mind at ease. if anything, better to have it detected early.' But she doesn't see my point. Maybe she does, but just don't want to go. I don't know. I only know that if there is really anything wrong and it is not detected early, the financial burden that will befall us will make this 200 bucks seem so insignificant.
As for my cousins, they also conveniently use money as an excuse, when they're willing to spend $100+ on a monthly shopping trip or on a new game console. I know we all have our indulgences, but this is only once a year. I can't force it down their throats either lest things turn ugly. I told her daughter that she declined, and she said 'Aiya, she got no money mah. Like me, my pay raise is only coming at the end of May. It's not that I don't want to go for the checkup but I don't have the money.'
Sigh... I don't know. They live day to day without planning for rainy days and are sceptical about new financial products. On the other hand, I worry too much yet am not effective in conveying my concerns. Bad.
Sorry everyone, for using this thread as my ranting ground.
It's not as if she doesn't know how expensive treatment can be since her money's been almost wiped out thrice before by my mum's, my grandma's and my uncle's medical bills.
There's been a lot of communication problems in the family all this while, esp between my aunt and I. Money talk always brings emotions into the conversation and complicates matters.
I was thinking if I had offered to pay last night, she would probably still say 'No'. Well, in a way things have become so sensitive that she doesn't want to 'take' any more money from me (I give quite a large portion of my pay to her monthly). I asked her why she doesn't want to go for the checkup. She said 'I jsut don't want to go lor. No particular reason.' I tried the soft approach by showing her the pamphlet and saying 'You just take a look lor. A couple of hundreds, if nothing, good, can set your mind at ease. if anything, better to have it detected early.' But she doesn't see my point. Maybe she does, but just don't want to go. I don't know. I only know that if there is really anything wrong and it is not detected early, the financial burden that will befall us will make this 200 bucks seem so insignificant.
As for my cousins, they also conveniently use money as an excuse, when they're willing to spend $100+ on a monthly shopping trip or on a new game console. I know we all have our indulgences, but this is only once a year. I can't force it down their throats either lest things turn ugly. I told her daughter that she declined, and she said 'Aiya, she got no money mah. Like me, my pay raise is only coming at the end of May. It's not that I don't want to go for the checkup but I don't have the money.'
Sigh... I don't know. They live day to day without planning for rainy days and are sceptical about new financial products. On the other hand, I worry too much yet am not effective in conveying my concerns. Bad.
Sorry everyone, for using this thread as my ranting ground.
machiavellian
New Member
simpleman, already cleared things up with G~gal. She didn't do anything on purpose, and everything's good. At that point in time I didn't want to continue the discussion with stella since she was getting personal, so didn't appreciate the unexpected revelation of my marital status.
And I loosely used the term fled because I don't appreciate spouting something and then not sticking around to at least justify yourself when prompted. Made it kind of a waste of other people's time who bothered trying to understand what you were trying to say.
Rara, the older generation tend to have this mentality leh... I'm not too sure what tactics you can use to persuade your aunt into agreeing to the checkup. Can try what G~gal suggested lor.. lay the guilt trip on them and hopefully they'll budge? =P
And I loosely used the term fled because I don't appreciate spouting something and then not sticking around to at least justify yourself when prompted. Made it kind of a waste of other people's time who bothered trying to understand what you were trying to say.
Rara, the older generation tend to have this mentality leh... I'm not too sure what tactics you can use to persuade your aunt into agreeing to the checkup. Can try what G~gal suggested lor.. lay the guilt trip on them and hopefully they'll budge? =P
simpleman, thanks. i guess that's the best way out now. Make sure that she goes for her annual mammogram at least. Actually, this mammogram thing had dragged on for a while. If not for the fact that my other aunt was diagnosed with Stage 3 cancer early last year, she wouldn't have agreed to go for her first scan last year. Time to pick up the phone again!
aiyooo mach, yet another poem !! young man, you live in what era?? poem after poem, and your poem is so chiem. the english machiam out of my O levels textbooks. tak boleh understand la.
poems are for ppl still in school hor, like you lor, going back to school. and your poem not funny some more. if you want to write and share, then write something more singaporean. something we can identify with. something funny !
poems are for ppl still in school hor, like you lor, going back to school. and your poem not funny some more. if you want to write and share, then write something more singaporean. something we can identify with. something funny !
Morning peeps... back to my desk today
Hey RaRa, you can call up SATA... if I'm not wrong they have free mammogram on certain day of the week. Can't remember issit Thur or which day, cos my fren forwarded me an email sometime ago. But I've not been there cos the timing is not convenient for me. BTW, try to teach your aunt to do BSE every month. That's how I detected my lump (quite small but it was growing and I had a little scare) and subsequently went for an op.
Mach, I appreciate you trying to clear the air but next time maybe you can clarify before making comments like that (ie me not being cool). I believe we're all mature adults here and just sharing our views. Like powder said at the end of the day, it's up to us whether we wanna follow those views. But I dun appreciate you saying "Disappointing still, to discover that there are times an exchange of opinions do not go down too well with people who has their backs against the wall." Who were you referring to specifically and why shld you feel disappointed? I think others wld think that you're being sour about others not sharing your views? Anyway, I think unless there is a definitive answer to what constitute flirting (harmless or not), there will be no end to the debate. If the debate is to go on, let's participate w the spirit of good sportsmanship and not be too presumptuous. OK?
Hey RaRa, you can call up SATA... if I'm not wrong they have free mammogram on certain day of the week. Can't remember issit Thur or which day, cos my fren forwarded me an email sometime ago. But I've not been there cos the timing is not convenient for me. BTW, try to teach your aunt to do BSE every month. That's how I detected my lump (quite small but it was growing and I had a little scare) and subsequently went for an op.
Mach, I appreciate you trying to clear the air but next time maybe you can clarify before making comments like that (ie me not being cool). I believe we're all mature adults here and just sharing our views. Like powder said at the end of the day, it's up to us whether we wanna follow those views. But I dun appreciate you saying "Disappointing still, to discover that there are times an exchange of opinions do not go down too well with people who has their backs against the wall." Who were you referring to specifically and why shld you feel disappointed? I think others wld think that you're being sour about others not sharing your views? Anyway, I think unless there is a definitive answer to what constitute flirting (harmless or not), there will be no end to the debate. If the debate is to go on, let's participate w the spirit of good sportsmanship and not be too presumptuous. OK?
cecilialim
Active Member
morning...
simpleman... i chance upon your blog yesterday afternoon... crying whole afternoon while reading thru ..
simpleman... i chance upon your blog yesterday afternoon... crying whole afternoon while reading thru ..
I like poems...even though I dun consider myself particularly literary in nature i like the occassional WH Auden, Dylan Thomas, etc.. Here's one of my favourites from Auden:
=Funeral Blues=
Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.
Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message He Is Dead,
Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves,
Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.
He was my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last for ever: I was wrong.
The stars are not wanted now: put out every one;
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun;
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood.
For nothing now can ever come to any good.
=Funeral Blues=
Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.
Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message He Is Dead,
Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves,
Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.
He was my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last for ever: I was wrong.
The stars are not wanted now: put out every one;
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun;
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood.
For nothing now can ever come to any good.
cecilialim
Active Member
i just went to a funeral wake last evening... so many ppl died recently
Rara reports!! Just reached office
Thanks for the advice. Ya I know there's the mammogram bus that tours the island. Will check it out. If don't match then I'll just call and book lor. There's a discounted price for women above a certain age I think.
G~gal, ya the poem evoked in me the exact feelings you described.
Thanks for the advice. Ya I know there's the mammogram bus that tours the island. Will check it out. If don't match then I'll just call and book lor. There's a discounted price for women above a certain age I think.
G~gal, ya the poem evoked in me the exact feelings you described.
salsa_babe
New Member
Good morning all!
no one misses me har? ~sad
Hi Skylar....ho seh boh?
no one misses me har? ~sad
Hi Skylar....ho seh boh?
cherryapple
New Member
Very good morning!!! I reach office at 945am where offical hr start art 9am... I am very the late hor... heng boss not in yet...
cherryapple
New Member
Hi Salsa Babe.... long time no see/hear u...
cecilialim
Active Member
leaving office to do my hair later.. messed up
salsa, where were u yest?? we never say here doesn't mean don't miss u mah. we just bitch behind ur back lor.
no u around forum where got fun? right?
haha G~gal, this is my first time. I usually reach either 8.30 or 9. But the average reporting time of my colleagues is 9.30am when actual start time is 8.45. Very slack lor I told you liao mah. I came in at the same time as another girl who perpetually reports at this time.
Today is a suay day. 2 straps came off my strappy sandal. So I will be bound to my seat today. boohoo.
haha G~gal, this is my first time. I usually reach either 8.30 or 9. But the average reporting time of my colleagues is 9.30am when actual start time is 8.45. Very slack lor I told you liao mah. I came in at the same time as another girl who perpetually reports at this time.
Today is a suay day. 2 straps came off my strappy sandal. So I will be bound to my seat today. boohoo.
salsa_babe
New Member
got long time meh? I was only "on leave" frm the thread yest nia mah....
G~gal....I cut my hair liao. TMD! the stupid tech mgr in my offc said I look æ¶å¿ƒ.
G~gal....I cut my hair liao. TMD! the stupid tech mgr in my offc said I look æ¶å¿ƒ.
RaRa, that's why I normally have a 2nd pair of shoes in the office 
Can stick back your shoes or not? Just masking/scotch tape and staple to hold it together 1st then lunch time go out and buy a replacement pair??
Salsa, you cut what style?? Muo gu tou?? Kekeke... I know you growing mushroom but dunnid to look like one.. haha... Oops....
Can stick back your shoes or not? Just masking/scotch tape and staple to hold it together 1st then lunch time go out and buy a replacement pair?? Salsa, you cut what style?? Muo gu tou?? Kekeke... I know you growing mushroom but dunnid to look like one.. haha... Oops....
salsa_babe
New Member
G~gal....are you feeling better now?
cecilialim
Active Member
how can someone comment on your hair like that!