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Borne out of experience :p

If I am not wrong, you're the non-confrontational type and prefer to keep things buttoned-up rather than to tell him upfront the very second issues arise. Dissonance builds with time. Maybe you should learn to seize the bull by the horns. Message for guys - girls don't explode for no reason...

That's where he is wrong, I know some in the 40's and 50's who've gotten wind in their sails .... but I digress. Tell him in no uncertain terms that he is complacent in the relationship and if nothing is done then indifference towards each other will set in. He should also know and count his...

Tell him that if he doesn't buck up, you're likely to cheat on him if someone comes along and validates you and showers you with attention.

You recognize this as a problem but it appears he does not. You internalize your unhappiness but maybe you need to have a HTH talk with him about it? Lay some ground rules about not disrespecting the other person by fiddling with phones especially out on dates. He doesn't realise that it is...

Sounds like a rut you guys got yourselves in. Routine sets in and the relationship just doesn't feel fresh anymore right? Before that spirals into indifference (which is the death knell of any relationship), here is a window of opportunity to nip the problem in the bud. Jiayou! Take him out...

Lol ... that does sound like me ... staid and fixated with the road well travelled .... but you married him and he hasn't changed from day one right?

Ahh .... and what has been his response so far? He's adamant to move on?

Yeah but imagine the good it would do if you were to give $10 or $20 a week to her... she'll think - "woah .... my man wants to take care of me" ... or tell her frens that she receives an allowance from hubby.... she'll walk like floating on air ..

Why's that? ie. him disregarding your POV? Does he talk over you and doesn't practice "reflective listening"? Is he a highly opinionated and stubborn person?

Sorry, that's a huge wall of text but what was the root cause of your frustration again?

Even if he gives $50, the wifey will also feel song song gao Jurong ;) .... women seek validation and feels validated in so many ways. Finding the love language that works with your spouse is the key. It is not the amount but what it symbolizes to her...

It does sound like you're looking for an excuse and a way out of the relationship. The BTO deposit is a small price to pay over settling into a relationship that neither of you are willing to work at.

If I have a chio RM with cup-C boobs from Citibank and I watsapp her at all hours of the day without buying any investment products - do you think my wifey should rightly be concerned? Her name is Michelle but I saved her contact as Michael on my phone. PS: Can you handle the truth? Else...

Poor baby .... :(

Your wife is a free-spirit. There is no tying-down one as such. Time to let her go and set yourself free

Must do stock-take frequently too ...

Acceptance is key. Not compromise. ohmytoufu... mountain vege.... mountain vege... *tok tok tok tok tok*

TLDR, but it sure sounds like a booty call to me ... :rolleyes:

@yinchu - sunk cost fallacy.... don't fall into the trap