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It's important to know who you are before committing yourself to a relationship. So when circumstances change, be it your partner or the environment, at least you know how to take charge of your happiness to give yourself the life you deserve. At the end of the day, you answer to your own...

That is such an apt quote. Thank you for sharing - I learned something today :)

I will feel terrible if I was living in your shoes... That's why I always demand family time. I suppose it helps to start when your kids are young so it becomes a core part of your family culture to spend time together at least once a week! If my hubby works like crazy until he's 70 and doesn't...

There will always be something missing in any relationship. I feel the point is to know how to accept these shortcomings and grow together as a couple.... and not look to satisfy your "missing" factors by looking elsewhere.

Have you ever had the opportunity to meet her boss before? If not, maybe you should try to drop by her office to pick her up sometimes. That way you can get a better reading of who he is like as a person...

Don't be too harsh on yourself! We all have our moments of folly :)

A guy who doesn't keep to his word should always ring your alarm bell. I think reliability is a trait we don't prioritise enough in our relationships. People who are reliable are the ones who're the real keepers. If he doesn't stick to his promise, or doesn't give you a good explanation why he...

If only marriage is simply about two people being in love. But there's always the context in which the love takes place. The environment is important too. I suppose that's why it's important to recognise that we don't have full control of our love lives, and to understand how to live and let live..

So well said.

Hahaha... some people also break up after staying together for 7 years, for no good reason. Who is to say if having second thoughts is normal. If it won't happen now, it may happen 5 years into the marriage. Best to ask yourself why you are feeling this way and try to address the issues at hand

I think it is definitely an uncommon practice to live apart, but I have heard of such cases before. But I would hate living with my in-laws even more, so I'd rather put up with living separately. Haiz.. in SG, your entire relationship must be planned around getting a flat. If can't secure a...

Hahaha, maybe it's the circle I hang out with. Many of them are kids lovers. And no matter what, I feel people react more negatively towards women who say they don't want kids, as compared to men who say they don't want kids. Maybe it's just me.

Congratulations. That is very good to hear. I am sure you are an amazing and self-reflecting parent and will continue to be. :)

Don't overthink it. It's your wedding, and most important is that you're with the person you love surrounded by people who support you!

Hi soulless... I don't usually like to comment on people's relationships because I don't think it's fair to say anything without hearing the other side... but for your reference, I found that this article really helped put things into perspective, and I hope it does the same for you...