(2005) Brides of year 2005
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hi caitlyn.. me on 2 wks leave so can only log in when i go back to mum or mil's place. really nua at home for the past 1 wk+. very lazy to go out and am always sleepy.
btw, ur MIL will b looking after yr bb after u give birth?
tx berry, will take good care of myself for bb's sake. hb keep telling me no pain no gain.. u wan healthy bb & suffer abit lor. he planned to bring me on short trip or cruise after my confinement.. hopefully budget allows.
btw, ur MIL will b looking after yr bb after u give birth?
tx berry, will take good care of myself for bb's sake. hb keep telling me no pain no gain.. u wan healthy bb & suffer abit lor. he planned to bring me on short trip or cruise after my confinement.. hopefully budget allows.
merryberrys
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caitlyn no choice lor... i still rem u telling me u will love to have MS...haha
maybe after 4th mth den ms will go away..my ms came back during 3rd tri u know..my hb always put a chair inside toilet for me to sit and merlion..
i think during preg..hb's support is v impt..must tell ur hbs all these...
jenn...i also drink alot ribena..i cant drink plain water...i will puke...
maybe after 4th mth den ms will go away..my ms came back during 3rd tri u know..my hb always put a chair inside toilet for me to sit and merlion..
i think during preg..hb's support is v impt..must tell ur hbs all these...
jenn...i also drink alot ribena..i cant drink plain water...i will puke...
merryberrys
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watashi..ur hb right...no pain no gain.. veri soon u will realise mummies are so wei da...will know the feeling how ur mummy suffer last time when they are having u...
ur hb good hor..bring u short trip..
ur hb good hor..bring u short trip..
watashi - hee.. i feel guilty lor.. see all of u so disciplined.. hee.. yup, MIL doing confinement.. most likely her taking care of bb too..
berry - yah.. i remember saying tt too.. i felt a little relieved when i started having MS coz it assured me i was really preg.. but now tt it's refusing to go away! haha
berry - yah.. i remember saying tt too.. i felt a little relieved when i started having MS coz it assured me i was really preg.. but now tt it's refusing to go away! haha
janf, tats our headache at the moment. considering to either move in wif MIL and she take care of bb, or to employ a maid & get my mum to quit working anf stay home wif the maid.
coz my 70 yrs old liao, dun think she can manage the bb alone.. still considering and working out our budget.
coz my 70 yrs old liao, dun think she can manage the bb alone.. still considering and working out our budget.
personally for me, i wld actually prefer own parents to take care if possible.. coz there will definitely be conflicting views when it comes to bringing up kids and it's easier to tell own parents what u want/ dun want to be done.. harder to say to PILs.. also, if bu shuang can say.. but PILs cannot.. =)
caitlyn, move in will be temp lor, maybe till i bb is 2 when i can send him to childcare. my MIL is okie, just a matter of me getting use to staying with them. of course if poss will also wan my own parents to take care, but seems like moving in with mil is a more economical option..
for me would be my mum for sure cos my mil is working and she doesn't cook so no point for me to ask her to do confinement for me.... my mum can cook and i agree with caitlyn, easier to communicate with own mum..... u all engaging any confinement lady? for me not going to cos my mum will be the one....
watashi - hmm.. maybe weigh ur options lor..i always believe xiang jian rong yi xiang chu nan.. i actually quite worried abt e my confinement.. coz my MIL can be quite traditional n will always listen to those san gu liu po.. hee..
daphne - not engaging confinemnt lady but may engage part time help as dun think my MIL can manage.. as for now, she says no need to.. but i still consideirng..
daphne - not engaging confinemnt lady but may engage part time help as dun think my MIL can manage.. as for now, she says no need to.. but i still consideirng..
Daphne,
Me will be engaging a confining lady and my mum will help me to take care of my bb from 2nd mth onwards... cos she dont really know how to cook confinment food..
I wouldnt ask my MIL to cook or take care cos she prefer working..
Watashi,
Me too, i will be sending my child to nursery once she/he reached 18 mths... will oso lessen my mum load, after all, she approaching 55 soon, dun want to tire her out !!!
Me will be engaging a confining lady and my mum will help me to take care of my bb from 2nd mth onwards... cos she dont really know how to cook confinment food..
I wouldnt ask my MIL to cook or take care cos she prefer working..
Watashi,
Me too, i will be sending my child to nursery once she/he reached 18 mths... will oso lessen my mum load, after all, she approaching 55 soon, dun want to tire her out !!!
Janf,
Huh..my mum young huh...she is 52 this year, and my MIL is 64 this year lor.. so definitely my mum hv more energy to take care of my bb and i feel more fang xin too...
My hb will send the bb to my mum's hse in SK everyday cos he work in Kim Chuan Rd, quite near to SK, then i will go back to my mum hse for dinner daily and fetch bb back to home again... every routine lah...
Think me, hb, and mum will be very tired, but bb happy cos he/she is being pampered... kee kee
Huh..my mum young huh...she is 52 this year, and my MIL is 64 this year lor.. so definitely my mum hv more energy to take care of my bb and i feel more fang xin too...
My hb will send the bb to my mum's hse in SK everyday cos he work in Kim Chuan Rd, quite near to SK, then i will go back to my mum hse for dinner daily and fetch bb back to home again... every routine lah...
Think me, hb, and mum will be very tired, but bb happy cos he/she is being pampered... kee kee
Ting,
Ha ha, ur mum so funnie wan..so if u conceive, she is willingly to quit her job and help u to take care of ur bb ???
Dear all,
Last time, when our mum give birth to us, they need not worry who to take care of us wan... they can manage on their own even when there is only 1 breader.. but now, we all deciding whether mum or MIL to do the take care bb job !!!!
Ha ha, ur mum so funnie wan..so if u conceive, she is willingly to quit her job and help u to take care of ur bb ???
Dear all,
Last time, when our mum give birth to us, they need not worry who to take care of us wan... they can manage on their own even when there is only 1 breader.. but now, we all deciding whether mum or MIL to do the take care bb job !!!!
Caitlyn,
I understand, further u just bot a flat and need $$ to reno the house, cant really quit lor, if not ur hb will have to suffer alot on financial committment for u and bb..
Ting,
Quit and take care of ur bb huh...wa, this i dun think i can do it...cos me and hb still servicing the HDB loan + the reno loan and others, i dun think i can survive without a job !!!!
I understand, further u just bot a flat and need $$ to reno the house, cant really quit lor, if not ur hb will have to suffer alot on financial committment for u and bb..
Ting,
Quit and take care of ur bb huh...wa, this i dun think i can do it...cos me and hb still servicing the HDB loan + the reno loan and others, i dun think i can survive without a job !!!!
Jam,
Ha ha, u read the archive ??? Yes, i preggie just 1 time kena ... kee kee
All plans are unchanged, me still going to taiwan next week, in mar07, maybe go ahead with my 11D europe trip and 5D company retreat to Japan... but first have to sayang my bb dun give me too much troubls so that i can enjoy all the trips !!!! kee kee
Ha ha, u read the archive ??? Yes, i preggie just 1 time kena ... kee kee
All plans are unchanged, me still going to taiwan next week, in mar07, maybe go ahead with my 11D europe trip and 5D company retreat to Japan... but first have to sayang my bb dun give me too much troubls so that i can enjoy all the trips !!!! kee kee
Jam,
U believed? my last visit to my IL plc was CNY, and then i meet them outside when we arrange for dinner when is was either my FIL or MIL birthday....
HB and MIL dun like me to interact too much with my FIL cos he always like to talk rubbish, even now, he is not aware tt i am pregnant!!!!
MIL said wait until bb is more stable, then tell him !!!
Well, all these message, i didnt heard personally from my MIL wan, all were revert from HB mouth !!!
U believed? my last visit to my IL plc was CNY, and then i meet them outside when we arrange for dinner when is was either my FIL or MIL birthday....
HB and MIL dun like me to interact too much with my FIL cos he always like to talk rubbish, even now, he is not aware tt i am pregnant!!!!
MIL said wait until bb is more stable, then tell him !!!
Well, all these message, i didnt heard personally from my MIL wan, all were revert from HB mouth !!!
sure caitlyn, go ahead =) we r ur listenin ears here!
jenn- i tot of lor but of cos mus c our finances how 1st. hb may hv to pay cash for the flat since i wun hv cpf liao. i wil take up p/t jobs also maybe in the afternn tat kind thn hb bk frm sch can take care of bb... hee
jenn- i tot of lor but of cos mus c our finances how 1st. hb may hv to pay cash for the flat since i wun hv cpf liao. i wil take up p/t jobs also maybe in the afternn tat kind thn hb bk frm sch can take care of bb... hee
jenn - last time i not so irritable.. now more so.. even my hb noticed i not so patient.. haha.. end up he's e more patient one now! haha
just to share.. my PILs are e very traditional thinking, yang er fang lao type of ppl.. they do low income jobs with no CPF so for their hse they financing by cash.. due to lack of proper planning they bot this current 4-rm flat abt 5 yrs back THINKING tt my hb will take over e financing w/out telling him tt.. due to location of flat, both hb n i dun want to stay there.. hee.. recently FIL just commented tt he wants to buy a 2-rm flat coz every mth their savings dipping n he thinks buying a 2-rm flat will solve e problem.. where got so easy lor?? he got outstanding loan of abt 60K for current flat.. even if can sell at 100+K.. may not be enuff to cover 2 rm flat.. then need cash for reno leh?? hiyah.. sometimes i really wish they think thru more rather than just blindly listen to others.. n u noe when he choose to say this?? when my hb n i told them tt we may not give them a lot more money during end yr altho we got bonus coz need it for reno n bb! actually hb not happy abt tt but i put my foot down saying we less debt now is better coz nxt time when his parents confirm need our help we can!
just to share.. my PILs are e very traditional thinking, yang er fang lao type of ppl.. they do low income jobs with no CPF so for their hse they financing by cash.. due to lack of proper planning they bot this current 4-rm flat abt 5 yrs back THINKING tt my hb will take over e financing w/out telling him tt.. due to location of flat, both hb n i dun want to stay there.. hee.. recently FIL just commented tt he wants to buy a 2-rm flat coz every mth their savings dipping n he thinks buying a 2-rm flat will solve e problem.. where got so easy lor?? he got outstanding loan of abt 60K for current flat.. even if can sell at 100+K.. may not be enuff to cover 2 rm flat.. then need cash for reno leh?? hiyah.. sometimes i really wish they think thru more rather than just blindly listen to others.. n u noe when he choose to say this?? when my hb n i told them tt we may not give them a lot more money during end yr altho we got bonus coz need it for reno n bb! actually hb not happy abt tt but i put my foot down saying we less debt now is better coz nxt time when his parents confirm need our help we can!
not only tt.. he choose to tell us at a time where we just mentioned tt we stressed out by money matters.. how does tt help?? then i can't help but compare to my parents.. my parents also not much money wiser.. coz they got 2 loans to service.. hdb plus condo.. n my dad cpf no money so gotta start servicing hdb with cash which i', doing coz hb n i staying there so it's rite to do so.. so they also can't help us financially.. but wat do my parents do? my dad knowing tt now i preggy n hb busy, went down to our new place n did a thorough washing up of e place coz it's really darned dirty! i mean it's so diff from just saying sorry cannot help u financially rite?
jenn, so is unplan wan loh...i thought so loh cos u din wanna to hv bb so soon loh...last mth my AF din report & i scared 'accident' happen cos undergo lasik can't get preggie but dat time i still go ahead even my AF din report..so my AF was late for more than 2 wks and only report to mi on sun...so my hb say "B" plan gone...
jenn - it's not tt lor.. we cannot dun bother coz they say very clearly they not enuff money to last them liao.. think most prob they will stay with us lor.. i dun really mind tt.. just vrey sian when they always just say sorry cannot help u financially then go on to burden us with their financial probs.. n dun offer any other form of help!
ting - haha.. actually sometimes i wonder if i being very xiao qi..but i feel i've really done my part liao.. last time when still two of us only, will bring them go restaurants eat, even paid for their HK trip INCL expenses this june.. but think they a bit "spoilt" liao so feel a bit disappointed we have to cut back.. sighz..