Recent content by white_open_water

She had me blinded.... Long answer short, you will never know, not for sure and not for a lifetime anyway. Many marriages persevered even after both parties had doubts. Some broke down when only one side gave up. May I ask what is the main objective of your questions? To determine if you have...

I guess if it's not too extravagant looking, it should be fine and not coming off as a show off?

I concur with most if not all the posts from the peeps here. It's really heartening to see quite unanimous voices, not siding but neutral, rational, supportive and thinking long term. @missyting I can totally fit myself into your bf's shoes now. I will then shutdown totally because, on the...

You asked if he was sincere about you, and you related his answer to his opinions and reactions to the wedding date arrangements. I feel he could have manage his reply and behaviour in a more constructive way, but I reckon you do know it is not an easy pill for him to swallow. He probably...

@Cyndyblue, very composed and rational actions you took. As a guy, I feel if guilt is the only reason for not doing it again, it's a leash waiting to be snapped. I hope he can find other motivation or have a more wholesome mindset to deal with it. Anyway, I hope the test comes out negative. I...

Perhaps you can describe in more details the situations you are facing. I don't think we ever know if an addict can be completely "cured", but I believe many are coping well enough to lead a normal life with the family.

If it is overdone and causing disruption to the spouse's livelihood and well being, then it is a symptom of addiction.

@Katejake , looks like things are turning for the better. All the best :)

Could be both, could be neither or in between. Reading this thread for the first time today. I couldn't help but wonder, most if not all the things you mentioned about him and your feelings were negative, why carry on? I am sure there are good things that made you feel remotely hopeful to wait...

Hi Darren8812, Based on my experience with my spouse, what you have described are not giving me any more clue than tossing a coin. I felt you had done a "pros and cons" list of both ladies, and to a point of fine balance. My opinion is that you don't have to choose or made a decision now. If...