hello all! sorry I haven't been able to post here very much. Fiance and I arrived in SF after an 18 hour flight a few days back - I'm still a bit jetlagged LOL! Been trying to catch up on all the archives..
We are back to see his family and friends, but his mother is quite the dragon lady. I don't think I have ever really enjoyed my stays in SF, which is quite sayang cos SF is a very nice city. Thank goodness he has been keeping to his word and standing up to her, otherwise I would prob have to move back to the US liao..looks like we all have our fair share of woes..hehe..
Alicia > Fairy's Inc has ready made rings, maybe can consider them?
Diana > Hmm I agree with Thomas et al, I think it is a good idea to trust him and be comfortable now before committing. If a guy knows he is going to get married soon and continues to actively flirt with other people, it is possible he may want to have his fair share of fun still. My fiance and I dated long distance for close to a year before he came to Singapore, and I spend most of my time travelling for business even after he moved to Singapore (like 2-3 weeks out of a month away from home - role reversal LOL)..we've had to juggle long periods away from each other, sync our calendars just so we can talk to each other across different timezones, etc..and the topic of marriage only came up early 2008..so I won't necessarily agree that you need an official bond like marriage to earn each other's trust even if you don't see each other for long periods of time
An alternative way of looking at it is, it is through these things that you figure out if he is the right one for you..whether he is willing to remain true to you no matter what..
While I do understand where you are coming from in terms of really wanting it to work and not let a good opportunity slip by...pardon my candidness, but if he doesn't have the right mindset, there is no guarantee he will not do stuff like that behind your back even after marriage..and I also agree with Thomas that if this is the case, then it will likely end up in divorce. The 3 months apart is a good way to see if things will work. I understand that these may not be words you were hoping to read, but it's always good to check out alternative opinions before making a life changing decision like marriage. my 2 cents' worth
