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On housing - conflating housing and marriage which should really be 2 separate issues. May the truth set you free ....

Please no pictures .. :eek:

It is a big deal, else you wouldn't be upset about it. And he shouldn't trivialize it since it is important to you. No proposal, no marriage...

I thought buying the HDB is the "proposal" liao .... :p But in all seriousness, he's either super dense or doesn't care enough for your feelings if he doesn't take action after your prompting twice for a proposal. It does sound like you're more invested in this relationship than he is. Is...

For babies, try artificial insemination? Once they come along, she'll have no time to even think about sex .... you'd solve half your problem ...

He could either be asexual or a closet gay. Either way it is the end of your sex life ... If this situation is untenable then seeking an annulment might be the way forward as @newproject has suggested. What is holding you back from taking this course of action?

I think divorce and let her start her life anew. I'd agree that you are heartless and selfish to have gone into this matrimonial union And you do realise that you have damaged her psychologically right?

At this juncture i'm having a WTF moment .... maybe the photo was taken at an unflattering angle bah?

For sure she don't make me feeling automatic :confused:

You mean the hubby threatened to divorce her but she's unsure if he would actually carry out the threat? What triggered him?

Ohmytoufu .... mountain vege .... mountain vege .... *tok tok tok tok tok* Acceptance is key .... not compromise ....

Your last bit of advice applies to anyone hoping to change a gambler, womanizer, alcoholic, serial liar by marrying them. Anyone should already know and do their own due diligence before signing on a marriage contract. Your husband did not change but your expectations did.

I would encourage you to talk to your spouse. Avoidance > stonewalling > Indifference > resentment > hate You can express how you feel deep inside. Mentally entertaining wishing those thoughts does not a murderer make but if you hatch a plan ...... Marriage is never a bed of roses, it...

Don't mind my saying so but that looks like a guy ... :oops:

Indulge me a little and let's just say you compromise on this. How long can you hold up your side of the deal before hell breaks loose? Fundamentally did your husband change after marriage? Was he not always close to his mom?

Wise. Don't compound a problem with another problem.

Ok. Since you have accepted that. All the best.

That's a tough one. I think the choice for your hubby is whether he wants the marriage to work or not. Having the MIL staying there is not helping matters. He's the only son? No other siblings who can take her in?

I feel you ....not all MILs are nice to their DILs. You'll always be seen as the "competition" to their sons. I'd assume that your hubby asked you first before agreeing to let your MIL stay in your home right? It'll be tough on him to take sides but at some point only he can make a stand on...

I doubt anyone has ever got the approval from CPF to use their CPF monies to pay for a flat that is not in their name.