(2005) Brides of year 2005

i think having married friends as jie mei is ok what... i dun see anything chiong or what... they r juz in the hse only.. ur mum also married..tat means she cannot join in the fun and see meh?
i am having 2 married friends as jie mei... and their wedding also include me as jie mei even though i ROM liao..
but then.. let ur mum know lo... u r also in bad situation..tell her ur friends also do tat and no prob..
sometimes she also "hear" pple say one mah
 


daphne..i really want to follow, there r simply too many traditional Dos & Donts.. we will end up getting nothing done. have to give & take and compromise with our parents lor.
bo bian.. tink everyone faces such probs with parents, just tat mine is yet to come.
 
hey JTan
im hvin one VIP table.. we specifically asked our parents to sit with me and hubby together with my in-laws and hubby's brothers & partners. so tat makes up jus nice 10 of us.

i hv heard of weddings with two vip tables and both sides of parents do not sit at the same table..

dun fret so much over this, im sure u will b able to find a way out. mb like wat mikmik suggested, get ur hubby to speak to his mum and explain tat a wedd is to celebrate the union of u and him and tat also includes the two families.. and in this case, both parents shld sit at the same table. Mb hubby can tell his mum tat both of u wan both parents to sit at the same table as a form of respect.. then mb if ur hubby puts it tis way, ur MIL will understand? no harm givin it a try lar.

hey starmoon/janice
u got mail!

mehmeh
i collected my 'amended' dress for my cocktail ydae.. rather pleased wif it..but no chance to take photo and upload it.. once i do tat, i let u noe
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hee, caitlyn, i think i'm under stress.... hee cos i'm stress over my club on their lawsuit so worry about my dinner venue now..... hopefully nothing goes wrong there..... and also maybe cos i'm trying to arrange for the meet the parents session.... both side parents haven't met up yet cos my dad is still away on biz trip and dunno when he will be back man..... and worry what to say during the lunch / dinner..... sigh..... so many things to do and worry......
 
agree wif berry/watashi.. most of the time, parents oways hearsay frm other aunties one.. got truth no truth in it oso no1 knows.. juz hv to compromise lor.. afterall, we all wan the relationship to be smooth-sailing..

berry - i sent email to ur inbox a/c leh but no reply frm u..
 
juz hope ur mum dun hear those san gu liu po anyhow say lo
my inlaw also hear those san gu liu po say cannot marry this year what rooster year cannot marry...nearly cause me cannot get married during Jan... in the end we discuss and compromise and she wants us to get a good date... so we did tat...
sometimes they also hear this n tat n add here and there... scary...
but i also bo bian have to follow... coz traditional wedding are like that one...
 
daphne

a trick before the meet-up session, pls talk thru wif ur FH abt wat u both & both side pama expect frm each side & u both gotta 'PaKak' (in cahoot) if the meeting goes abit tense..

tat time when our both sides meet up, my ma duno requested for something, then my FMIL went "we dun practice it." me & FH face start to turn color liao!! super panicked! then go home still gotta do pacifying work to own ma.. wahlau, damn stressed.. haiz.. more to come..
 
Daphne, dont worry, everything will work out when the time comes. normally parents are like that, they want us to follow certain things. for my gate crashing, I have to drop one of my jie mei who is going through divorce, she opts out as she says she does not want to affect the mood... thus, I will be missing one good friend.

i think no choice, cos we have to try to compromise with alot of things, seems like marriage is not only about 2 person hehe this is waht i learn after ROM for so long...
 
watashi...ya lo... i also realise its not abt the 2 of us... from the time i started to choose a date for ROM & AD i knew liao...but they also want us to have a happy wedding life thats why try to avoid this n tat..
have to compromise.. no choice...like what u say...its abt them happy lo..
 
berry, for the rooster year thing, it's because newspaper say that this rooster year has no "li chun" or spring so will be considered as a blind year.... but not sure if u all believe in feng shui or not but i actually went to attend a workshop by lilian too and she says that this year is in fact one of the best year to get married cos it's a "tao hua" year.... no spring means difficult to get things started but once it has started, it's okay already and usually apply to businesses. hee i even record that down for my mum to listen. someone also told her that no good to get married but then in the end, this person himself also got married this year! haha... so i told her, it's all hearsay only lah...
janf, actually i worry what they will say cos hor, i told my FH that we will just settle things like drowy and pinjin ourselves since it's more or less confirmed as well as tables so it's just more like meet up and hi to each other and know who is who lor..... my mum sure say everything suibian but behind will tell me want this and that... sigh!
 
haha daphne! true true.. everytime my ma & FH's ma oso say 'chinchai jiuhao'.. but everytime come back sure got this-muz-hv,tat-cannot-do etc.. my FH oways laughed it off and cant understand why i fret over it.. well, men are such, i guess.. they tink its trivial matter but to me its TuaDaiJi.. somemore im living wif FMIL in future.. more jialat..
 
yalor... my MIL's sista told her say this year not good la bla blah...in the end the sista's son got married during July liao... farnie right???
alot of hear this say this... no choice... from the start when u wanna prepare AD muz also prepare for this consequence...its either u do all the way or dun do at all...so we oredi started...so muz follow all the way, thats what all elderlys say one >_<
 
Vela,
Known my HB thru work, that time we are with diff co, but due to work issues, sometimes gotta call to chk stuff. heheh boring, not as interesting as both u and HB
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:P now i tend to nag more as sometimes can't stand certain habits of HB :P Know quite bad...heheh
 
janf, same case as me lor.... and my FH is the simply bo chap one.... so i do get very fed up and sometimes i get so pissed that i ignore him totally.... cos he don't understand that it's very difficult for us esp when staying with MIL and we will be caught in between too.....
 
hee..... i think my aunt went thru a lot of this cos she got 4 sons and 1 daughter and most got married last year and this year.... her son got married in march this year and daughter in oct this year and so i think she went thru until numb already and she told my cousin, go simple will do to avoid all these Dos and Dont's.... regretted not listening to her.... haha....
 
hey pigger, mikmik, josl,
thanks a lot. really appreciate your suggestions. i will let them see your suggestions. it should work out. thanks again!
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josl,
thanks for the pompom. hehe. yah lor, yesterday when you msn me the war was on! sigh...
 
daphne

our FHs will not feel any diff in their lifestyles aft marriage coz they are perpetually STILL living wif their pama! and for us is we are living AWAY frm our pama..
 
I am also stresed by the fact that I am staying near with my IL instaed of my own parents, sigh, feel like crying every time i think of that. feel so apologetic towards them... this is one point why i wont look foward to wedding sigh...
 
hee.... winnie, i also don't really look forward to the big day leh.... in fact i'm wishing that time will pass slower.... don't know why but i hope i'm not getting cold feet now..... i really really don't look forward to staying with IL and am doing everything i can now to save and hope to get my own place in 2 years time..... and no ifs and buts for me....
 
yo dec... hahaha... how can anyhow said my grandpa name wrongly... hmm... maybe give them 3 mins to ans the question... if not sabo... kekeke

okie... will get ur ultra claming cleanser for u today
 
aiyo.... no need to be stressed so much.... for me, basically i bochup all the traditional things... i just told my mom to get whatever she wants written down, then i pass the list to my FH
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so all settled liao
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anything else they want, like long feng candles etc, ask my FMIL to get for us, we just pay... everything they say we nod our heads, then forget later
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my FH even told me "when in doubt, better dun let parents know" when we not sure if parents will disagree on a certain issue
i'm only interested in the fun things like selecting wedding gowns, bouquet, take PS
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hahahaha.... this is my wedding after all mah
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yo meh... ya lor ITS COMING.... wha mine will be 1 wk after u... OHHHHH NOOOOOO.... outsource hur... think i will go again this week to try again and see how lor... if not hv to pay $$ liao... sob sob

yo jtan... me 2 VIP table and each side parent 1 table lor... wow u so happy yday hur.... great dun be sian by the VIP table lah... tat one easy easy only table planning is hard lah...

yo wendy... cant use other projector leh... cos their bery pro one leh... not easy type one lor... i do it again this week lah.... juz pray hard it work will do....
 
Daphne, i get what you mean, thus after my ROM last year feb, i deliberately pick dec this year, thot far far away the best.... but turn out dec is here so fast again!!! i dont think i feel good leaving my parents behind. cos we are a very close knit family and i am only child. we had dinner every night if dad got no OT, watch tv together, and weekend we go breakfast, go buy organic vege, go shopping, sigh.......

i dont think i will have so much time for them liao, cos to be fair, we need to spend one weekday night with my parents, and one with his parents, then weekend is one day at my parents place and one day with his parents.....

then comes the reunion dinner which i dont know wat to do too...........

I know i am going to get real home sick....
 
aiyo Daphne..relaz relaz.**hugz hugz**.
stay focus on the positive &amp; happy side of the wedding and u will feel better. i'm sure your FH will be there for u .. esp since u have gone thru the marriage prep course.
think tis just a transition period.. once u get over it, everything will be ok liao. dun get so worried over things tat have not happen ( or might no even happen).. look on bright side ok..
'boat reach the bridge head, will naturally straighten'
 
haha... hamster_gal, i like your approach leh.... my FH is like u, when in doubt, don't ask parents cos more confusion so just go with feel but i more kiasu type, wanna ask and when answers not to my liking, i stressed..... and then FH stressed cos i stress him! haha....
 
hee watashi, actually the prep course i find didn't really help much or maybe my FH didn't really take it that seriously, to him, it's just something that i want so he just go thru the motions only..... :p
i think i'm like winnie lor cos i'm also the only child and i'm very close to my mum and i can't imagine the day i'm living so far away from her.... sometimes, just the tot is enough to bring tears to my eyes..... and maybe cos my place is always very noisy and lively with all my cousins around while FH place is only him and his mum and very quiet so i doubt i can get used to that..... in fact, i have not been to his place for the past 3 months and i don't feel guilty! that's very bad of me i think.
 
daphne..i also hardly go over to hubby's place. since dating days till now ROM more than 1 yr already, i also hardly go to his house. In fact, i only see my MIL 2-3 times a yr (new year &amp; her b'day). same as u, i used to big &amp; noisy family.
i have 5 other siblings + neices.. but his family is the quiet type.
nowadays, does feel abit guilty coz he's staying over at our new place very often and so sees my mum more often than he his own mother.
 
daphne - hugz.. sayang.. dun be too upset.. maybe it's a phase we all hv to go thru before our wedding becoz all the bimbotic stuff is done so more time to think abt all the implications.. for me, i think the marriage prep course helped a bit esp the personality analysis part coz my fh took it quite seriously (of coz some w a pinch of salt) and managed to help us think of some issues to tok abt.. most impt for the meet parents session is to actually already noe wat ur own parents want b4 gg.. also tell them tt NO CHANGES are to be made after the meet parents.. tt's wat we did.. so nw when his mother try to hint tt some san gu li po said certain things, we just pretend and say.. cannot change.. very mah fan.. hee
 
Hi Jtan,

I din know both parents must sit together.. i thought of otherwise.. cos a few wedding dinner i attended, all sit separately. so i thought that is the custom.. initially i thought how come sit separately where it involved both families..

now i see the picture.. will go back ask my parents regarding this.. tentatively VIP seating arrangement is also same as Jellytots.

Anyway, dun fret over this issue.. btw, if ur hubby is going to tell your PILs, do ensure the right tone, and right speech is used.. otherwise might turn out not the way you wanted.. like my hubby, not so sensitive, end out another meaning.. must save the situation when he does tat..

Best if you could discuss with your hubby first.. or if you can speak to them. no matter what, women are more sensitive in term usage of words.. whatever it is... dun spoil your happy mood.. be a happy bride
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Hi gals
Me manage to get online awhile.. in meeting room and wireless network her very very unstable.
I am really blur with the posts.. very fast

Hi Cu2nite
I got back my albums already last Sat. very nice and i love it alot.. Hee Hee

Hi WW
Glad u got your EG although the disappointment at Kai... At least something is settle
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Hi Mehmeh
Congrats to your coming wedding 1st.. incase, i do not have the chance to online again.
 
daphne - i tink they also no news.. maybe u can call and ask them.. coz by rite sd be one month after the workshop.. maybe they're busy w cases.. =)
 
I have not done anything after booking the BS. Any recommendation for caterer and photographer?
We will be doing a buffet at aloha chalet for friends and colleagues, need a caterer who is good with presentation and ideally economical
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hi gals
so many postings for today ah...

hi jtan
me having 2 VIP tables...one for my family and the other one for his family. We'll be sitting together with his family. I thot this is usually the norm?? Anyway, datz wad both families have been doing so prob itz just our norm bah. maybe can show them this forum to see wad others are doing?

hi wendy
good luck wif yr invites...dun fret okie...still got time...

hi zoeanne
u real busy these days...well, glad u love yr album...it was worth the trip!
 
Hi chillipadi,

I finally able to follow your steps to make roses!I will use them to do my wrist corsages first and let u see them ok? whereas for the artificial roses that I bought I will use them to decorate the reception table.
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How's your preparation?
 
Afternoon gals,

This thread is SO SO active!!!!
Miss chatting wif u gals... but nw i am very very blur &amp; lost to all your conversation......

daphne,
i hv same feeling like wat u hv nw....don't look forward to the big day, hope time will pass slower &amp; of all don't look forward to staying with IL....
worst thing... i got no choice but to stay with them
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My mum is also another prob.... she always said anything will do... in the end come out with this &amp; that.... tell her to consolidate all for me, she said she cant tik of anything... *headache*
 
hi JTan,
you're welcome.

hi Anne,
yah, that VIP arrangement of a bride's side and a groom's side is the traditional arrangement.
but nowadays we modern liao lah. also nicer to sit with our parents mah. initially i wanted only 1 VIP table but my mum says two will look nicer cos one on each side of the ballroom becos they all go and see the ballroom after food tasting and happens to have a wedding set up for the next day. so end up, both sides agreed to all immediate siblings sit on the 2nd VIP table lor. then hotel so cute, named the table as one bridal and one VIP. heehee. so i just take it as that lor.
 
watashi, saw your pics in friendster liao.... hey, i think we went to korea around same time leh..... cos hor i was also at yong pyong resort same date as you and those pp in red ski suit seems to be from my tour group cos we were all given red ski suits to wear..... haha.....
 
jelly, ai yo, AD soon still complaint har, no wonder u want to sabo him tough for gatecrashing...kekekeke. wOw, we can start counting down for you
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decimal, kekeke, gu gu bird can fly higher..kekekeke

sharlene, yuan fen to bring 2 together
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what type of bad habits har? hehehe..I think I got more bad habits than my hb=P I always pile up my stuff till happy then clear...kekekeke
 


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