hi Jan,
i think it's at the "Christian Brides" thread!
hi pepper
there's no full proof RSVP system but u can take some steps to cut down on those losses.
1) it's never to early to inform relatives and friends abt ur wedding. In fact, i've started to verbally inform some close friends abt my wedding date and joked abt giving them time to save up on the ang bao

This way, they can't fault u for not informing them early and also bcos some people organise their holiday plans half year in advance ( especially for those short breaks during long weekends whereby they hv to book early to ensure their place)
2) Instead of the conventional RSVP by phone, u can also do RSVP by email. A fast and effective way of getting ur RSVPs.
3) The sending out of invitations should preferably be about 1 to 1 and half months b4 ur AD. Giving the cards out too early....higher chance of them losing it

(anyway, u wld hv informed them verbally even earlier)
hehe...the above is juz some ways which I've gathered from my frens who hv gone thru their weddings and my two cents worth...
