caitlyn,
actually, both myself and my hb, my CL also, dun encourage pacifier. so we try not to introduce that to her. only this few nights that she cant sleep, my CL ask me whether wanna try to give her. we did persist, but she simply dun wanna and keep throwing out.
my CL also dun encourage bb to keep crying, cos she told us that too much of crying, will cause colic. so normally, we will let her cry for a while then attend to her.
i m not doing total bf. i mixed with formula since day one. cos milk supply quite low.
as for night time, my CL took care of my gal, so i not very sure, but everyday in the morning i will ask her and she told me that my gal wake up every 3 hour for milk. but she mentioned that after full mth, then try to waive off the night feed. that means, to feed her lastest ard 11pm, then if she wakes up in the middle of the night, just feed her with water and slowly, bb will not wake in the middle of the night leow till maybe morning 5 or 6 am. maybe you can try this method. otherwise it will b v tiring for you loh.