Hi all, I'm in trouble with my working colleagues.. story begins..
I've a guy colleague who was of very good term with me & very sticky also. Initially i was quite ok but soon after his gf break off with him, he got even more sticky to me. Worse still he always like to have some body contact.. like touching your hands, head & walking very closly that will always hit U. I'm a girl & soon I lost my patience. i begin to feel that this friend of mine doesn't know his limit.
I've a very sensitive back & dun like people to touch it except my hubby. 1 day he walk pass me & use a pen to touch my back. My instant reaction is to ask him not to touch my back.. he said that he did not touch me.. it's the pen... i told him i have sensitive back & ask him to refrain from doing that again.. he repeated what he said, "I didn't touch your back, it's the pen!!"..He added,"anyway it's not your breast, what is there to be sensitive of!!" I was angry but i keep cool. Around 1 week later, we were both in the lift & his elbow hit my back again (He is much taller).. so I scream..this is my reflect action as I've sensitive back.. he say," I did not touch u, my hands are in my pocket!!" he commented that I should be born in the year of dog as I bark. Who in this world state that we can only touch with hands!!! I was very hurt & decided not to talk to him anymore other than work. Around 3 days later he sms me & ask me what m i angry about!! i refuse to tell him at first as i know he will not admit that he has fault & he never did since day 1 i know him.. he reproach that I did not tell him reason of my displease. As we were close friend, I decided to email him my feeling & hope that he will apologise... However he did not appologise & said that I accusing him for molesting me. My email only tells him to respect my body as I'm a girl.
He obviously think that he is not in the wrong.. at that point of time, i think that it's good that his gf leave him.. who can torlerate a man who never admit mistake & always throw temper at others.
We were in cold war for quite sometimes as i no longer think that he is worthy as a friend. Even at work, he always throw his temper at me & i just swallow it becoz i dun want to quarrel with him.
When my company's contract end & my new company is taking over the project.. 5 of us decided to join the new company. His attitude toward me was better.. we can even talk but i still keep a distance with him... So I thought this is good as in the new company.. we all can start afresh...
Everything start up nicely with new colleagues who are new to the project & i m very keen to guiding them. I'm a person that never hide my knowledge.. However i find it funny that my technical onsite team always double confirm with him when i told them anything & they always keep a distance with me.. Lately then i realise that he is bad mouthing me saying that I m incapable & lousy.. what I teach them is inaccurate. I'm not too sure what else did he said but nothing good. I'm very surprise as he has no rights to comment my work capability & people believe him.. For goodness sake, I'm always on good records but he got so many complain before for all the wrong thing that he has done. Only the new colleagues believe him (75% of us, all new)..
I'm gald that my direct working partner (8 of us) all think that i m good although they believe him at first also. Time tells as I taught them so many technical / soft skill.
Some1 is starting politic in my new environment. I hates politic.. girls any good suggestion of what should i do to protect myself? This guys is pushing his limit.
I've a guy colleague who was of very good term with me & very sticky also. Initially i was quite ok but soon after his gf break off with him, he got even more sticky to me. Worse still he always like to have some body contact.. like touching your hands, head & walking very closly that will always hit U. I'm a girl & soon I lost my patience. i begin to feel that this friend of mine doesn't know his limit.
I've a very sensitive back & dun like people to touch it except my hubby. 1 day he walk pass me & use a pen to touch my back. My instant reaction is to ask him not to touch my back.. he said that he did not touch me.. it's the pen... i told him i have sensitive back & ask him to refrain from doing that again.. he repeated what he said, "I didn't touch your back, it's the pen!!"..He added,"anyway it's not your breast, what is there to be sensitive of!!" I was angry but i keep cool. Around 1 week later, we were both in the lift & his elbow hit my back again (He is much taller).. so I scream..this is my reflect action as I've sensitive back.. he say," I did not touch u, my hands are in my pocket!!" he commented that I should be born in the year of dog as I bark. Who in this world state that we can only touch with hands!!! I was very hurt & decided not to talk to him anymore other than work. Around 3 days later he sms me & ask me what m i angry about!! i refuse to tell him at first as i know he will not admit that he has fault & he never did since day 1 i know him.. he reproach that I did not tell him reason of my displease. As we were close friend, I decided to email him my feeling & hope that he will apologise... However he did not appologise & said that I accusing him for molesting me. My email only tells him to respect my body as I'm a girl.
He obviously think that he is not in the wrong.. at that point of time, i think that it's good that his gf leave him.. who can torlerate a man who never admit mistake & always throw temper at others.
We were in cold war for quite sometimes as i no longer think that he is worthy as a friend. Even at work, he always throw his temper at me & i just swallow it becoz i dun want to quarrel with him.
When my company's contract end & my new company is taking over the project.. 5 of us decided to join the new company. His attitude toward me was better.. we can even talk but i still keep a distance with him... So I thought this is good as in the new company.. we all can start afresh...
Everything start up nicely with new colleagues who are new to the project & i m very keen to guiding them. I'm a person that never hide my knowledge.. However i find it funny that my technical onsite team always double confirm with him when i told them anything & they always keep a distance with me.. Lately then i realise that he is bad mouthing me saying that I m incapable & lousy.. what I teach them is inaccurate. I'm not too sure what else did he said but nothing good. I'm very surprise as he has no rights to comment my work capability & people believe him.. For goodness sake, I'm always on good records but he got so many complain before for all the wrong thing that he has done. Only the new colleagues believe him (75% of us, all new)..
I'm gald that my direct working partner (8 of us) all think that i m good although they believe him at first also. Time tells as I taught them so many technical / soft skill.
Some1 is starting politic in my new environment. I hates politic.. girls any good suggestion of what should i do to protect myself? This guys is pushing his limit.
